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Every day—not just every year—is a new chance to get better.
Most New Years start high and hopeful, with us thinking that we’d be accomplishing every goal we had in mind. But almost every year, somewhere along the way, you start to feel down because you sense that you haven’t done ~everything~ to ...
 
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Your dating status is not an indication of your worth.
For years, until now, you've been doing everything to be present in the dating scene and making yourself available in every possible way-through numerous dating apps, reto from friends (and even from your mom, your MOM!), meeting new people at parties, and ...
 
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Dream high and fly high, take the risk and take chances this 2017!
Another year has started and now, we all have our brand new beginnings! This year, let us all reach for our goals and take risks. Yes, I know that sounds cliche but taking a risk is one of the hardest things to do, ...
 
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You turned my optimism into pessimism.
2016, you've been the toughest year for me. I can say that you've been a rollercoaster ride, that left a mark, and I assure you that I won't forget. You've brought me to a point where I asked myself if I'm still the ...
 
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And what to do to change it.
Let's all be real for a second here. How many times have we wanted to accomplish something, and ended up not accomplishing anything? Whether it be goals to achieve a certain weight, get a certain grade, and much more, we need to ...
 
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Be thankful to 2016.
Thank you, 2016.Thank you for the disappointments, issues, stressful moments, and heartbreaks I have been through. Thank you for letting me experience those things that I can learn from and for letting me realize the mistakes that I should not repeat again. Thank you for ...
 
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If you keep looking back on 2016 and all the things (good or bad) that happened to you, you won't be able to fully live this year.
A new year is here, Candy Girls. That means you get 365 chances and 365 new pages to write on. But here's the thing, if you keep looking back on 2016 and all the things (good or bad) that happened to you, you won't ...
 
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Because we can almost see the end of 2016!
The end of 2016 is almost here! It's been a good year and we can't help but feel grateful. But we're also thankful because there were moments this year when we almost found ourselves giving up because of everything that's happening around ...
 
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What you need on your list of resolutions.
A notebook will serve as an outlet to jot down what's on your mind and help you reflect but as simple as that seems, it can be left untouched after some time. Start a daily entry to record your inspirations, dreams or ...
 
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You go, girl!
While celebrating New Year's Day, we encourage you, our dear Candy Girls, to dream new dreams and make them happen this 2017. Or if they're really big dreams, we encourage you to start working on them next year! We believe you can do it ...
 
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Get started on the new things already!
Yes, you read that right. Why not start early on your New Year's resolutions so that there's a legit new year and new you when 2017 rolls in?Rest should be a priority. Wondering why you're always tired during the day and why ...
 
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Things you should consider before saying goodbye to your “old” self.
Every year is an opportunity to change. It's a cliche but the beginning of the year is the perfect time to start anew. You're not the same girl that you were when the past year ended. In fact, you're not even the ...
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Serene Fae 2 days ago

"The paradoxical idea of attaining a happier life and how to withstand these beliefs."

The Revolting Truth About Happiness by Theserenefae

If people ask you about your vision of a happier life we automatically envision ourselves having more money, true love, a better job, Instagram-worthy vacations, etc. But let me break this to you this, According to Dr. Laurie Santos, Professor of Psychology at Yale University and the voice behind The Happiness Lab podcast, "Most of the goals we think would make us happy do not really make us happy." And why is that? Simple, being happy is all in our minds. The human mind ploys us with these lenses on how we envision ourselves and our lives to be happy. The perception of "having" or "gaining" is the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. So how can we really be "happy"?

• Seek happiness inside you. This is a quintessential reason for our vision of happiness: misconceptions about having a lot of money would make me happy; owning this and that would make me happy; entering a relationship would make me happy. This is not the case, if you want to be truly happy with your relationship, you have to be already happy on your own. If you want satisfaction from others, you have to be satisfied with yourself. And so on.

• Fill that hole righteously We all have that tiny hole inside our hearts, tampering it with temporary band-aids. Fill this hole with purpose. Have you ever heard about The Three "M's"— Master, Mission, and Mate? Define who will be your Master, is it God? If that's so, your Mission could be following his words and will. Mate would be the last for they will be the best companion to fulfill your mission. Now hear me out, it is important to do this accordingly. We often times jumble it or invert it which can lead to failures.

• Give gifts to others. The wonderful grace in giving. There’s nothing like the rush of pure joy when you get a chance to give. However, this may not be something that we're used to. But apparently, openhandedness is our soul's true shape. As Eugene Peterson put it, "Giving is what we do best. It is the air into which we were born." This doesn't necessarily mean we have to give away our stuff but we can also present love, kindness, gratefulness, etc. in our own simplest ways to anyone such as giving time, encouragement, helping hand, or even forgiveness. Try giving and you'll receive inconceivable gifts in return.

• Savor moments. Savoring deeply intensifies our positive emotions while doing something that we love the most by simply stepping outside of the experience to review and appreciate the moment. You can practice this by having a delicious meal, reading a good book, or any activity that you enjoy and love. It can also be enhanced by sharing these experiences with others, appreciating such amazing moments, or staying present the entire time.

• Choose to Love Deeper Today's society relentlessly pressures all of us to have this "perfect" lifestyle such as pursuing careers that drain you, finding value through virtual world and purchases, letting achievements become your whole identity, and yet after all that you still feel empty and failure inside. Consumption is just skin deep—a shallow perception of happiness. Deep life brings the best out of us and others. It is about nourishing what you already have, focusing on the relationships than material wealth, becoming vulnerable at times, and being self-aware.

• Understand that Sufferings and Pain are part of Human Being. Always remember that loneliness and sufferings are inevitable. That is completely how life goes. You may be happy for a moment or a month but sooner or later great tribulation will start to kick in. Combat despair with graciousness. Count all the blessings that you have (and will have in near future, claim it!) by writing it down on a piece of paper or typing on your phone. Viola! an instant boost for happiness. We all know the fact that this superficial happiness won't work, but why do I keep on wanting? I already have all this wisdom about how to be happy for ages, but why can't I apply it to my own life?

First, you have to understand that simply knowing doesn't change your behavior. Care to realize that all the tips that I have mentioned are all verbs? Because at the end of the day, it is all about how you choose to be happy and initiate actions towards success. Know, reflect, visualize, believe, and do something about it. All of these are Actions! This is the secret of all the happiest and most influential people in the world—actions. Furthermore, do know that some of these tips do not work instantly most of the time. It requires a lot of time, motivation, consistency, and effort. I do know it's easier said than done. Take each of them slowly, one step at a time.

If it wasn’t for pain, I wouldn’t be alive. It may sound contradictory, but it’s true. Pain reminds me that I can feel, along with other emotions. Pain reminds me that I can heal, just like how I did in the past. Pain reminds me that I am strong and I can do better. It reminds me that life can be bitter, and it is up to us to make it a little sweeter (or saltier, depending on what the person wants).

With this epiphany, I take pain in a positive light. It’s normal that it can break me and make me want to stay in bed all day, but having someone or something remind me that there is hope is enough. It’s normal that I cry my heart out, but it’s important to remember that there’s a calm after the storm. If it wasn’t for pain, I wouldn’t be who I am now. It has shaped me and how I look at things. It has changed the way I approach circumstances that can challenge me and my beliefs.

Pain, back then, made me cower in the dark. Pain used to be my biggest fear, and I used to do my best to avoid pain. However, I realized that avoiding pain is like avoiding life. Because of how I wanted to protect myself, I closed myself off to people and opportunities. I used to tell myself that “this will end badly”, or “this is going to hurt in the end”. I always focused on how much pain I might endure in the end that I forgot to enjoy the process.

It’s inevitable, you see? Endings, most of the time, may hurt. It’s natural for us to grow attached to someone or something, and their disappearance might bring us a lot of pain. However, one should always remember that the pain is a reminder of how close you became, how many memories you had. If it wasn’t for pain, life would be pointless. If it wasn’t for pain, we would be nothing.

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