Here is a photograph taken yesterday from the photo shoot I did in our house. ? I really love dressing up and being dolled up, it makes me feel great and confident of who I am ?
I was actually hesitant to post these pictures of mine. My sister eveb asked me to change my Facebook Profile Picture and it took me hours to decide if I should. But, I realized that this is me, the real me. I should be confident of my body and of who I really am.
At the end of the day, I dress up not for other people but for myself ? To all the ladies out there and even gentlemen who are taking a second to think if they should post their pictures, worried about what will others say their body, remember that we just need to be just ourselves. Be confident and let us support each other ? Let us be friends! IG: @romynaaaaaaa_
Yes, I am a woman! I have many imperfections and flaws but it doesn't mean I cannot do my best to be better.
Yes, I am a woman! I have acne on my face, on my back, and shoulder but it doesn't mean I'm less attractive.
Yes, I am a woman! I have strecth marks but it doesn't mean I cannot show my skin and be proud of it.
Yes, I am a woman! I can be skinny, fat, voluptous or petite. But it doesn't mean you can shame me because of my body.
Yes, I am a woman! My skin can be white as snow, tanned in the sun, brown like the color of my eyes but it doesn't mean I cannot be proud of my skin tone.
Yes, I am a woman! I can have curly, straight or wavy hair but it doesn't mean you can bully me for having a unique hair.
Yes, I am a woman! I can put make-up on my face; red lipstick, thick eyeliner, smoky eyeshadow or putting nothing at all but it doesn't mean you can judge me by that.
Yes, I a woman! I can wear whatever I want; mini skirts, shorts, crop tops or swimsuit but it doesn't mean we're doing that for men.
Yes, I am a woman! Virgin or not! It doesn't mean you can call me a slut or anything you want.
Yes, I am a woman! I can be sporty, nerdy, adventurous, workaholic, independent and do some men's work but it doesn't mean you can treat us differently.
Yes, I am a woman! We deserve to be respected and loved by everyone despite of our differences.
She lost the most important people in her life...
She never saw her father's sweetest smile while singing her a lullaby just to fall asleep in his arms. She was never given a chance to say her goodbye to her caring and loving mother. She was betrayed by her friends despite of being kind to them. She was accused of saying ugly words towards them even though she was the real victim.
She was abused because of her kindness. She was been hated because of her victories in life. She was been devastated from all the pain. The wounds leave scars in her heart forever. She was been frustrated from all the things. She was afraid to take another step. Afraid to take risk again. Afraid to trust people again. Afraid her heart will be shattered into pieces again.
However, she learned how to endure the pain even though it crushed her soul. She learned how to be independent and help other people who experienced the same thing. She learned to choose her friends wisely-those friends who will celebrate the victories in her life and support everything she will do. Friends that will never leave her side no matter how bad the situation is. Friends that will love her the way she is. She learned how to forgive people whom she loved the most and learned how to let go of them. Not minding the pain it will cause to her, the sleepness nights, the never-ending cries and sobs wishing it will be gone as fast as possible.
And most importantly, she learned how to love herself more this time. She learned to choose her own happiness this time. Her mistakes and weaknesses mold her to become a strong woman... A woman filled with compassion, strength, kindness and love.
STANDARDS FROM IMPERFECTIONS
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Practice to know yourself rather than change yourself. Some may define themself imperfect by setting up their standards high enough for them to make themselves ugly or disgusting. But the thing is, how can we be perfect if we can't accept imperfections, ourselves?
Nowadays, Korean, Thai, and Asian Drama hit up trends to our country, and most of the netizens dream up to meet one of these actors and actresses to the point where they set their beauty standards based on what they see in drama series. We see it coming to ourselves, setting our standards high, and take time not to be attentive enough to our growing imperfections. People, as time goes by, tend to dislike what their fellow countrymen look like, they more on like finding beauties beyond their standards. But hey!!! Did you realize how you'll manage to get one if you rejected yourself your true beauty and denies your imperfections? Accepting the facts is more doubtful than denying the truth.
It is easy to deny these imperfections rather than accepting it because some may be good at hiding it, no doubt. The question is, how can we accept those imperfections on our own? That is the big question to myself these past few days. I've made up my mind not to show my imperfections, and pretend to be a perfect one, but there are no secrets that we can hide. I acted as I do belong to this group and pretended to be as smart as they are, but it turns out, I'm totally different as I expected. I started to lower my self-confidence, lost my self-esteem, and felt that my anxieties have grown. I do look like a fatty old man for my age, trying hard linguistic and a happy go lucky pretender. I used to be someone's shoulder to cry on, and friend in need, but everything change when I finally challenged myself to hide my imperfections.
Timepass by, I challenged myself to accept all of these imperfections. I have acne, imperfect tooth arrangements, fatty body, not so perfect nose, and simple knowledge about anything. I set my standards for myself as high as the others, for a relationship, education, and even my looks. I tried to copy the trending outmost looks and even their behavior, but it just made me not myself anymore. The fact that I realized everything is when I started to doubt my self to be more likable and attentive like before. Then everything was clear to me, I set my standards high, even if I had a lot of imperfections that can't meet my standards alone.
Finally, I realized that if I am truly worthy, why do I need to make standards for my sake if I can make myself as my standards alone. Standards from my imperfections. So you who's reading this, I hope you first foresee what's the good in you and define your imperfections. Live with your imperfections as your motivation for the next generation of yourself. Maybe youré unlucky to have a truly gorgeous and handsome beauty, but I know you can grow farther as you expected by your imperfection. Just so you know, Imperfections makes you Unique. No one can define you by your imperfections. Let your imperfections define who's really into you because True Beauty is in the Eyes of a Sincere Beholder. #LoveYourImperfections
If you're still single now, there are probably a a lot of questions running in your head. But being on your own for a long time helps you discover more about yourself. It's more than just freedom or independence. It's facing the world with so much courage. It's trying to make the most of your life without having to depend on someone. It's being happy on your own and loving yourself with all that you are.
We've been chasing love only to realize that it's not gonna work out that way. The right time will come that you will be blessed with the one you deserve. The one who also prayed to be with you. The one who will make you believe in love again. Let life surprise you. Hang in there.
Ways on How to STOP Being too Hard on your Self
We can't pour from an empty cup, likewise, we can't offer others what we do not have. It is important that we prioritize ourselves first in order for us to share what we have to others. Thus, we need to bring back the lost energy that we have invested on overthinking and proving ourselves to others. Relive those energy to focus more on being the best version of yourself by trying new skills or hobbies or maybe getting out of your comfort zone. Empower yourself and believe that you can do better. Here's a video that may help out regarding this topic.
Today's video is all about SELF LOVE!!! 20 Practical mindset shifts, lessons and tips to be able to help you guys towards the path of self love!!! I know its different for all of us and that it is quite difficult to even love ourselves but if you clicked on this video you really want to achieve that! So I hope that you guys loved this video and learned something new to apply to your own life. The bible quotes that were from the video were from my devotionals from my journal that I felt just spoke to me when making this video and really related with it!
"..you are always strong and silent that people forget you are suffering too."
To be honest, I don't really know how you can deal with everything that's happening to you especially when you are the "go to" person of everyone. How do you handle those things, do u have a superpower? You are the person who is always there when someone is in a rough day. You are always there to listen on their unending rants. You are there to make them smile with your corny and witty jokes. You are there when someone wants a shoulder to cry on.
It makes me wonder, who is there when you need help? I worry that people might take you for granted. People might abuse your kindness, and worst is they might hurt you emotionally. But then, you still smile. You don't care what may happen, you still have the energetic face and strong aura to face them. It makes me think, why are you doing this? Did someone hurt you in the past that you don't want others to feel it? What are the reason behind that strong aura that you always show to people? I know you won't spill it, but let me tell you this.
Sometimes, you don't always have to be there to everyone. You don't need to always answer their calls or reply to their messages. You don't have to be generous all the time because to tell you frankly, your kindness might break you. People might walk over you. I want to telll you that not all people are precious like you who always forgive and forget. You aren't required to be there always. You also need to leave a room for yourself. Kindness is good but if peole are already taking you for granted, you need to stop and leave. Take a break.
People won't call you selfish if you prioritize yourself. Learn to love yourself first because no one will help you in that battle, it is just you and you. Again, it is okay to feel vulnerable. It is okay not to be there 24/7. It is okay not be with them always. Take a time for yourself. Take a break from this chaotic world and just listen to your favorite song or read a good book...because trust me, you need this... For you are always strong and silent that people forget you are suffering too.
OVERCOMING OVERTHINKING: In the Search for the Intangible Three
“You’ll never know the feeling of drowning unless you experience it yourself.” Let’s admit it. We all have dark hours. When our thoughts go wild and haunt us into uncertainty with every second making us ponder over “what if’s” and “what could have been’s”. It is a phase where we can’t scream for help and can’t seem to stand firmly from the quicksand of doubts. The demons within whispers into our ears, casting curses of insecurities, doubts and fears until it becomes our lullabies. The way we live and mingle with our friends and family, everything get affected. It’s like we weren’t given a chance to be happy. We become irrational to the point where what we think affects what we do. We hunger to be free from the chains that keeps on dragging us down to the inferno of mischief in our minds. An internal battle where fear shackles reality and we helplessly become vulnerable prisoners of our barren thoughts. We analyze beyond things and dive into the sea of impossibilities – until we apparently drown and lose.
But not all overthinkers lets their guard down and get defeated by their internal horror. Some still manage to get revive from drowning. They realize that the cure can be found- and it lies within ourselves. An eye for an eye. A tooth for a tooth. And a heart over an idea. Instead of being paranoid, why not oppose these unhealthy thoughts? In fact, you are in control of your mind and the key to get rid of your nightmares lies between the heart and brain. You need to understand yourself first to know what the main problem is. You overthink mainly because you think you are incomplete. You forget the three concepts that will rid your lackness and incapabilities. It is the intangible gift of trust, love and faith.
TRUST You tend to overthink because you let your doubts take over something, someone and even yourself. It’s where your trust is being deprived and neglected and you end up being unaware of it. You easily get sensitive over something and secrete negative emotions that get the best of your well being. How to Gain Trust? Entitling trust to anybody is not easy. It encompasses a complicated process of accepting risks and gambling with what the future might turn into; “self-trust” is the very first step. You need to believe in your capabilities and what you can do beyond what anyone expects. Value yourself. And trust me, as you break your wall and assess people critically, your intuition will tell you who you can trust whole heartedly and who to avoid.
FAITH You focus too much on your greeds and possessions. To have all the worldly possesions, to have the latest gadgets or to become someone powerful and influencial but each day turns out to be a chain of the same routine: wake up each morning and make your dreams and fantasies into reality and go to sleep at night dreaming more and more. You want attention in an instant way. You want everything that comes across your mind to be in the palm of your hands in just a snap that you forget about the idea of God’s perfect plans and His process. You become so preoccupied by the material things and titles that you want to possess – until you get drained. Your mind will still be stuck with the ideas you continuously feed yourself. Your mind no longer creates inspirations, but instead create insecurities. These unhealthy thoughts will dim your vision. Your perspective becomes clouded and the only thing that seems clear is hopelessness. It will intoxicate you – little by little. How to Gain Faith? Dreaming is not bad at all, in fact it serves as our motivation in studying or working hard to be able to meet these. What we need to keep in mind that there is a process, and the bigger the dream, the harder the process. Going to churches and attend masses is not the only way to strengthen your faith. It can also be done at home. You can still revive and keep the fire burning inside yourself. Always be reminded that you are not alone. Not having someone on your side during your darkest hour doesn’t mean no one loves you and nobody would like to extend their hand to you. Challenges in life isn’t solved by“teamwork”. Many of it are meant to be done by ourselves to hone our independence. Self-reflection is beneficial in strengthening faith. Open your heart and cease the moment. Be open and accept failures and try to look at it as life lessons God wants us to learn. We need to carry our own cross. Breathe. Inhale your aspirations, get fueled by that scorching eagerness in your heart. Let your life be driven with passion and entrust Him with everything. Try to read bible verses and you will realize how God Almighty truly loves you. He talks to us through different forms, He always saves us, and He is not dead. He lives inside our hearts, waiting for us to come back to Him.
SELF-LOVE Love is not only the affection between two matters inhibited with a soul, it is transformational. It comes in various yet mysterious ways. It is undefinable. It is a complex feeling that everyone yearns for. And as we welcome the era of modernism, we also see the world with standards and setting finish lines. “We do because we want to” over “we do because we love to” has become extremely evident in our time. Among all the kinds of love, its ironic how self-love is one of the hardest ones to find. You try to fill the emptiness within with inappropriate thoughts but can’t match what pure self-love could be. It messes your mind and haunts you each day. We are complex beings and we always complicate things- but we end up forgetting our essence.
How to Gain Self-love? Self-care is a partial requirement to attain successful self-love. Learn to express how you feel with freedom without crossing its boundaries. Get to know more with who you really are and discover more about yourself. Do not let yourself be confined with the standards of society. Free yourself from judgments and get to know your perception without being influenced by other’s way of thinking. Do what your heart tells you to do. Do what makes you happy. Do without hesitations. Just be yourself. Know your self-worth; accept your flaws and imperfections while celebrating your strengths and filling your heart and mind with gladness. You are not a leftover or a trash but rather, you are a beautiful God-made gift. Always remember that. These three missing intangibles are the powerful gems hiding inside us. Though as we lose it, it is not that easy to put it back to where it once was. Overcoming overthinking isn’t an easy process. It is a fight within ourselves. It is a trial beyond what our eyes can see and what our hands can touch. Have a regular check up with yourself and see if you are emotionally healthy. It is something that we should take care of before we lose the game called life and get tricked by our wild thoughts. Remember that as we dig deeper through uncertainties, we also dig the pits where our thoughts will bury us into.
THERE IS HOPE IN TOMORROW
You pull your phone to your face and look at the digital clock. It says get up, but your body tells it it's still too early. You would rather let your bedsheets devour you into slumber and never wake up. Your muscles are dumbells, weighing you down into the mattress. Have you ever felt something like this before? If not you, have you ever know somebody who has ever told you this feeling? Have you ever tasted your meal but felt like you have bitten into cardboard? Have you ever felt like the tv show you're watching or the video game you're playing starting to look lackluster? Have you ever looked back into an old memory at the back of your brain and wondered, "Why can't I be as happy as that boy, that girl, that person?"
We bear the weight of our struggles and face our demons every day. We look at the mirror and ask, "Why am I not beautiful? Why am I fat, why am I too skinny, why do I have pimples or blemishes?" We look back and remember the times we were hurt, or the times we hurt someone. Or we face traumas that we try to bury deep into the back of our minds in hopes to somehow delete the memory for good. Whatever we face, whatever hardships our brain chooses to dwell on, and whatever time, be it during this day, or for the past year, it's alright. Your pain is valid. To anyone whose heart has been torn, whose self-esteem has been shattered by impossible standards, and to anyone whose tears had been shed countless of times that it had stained their pillow. There is hope in tomorrow.
The minute your eyes opened, that is already a victory. You conquered the night, safe and sound in your blanket and sleep. You are a fighter and you will be safe, you will be fine. You are safe. You are fine. And you are going to find happiness. In a world of ever-changing landscapes, you will find a day where you will shine brighter than the morning star, and you will find the happiness that you deserve. It takes time, and it takes willpower, but know you are not alone. You can be that person in your memory who is happy. The only thing you need to remember is that there is a tomorrow. So the next time you wake up, observe. Look around your bed. Be thankful that you are once more alive. Breathe in and out until you are as light as a feather. And finally, take one step out of your bed.
Because I'm loud and always smiling, they always thought I'm always happy but little do they know that my confidence is slowly shattering. It feels like resting in a dark and silent room with nowhere to go. If there's one thing I'd like to thank for - it's my resilience. Bouncing and slowly picking up the confidence that I lost. It's always like that and should always be.
Face It With Fierce
Take the risk or you lose the chance? I am afraid of fear. Fear of rejections and fear of taking risks. This fear always terrifies me. Often times, I choose to block opportunities. Yes, negative thoughts swallow me every time without me realizing I am missing many opportunities. Oh! no, I am missing a lot of rejections. Rejections that we all know will make us a better person. Rejections that will make us realize that we can do more and we can do better.
I lost chances because I was afraid of taking the risks and grabbing all opportunities. It feels like I am stranded on the same plate with no progression. For me, all those things are not just a piece of cake. I am so sick of being like this, being afraid and weak. I want to face my battle and prove to my self that I can give, I can do more. I try to look at my reflection and says, "You are more than what you see in the mirror, more of you that no one else could never hold on to it. You are more than what you think you are."
Time passes, I learned how to stand on my own, give what I can give, share what do I have and open the door when opportunity knocks. It's fun doing what you love, taking risks without any hesitations and doubts. Embrace the opportunities and seize the moment. If challenges are trying to approach and things get rough, dive in! it's normal.
Life is a matter of ups and downs. When you succeed, smile. When you are rejected and failed, cry and try again. They say, we will never enjoy the feeling of success if we don't experience failure. We dont know what the future may bring but we are free to believe. Dream big its free. Life is full of trials, yet I am full of hopes and dreams. I used to be afraid of my own fears but not anymore. Always face your fear with fierce.
I've been investing in arts, photography, and writing. I've also got back to reading the other day and I finished reading this amazing book entitled 300 Things I Hope by Iain S. Thomas. It is all about the things the author hopes his readers to do in all aspects of life. So, I decided to make a version of it with all of the things I'm hoping for.
I hope I get to see my friends be successful in life. I hope to make a big mural someday. I hope to be a well-known artist like the artists I look up to. I hope to marry the person I am in love with today. I hope to be a little kinder to myself. I hope to see happiness even in the smallest things. I hope to travel the world. I hope to be a good mother and a wife to my future family. I hope to have my artworks displayed in a gallery or an exhibit. I hope to learn more about creative writing. I hope I won't learn how to get tired and give up my passion. I hope I won't get too hard on myself whenever I don't get the results I've been wanting to see in my works. I hope to love myself more even on the days I hate it the most. I hope to lead and empower women; to be their voice and for them to believe in themselves that they can be the woman they look up to. And when I've reached my limit of these things, I hope I won't get tired of reminding myself that my emotions don't make me weak, hence, makes me stronger. These are some of the things I always hope for. What about you? What are you hoping for?
I started fixing myself this quarantine. I mean, I started trying makeup products. As a teen, I'm on my phone almost every hour of the day, scroll on my social media accounts, especially Instagram, and also Pinterest where you get to see nice and pleasing photography by bunch of amazing and beautiful people from different parts of the world. So I started taking my own as well. I did not know that taking your own photo and try to get an Instagramable one is sooooooooo hard, it's exhausting. I do not have alot of space in my room, and I would definitely not do it outside our house because of Corona Virus, and I don't want to be seen by our neighbors HAHA so I have no choice but to make tiis inside my room.
Out of atleast 25 shots, only 2 are a nice picture. While I'm all sweaty and tired, I am proud of what I could do beyond my comfort zone. And this definitely built my self confidence, (and I secret love the compliments I received from both people I know and don't know) It's not my first time visiting in here, Candy! But I'm new to writing my thoughts and experiences, so bare with me HAHA.
Until next time!
First. Pixie dust and paper cuts – these are the first things Wendy knew about Peter Pan. Aurora first met Prince Philip when she was sixteen. Learning how to ride a bike was also a first while I was growing up, but you are probably the first of too many. The first collection of dust and stars; maybe Luna will try to ask, who was your first? I might answer and tell her that it was you.
The first of too many stars in the sky. You are the first of too many fallen leaves during fall – and you will be the most anticipated snowflake as winter comes. A dark path that you can’t see without any light, hence, you were once the moon and there are the stars that shine so bright at night. Are we too early? Or we just really want to be ahead of time? Even in a glimpse, I would like to see the two of us connect as if we can reach the sky. There are other parts of the heavens you have never saw and other oceans you haven’t laid your feet onto – but the constellations will always wait for you. Close your eyes, love, close your eyes. Start counting backward: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Count backward until you see the twinkling lights that will guide you to the right path. To the right satellite; to the right person. A first.
There are many firsts – first love, first heartbreak, first sport you played, the first thing you do in the morning, the first thing you remember about the person in front of you. There are a lot. It’s actually up to us how we will consider something as a first. So, Primo, you are already a first of too many.