Loneliness that Turned into Beautiful Solitude
Are you one of those many people who experienced loneliness? The moment where you do not have someone else to rely on. Have you experienced it? Going home with a lot of thoughts running in your mind but no one was there to listen. Have you ever felt bad for yourself? In realizing that you were the only one left. When every one else was leaving. When most people around you have chosen others over you. Have you experienced the pain? The pain of being alone? A lot of people are afraid to be alone for various reasons. Some people says that they are just used to something that there is always someone out there for them. Someone who is always there. Someone who is always ready to accompany them in all. Someone who is always willing to stay. Stays in your best and most especially at your worst. While others simply do not have the courage to face the world of loneliness. I, experienced the pain of loneliness but gained a lot of benefit from it.
Living alone is not a simple thing for me to do but for me to survive and acquire proper education, I have to. I have to learn to live alone. In living alone, I had face a lot of difficulties. I encountered a lot of problems that were made to be fixed by many but was able to get it fixed by myself. Yes it was hard, it is hard. It was never easy to begin with. There will be times or days that it can make you drain and cause you countless sleepless nights. Yes, it is painful. But we have to realize that in loneliness, we can also find peace in ourselves. The "YOU". The genuine "YOU".
People are so afraid to experience loneliness. Most of us do not realize that with so much fear of being alone, we started to forget that good things come from being alone. As time pass by, I got used in solving problems by myself, I learned to live alone, I saw the "beauty of loneliness" that's how my loneliness slowly turned into beautiful solitude. As time passes by, I realized that there are a lot of good things that you can get in being alone. So, for those who are reading this, I hope you guys learn to appreciate the beauty of being alone.
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
How can I be sure in my life when I'm indecisive? We all make decisions, but let's be honest that it is not easy to decide like which is which. We all have to consider all the things that can affect our decisions. Since then, making decisions for myself was never been so easy like what should I take, what should I pick and many more. I find it struggling because even though all I want for myself is for the good, I cannot have it because I don't even have the sureness in my life.
As I lay down in my bed at night, I always think the what ifs in my life. "What if I choose that over the other, would it be better?" those kinds of questions. Yes, it is hard being indecisive that you cannot have at least 90% happiness of the decision you made because you're not even sure about it and you will just feel happiness if the results are good. I am the kind of person who just go with the flow and doesn't even bother with the problems that must be taken seriously. I am thankful for the people especially to my friends who are always there to help me out in my life. People think that I'm the type of person who is happy-go-lucky but the truth is I'm just showing that I'm always happy but deep inside of me, I'm not. I'm really questioning myself that makes me overthink sometimes. To be able to help myself, I searched online about tips in making a decision. I know that I'm being "OA" because of this, but actually it helps me. I am trying to apply all the readings I read whenever I make decisions.
Right now, I am somewhat happy and contented because I make decisions that I'm fully sure of. We must not take all the things as a joke, especially in making decisions. I don't want to have those feelings again that I had before. We must all help ourselves whenever we have problems. We cannot depend on others forever. You can reach out, but remember that you yourself is the key to end up the problems that you're into. So, let's all do the things that we can do today because there are many things waiting ahead of us.
OVERCOMING OVERTHINKING: In the Search for the Intangible Three
“You’ll never know the feeling of drowning unless you experience it yourself.” Let’s admit it. We all have dark hours. When our thoughts go wild and haunt us into uncertainty with every second making us ponder over “what if’s” and “what could have been’s”. It is a phase where we can’t scream for help and can’t seem to stand firmly from the quicksand of doubts. The demons within whispers into our ears, casting curses of insecurities, doubts and fears until it becomes our lullabies. The way we live and mingle with our friends and family, everything get affected. It’s like we weren’t given a chance to be happy. We become irrational to the point where what we think affects what we do. We hunger to be free from the chains that keeps on dragging us down to the inferno of mischief in our minds. An internal battle where fear shackles reality and we helplessly become vulnerable prisoners of our barren thoughts. We analyze beyond things and dive into the sea of impossibilities – until we apparently drown and lose.
But not all overthinkers lets their guard down and get defeated by their internal horror. Some still manage to get revive from drowning. They realize that the cure can be found- and it lies within ourselves. An eye for an eye. A tooth for a tooth. And a heart over an idea. Instead of being paranoid, why not oppose these unhealthy thoughts? In fact, you are in control of your mind and the key to get rid of your nightmares lies between the heart and brain. You need to understand yourself first to know what the main problem is. You overthink mainly because you think you are incomplete. You forget the three concepts that will rid your lackness and incapabilities. It is the intangible gift of trust, love and faith.
TRUST You tend to overthink because you let your doubts take over something, someone and even yourself. It’s where your trust is being deprived and neglected and you end up being unaware of it. You easily get sensitive over something and secrete negative emotions that get the best of your well being. How to Gain Trust? Entitling trust to anybody is not easy. It encompasses a complicated process of accepting risks and gambling with what the future might turn into; “self-trust” is the very first step. You need to believe in your capabilities and what you can do beyond what anyone expects. Value yourself. And trust me, as you break your wall and assess people critically, your intuition will tell you who you can trust whole heartedly and who to avoid.
FAITH You focus too much on your greeds and possessions. To have all the worldly possesions, to have the latest gadgets or to become someone powerful and influencial but each day turns out to be a chain of the same routine: wake up each morning and make your dreams and fantasies into reality and go to sleep at night dreaming more and more. You want attention in an instant way. You want everything that comes across your mind to be in the palm of your hands in just a snap that you forget about the idea of God’s perfect plans and His process. You become so preoccupied by the material things and titles that you want to possess – until you get drained. Your mind will still be stuck with the ideas you continuously feed yourself. Your mind no longer creates inspirations, but instead create insecurities. These unhealthy thoughts will dim your vision. Your perspective becomes clouded and the only thing that seems clear is hopelessness. It will intoxicate you – little by little. How to Gain Faith? Dreaming is not bad at all, in fact it serves as our motivation in studying or working hard to be able to meet these. What we need to keep in mind that there is a process, and the bigger the dream, the harder the process. Going to churches and attend masses is not the only way to strengthen your faith. It can also be done at home. You can still revive and keep the fire burning inside yourself. Always be reminded that you are not alone. Not having someone on your side during your darkest hour doesn’t mean no one loves you and nobody would like to extend their hand to you. Challenges in life isn’t solved by“teamwork”. Many of it are meant to be done by ourselves to hone our independence. Self-reflection is beneficial in strengthening faith. Open your heart and cease the moment. Be open and accept failures and try to look at it as life lessons God wants us to learn. We need to carry our own cross. Breathe. Inhale your aspirations, get fueled by that scorching eagerness in your heart. Let your life be driven with passion and entrust Him with everything. Try to read bible verses and you will realize how God Almighty truly loves you. He talks to us through different forms, He always saves us, and He is not dead. He lives inside our hearts, waiting for us to come back to Him.
SELF-LOVE Love is not only the affection between two matters inhibited with a soul, it is transformational. It comes in various yet mysterious ways. It is undefinable. It is a complex feeling that everyone yearns for. And as we welcome the era of modernism, we also see the world with standards and setting finish lines. “We do because we want to” over “we do because we love to” has become extremely evident in our time. Among all the kinds of love, its ironic how self-love is one of the hardest ones to find. You try to fill the emptiness within with inappropriate thoughts but can’t match what pure self-love could be. It messes your mind and haunts you each day. We are complex beings and we always complicate things- but we end up forgetting our essence.
How to Gain Self-love? Self-care is a partial requirement to attain successful self-love. Learn to express how you feel with freedom without crossing its boundaries. Get to know more with who you really are and discover more about yourself. Do not let yourself be confined with the standards of society. Free yourself from judgments and get to know your perception without being influenced by other’s way of thinking. Do what your heart tells you to do. Do what makes you happy. Do without hesitations. Just be yourself. Know your self-worth; accept your flaws and imperfections while celebrating your strengths and filling your heart and mind with gladness. You are not a leftover or a trash but rather, you are a beautiful God-made gift. Always remember that. These three missing intangibles are the powerful gems hiding inside us. Though as we lose it, it is not that easy to put it back to where it once was. Overcoming overthinking isn’t an easy process. It is a fight within ourselves. It is a trial beyond what our eyes can see and what our hands can touch. Have a regular check up with yourself and see if you are emotionally healthy. It is something that we should take care of before we lose the game called life and get tricked by our wild thoughts. Remember that as we dig deeper through uncertainties, we also dig the pits where our thoughts will bury us into.
“I wish I was like them” is what we constantly whisper to ourselves. When we see someone more attractive than us, when we see someone having more than us, and when someone seems happier than us, it just somehow makes us question ourselves. So… what do we do? We try to be like them. We buy the clothes they wear, the accessories they use, and even the perfume they spray on - we reinvent ourselves. But why is it that whenever we see someone who seems to have more than we do, we have this huge urge to “be like them”?
Technology has become such a huge part of our lives, that without even noticing it, it has started to brainwash us. What we see online starts to dictate how we dress, what we eat, and overall, how we act. It even begins to tell us what and how we should look; and it makes us question ourselves because what we see on our screens is not what we see in the mirror. We focus so much on what other people think and how other people will react that we lose touch of ourselves. We begin to beat ourselves down just because we aren’t the picture they painted in their minds. We go to extremes just to mimic that person on our screens that the internet wants to see. But the story was never about you becoming like them, it’s about you coming into being.
We are like blank canvases waiting to be painted on with brush strokes of life experience; and once we feel that the painting is done, we reveal ourselves to the world with pride despite what people say about it. So get lost in the moment, understand yourself, and never forget that we are all beautifully different. After all, life’s too short to live someone else’s life.
Fortress Two pillars that held my breaking walls
When I was in high school I knew for a fact that I was the trouble maker in our family. “Girls are supposed to be modest and calm” they said. I, the only daughter in a family of 6, intentionally broke that stereotype. I would go home late at night, lie to my parents and I would even put my friends first before attending family gatherings.
The reason behind those decisions were petty fights I found myself in between me and my parents. I remember seeing their way of teaching me morals and values as oppression and abuse when I was a kid. They managed to make all my brothers obey them, but no- they didn’t get their so-called-princess to comply. I somehow told myself that they were in the way of my character development so I was so eager to look for my identity outside my home. After high school, I moved to Baguio for college. The surrounding was new, the people were foreign and there was no one holding me back. It felt new to me, but in a good way. Little did I know that living alone was a nightmare. Dad wasn’t there to cook for me, Mom wasn’t there to clean the mess in my dorm and what I oddly missed most, is washing the dishes pre-cleaned by my mom.
Days when I got sick were worse, I cried myself to sleep one time not because of how high my fever was, but because whenever any of us got sick, my mom would lay next to us while we were sleeping and whisper a prayer asking God to heal us, but that time it was just me, my tear-soaked pillow, and to make myself more emotional, a picture of my parents in between my hands. I was homesick almost everyday. So I made it a part of my routine to call my parents every single day and I would make “tampo” whenever they hang up saying “may trabaho pa ako anak”.
Come to think of it, I hate myself for saying I love you to my parents more through texts and calls than in person. In the span of my first semester in college, I realized how dependent I was on my parents without knowing it. Whenever school works got rough, no one could comfort me better than my parents. The sound of their voice was enough for me to continue fighting. It was difficult for me to adjust to college, and I broke down easily. My emotions were as beaten up as a punching bag. I was mentally and emotionally tired. Every. Single. Day. What kept me together, were these two pillars. One I call mom and the other I call dad. I can’t say moving to Baguio for college was a mistake, in fact it was a life changing decision for me. It made me realize to value my parents while I still have them.
I realized that when I turned my back on my parents, I forgot the good things they did in my life. Because of them, I have brothers who I can wrestle can with as well as those who mess with me at the same time. They brought me closer to the cross and protected me. They sacrificed so much that it makes me want to live my life to the fullest, for them. Ma, Pa, in this world full of chaos, I cannot be more happy that I found my fortress in your love.
Letting go a person who never wronged you really hurts, but for sure, it is more painful to the person you left. Maybe its because of your own life goals that you can't afford to carry him/her along the way with you. Now, you are avoiding each other, trying to forget every sweet memories. You tried to be friends, but it didn't work out, because you both know that you still love each other, but you can't accept his/her feelings for your own sake, for your own life. He asked you, "Why did you start this relationship in the first place?" "Why did we spend 2 years for nothing?" You Replied, "Because I love you, and you're all I ever wanted, but things just dont work the way we want it to be." I regret every single word that I said that made your heart ache. I didn't mean it, I just want you to hate me, for you to forget me easily. This is me officially moving on from the pain that I caused to myself and to you. I'm sorry.
This COVID-19 pandemic came and we are not ready. Suddenly, everything has changed and it was never the same again. There's chaos almost everywhere. Hospitals are crowded and people die. Some lost their family and friends without saying goodbye. It's truly a lonely sight. But behind this terrifying situation are lessons learned.
FAMILY TIME IS EVERYTHING.
I am a working mom with two small kids. I have always wanted to be with them and just be a stay-at-home mom but we have lots of bills to pay so it was next to impossible. Though this crisis upsets me, I am thankful that I have more time with my children these days. We may not be able to go out like we used to do but we can still have fun together. They enjoy riding their bicycles while enjoying the morning sun, building blocks and many other things.
YOU CAN GIVE UP SOMETHING IF YOU WANT - LIKE SHOPPING.
I'm not proud to admit it but I was a certified shopaholic. Almost everyday, I had deliveries from different shopping apps. I had also frequented malls and felt the urge to buy things immediately. I knew it was an addiction that was difficult to resist. So, even if these were not included in our budget, I would buy them. Then, later on, I would just regret the things that I bought because I didn't really like them. Just a waste of time and money. And now, since the lockdown happened more than a month ago, I was able to overcome the feeling to buy something I don't really need. The excitement is no longer there. I realized that I can still survive even without those new clothes, bags and shoes. And those material things are momentary and meaningless. Of course, these can make you happy but family and health are more important because not everyone has them.
WE ARE BLESSED IN DIFFERENT WAYS.
I have learned to be thankful for what I have, to stop complaining and to be patient to wait for my own breakthrough to come. This crisis opened my eyes to the harsh realities of life. It is heartbreaking to see other people looking helpless and struggling to find food for their families. I may not have lots of money but I have learned to give and help others in my little ways. It made me understand that even if I am not rich, I have a job, a home and food on our table. And these are priceless.
HONOR AND APPRECIATE THE SACRIFICES OF OUR BRAVE AND SELFLESS FRONTLINERS - OUR EVERYDAY HEROES.
I know that their situation is not easy at all but they willingly endure the challenges and difficulties just to save and protect us from this deadly virus. Their families are also waiting for them to come home but they would still have to delay it until the pandemic ends. Yes, they are strong but exhausted - because even heroes also get tired. I know how it feels because my husband is a hero, too.
IF WE WANT TO STOP THE VIRUS, STAY AT HOME.
We are safe there and we cannot catch the virus if we practice good hygiene and social distancing, wear masks and not go outside. It is not boring to stay at home; it is a luxury that many people cannot have that's why I am grateful. So, let us do our part in our fight against this COVID-19. It is time to show our solidarity to end this pandemic because this is everyone’s battle.
WE HAVE A BIGGER AND MORE POWERFUL GOD.
There seems to be a lot of fear right now but I believe that Jesus is greater than this virus. And time will come when He will take it away. We do not know when it happens but God has a purpose - that is to love Him first and not anything else, to be humble, to repent and to turn back to Him and be saved. I also learned to be brave because God is my strength. And that Jesus, my Lord and Savior, can heal everything including corona virus. This morning, the sun was radiant and beautiful. It's like a symbol of hope. Of a new beginning. Of healing. And I believe that after this pandemic, we will rise again and heal as one.
I TURNED MY INSECURITIES SOMETHING POSITIVE!
Have you ever felt insecure about yourself? Have you ever felt unsatisfied with your physical form? Have you ever looked in the mirror and never liked what you see in front of it? That is what I have felt for the past few months. It is normal for us to feel insecure about ourselves.Insecurities are the things that we find wrong, physically, mentally, socially, sexually, holistically. It is something that makes us anxious and feel less confident therefore affecting us mentally. It affected me for years but the worst one was last 2019. I felt that I was never enough for myself. I felt that I was force feeding myself and felt ugly with my own body. This type of insecurity made me feel anxious about my body.
For the past few months I lost 4 kilograms of my weight. Considering my height (which is 5’9” ft) I am already underweight because now I weigh around 53 kilograms. I didn’t quite take care of myself for the past months because I was stressed and under pressure. I became very insecure when some people told me I look like a stick, that I look malnourished and unhealthy. Some people used to make fun of my weight and told me I don’t have a plump butt or at least average boobs. I am just flat. I may look confident walking down with my high heels around the hallway but I tell you, I’m actually not.
People kept telling me they wanted to have a body like mine. They told me how lucky I am to be tall and skinny. They told me they wanted to have a waist just like mine. They told me they wanted to be as tall as me. They told me they wanted to have a body figure like mine but to be honest I didn’t like how tall I am and how skinny my body is. I look really thin. I look sick and I am not satisfied with what body I have. At first I found myself being comfortable in baggy clothes that make me look bigger because it tones my body shape and covering my skin makes me feel more secure. Time passed by and I began to dress up in clothes that show my collar bones, waist, and legs. Time after time, I slowly accept myself by wearing these types of clothes and it makes me feel different and powerful.
It made me feel confident. Then I found beauty in my body when I started taking pictures of it. I took a picture of myself in front of the mirror wearing a skirt and an off shoulder top and kept telling myself that I am beautiful. Sometimes, when I take a pic of myself wearing lingerie, I look at myself and I feel very confident and powerful. It may look lewd to others but I feel empowered in this type of outfit. Looking into the mirror and looking at my body makes me embrace what I have. I started to treat my body through pictures like it was an art, a masterpiece and I am proud of it. I also wanted to post my pictures in the media to promote body positivity because there is always beauty and art in our bodies.
Recently, I’ve been working out during quarantine to keep my body in shape and to relax my mind. I do pep talks in the mirror which boost my charisma and confidence about myself that I should accept myself and I could also change the negativity in me into something positive.
What is your life’s mantra? Is it the thought that you are a mortal being that will someday disappear from this world? "Remember you will die" is an ancient practice of reflection on mortality. In translation, it is “memento mori”, which means "whatever we do in life, we still die". Whatever we do or won’t do doesn’t matter because, in the end, our lives still have an end. Whatever we experience, feel, and achieved in this life doesn’t matter. Socrates said that the proper practice of philosophy is “about nothing else but dying and being dead”.
We should remind ourselves of, repeat to ourselves in any and every situation we’re in, “remember that I will die”. You go through tough times in life and you go through some trouble. It may occur in your life that someone cheats on you, betrays you, lies to you, or even steals from you. However, you get to say to yourself, “memento mori”. You’re stressed out by online requirements, you get in a fight with your girlfriend/boyfriend, your parents say something mean or let you down, you say to yourself "Life is short, I’m going to die." This kind of mentality means you can’t take any of this seriously, you can’t hold on to it and you can’t let it puff you up either.
How many people have come before you and had these same honors and where are they now? They’re dead, just like you will be. This mantra “memento mori” is just a reminder to ourselves that we should not take life seriously, that balance is the key. If we are successful, we should not be arrogant — rather, proud and humble. In some cases, if we feel lost and depressed, we should always think that it shall pass. You may not have the ability to control everything, but what you do have is if you'll decide to let it get to you and mope. You waste your time by getting upset over this.
Remember that whether you're the best or even the worst person in the world at what you do, we will die. Life is full of joy, happiness, sorrow, pleasure, victory, and defeat. However, every human experiences this thing called life. Life is worth embracing every moment for it is a celebration of being alive. Are you wasting it or are you living it? Are you embracing it, or are you letting it slip through your fingers? You can live life right now, but always keep in mind that someday, you will die.
5 WAYS TO IMPROVE SELF-CARE AND SELF-LOVE DURING QUARANTINE
Since we are still under community quarantine, some of us are starting to develop anxieties from uncertainties and limitations. Due to change and fear, we begin to think about the worst that might happen to us. Still, instead of fueling the distress in our minds, we can use this opportunity to focus on ourselves and divert our attention to making ourselves better. Before this quarantine, we were all busy living our lives as we tend to push ourselves to our limits. We work hard but forget to take care of ourselves. Now that we have time, we can use it to improve our whole beings.
Here are the five steps you must try:
1. Avoid Excessive Information
Through the use of social media, we can quickly dive into the latest news and updates on matters that happen around us. It is right to be informed and be socially aware but exposing yourself to immoderate lousy news can affect your mental health. Fear fuels fear. If you feel like scrolling through various unnecessary dramas online makes you anxious, you need to limit yourself and divert your attention elsewhere. Don’t let negativity overpower your mind, instead look for the brighter side of life.
2. Get To Know Yourself More
The person that you should know best is yourself. There’s still a lot of things you can discover about yourself that might end up surprising you. Have a sincere heart on heart conversation with yourself. It might be funny to imagine but believe me, there are a lot of questions in our minds that we don't get the chance to ask ourselves. How were the past days, months and years doing? How are you? Have I been treating myself well? Am I receiving the right amount of love? In this way, we can be transparent to ourselves and seek resolutions. Sometimes, we give so much love to the world that we end up losing ourselves. Take this time to build yourself stronger and mould a firm foundation called self-love. Before anybody else, you should learn how to love yourself.
3. Be Physically And Mentally Fit
Start your day with a meditation. It might be hard at first, but it'll be worth it. For beginners, it doesn't need to be long. You can try focusing on your breathing first. Inhale positivity and exhale all of the unnecessary energy in your life. This activity can bring peacefulness and detoxify your mind. Writing journal entries every day can also help you track your progress in life. You can list down everything that you are grateful for as well as the trials you’ve overcome. In this activity, you will see the good things rather than the things that you don’t have. After exercising your mind, you can start to do your physical exercises. This quarantine period makes us all lazy, but instead of lying in bed all day, we can use this time to improve our physical and mental health. Try to do some yogas to enhance the circulation of blood in your body. This period is the perfect time to start sculpting the body figure and mind that you dream of!
4. Get enough sleep
In this time, most of us stay up all night and sometimes until dawn due to constant binge-watching on Netflix or just merely scrolling through different social media apps. We used to take advantage of our sleep, but this quarantine proves that we’re more sleep-deprived in free times more than we are in work or school. We should maximize this time to get plenty amount of sleep because it will benefit our body, lower the risk of getting sick, and make our minds peaceful and stress-free.
5. Learn new things
Instead of procrastinating and lying in bed all day, the internet offers a lot of courses that you can enrol in during this quarantine period. You can learn how to dance, new languages or bake cute cupcakes. You can also read a book or create video content and upload it on YouTube. You have all the time for yourself so do it. In this way, you can enhance your skills and develop more knowledge of everything that you want.
What's the Next Big Thing?
If you enter this question in a search engine such as Google, Yahoo, or Safari, majority of the organic and paid results will denote it as the birth of machine learning, software development, Artificial Intelligence (AI), and Internet of Things (IOT). On the surface, these discoveries or development are most likely to be perfected and built with further studies of the technology. However, what if the next big thing apart from the latter definition is the discovery of the so-called “Breakthrough Knowledge”? It is no secret or magic formula, it is an underrated skill that can be developed through time as defined by M. Simmons in his article, “While Everyone Is Distracted By Social Media, Successful People Double Down On An Underrated Skill.” Breakthrough Knowledge is something whether be it a good or bad experience, a passage from a book, a line from a movie script, or an article like this that will enlighten you. It is pretty much an eye-opening encounter that will fuel you to choose wise and meaningful decisions after you have faced it. So that next time, you are most likely to feel contented, productive, and smart.
I would like to share that I just found mine when I watched Kate Bowler’s Ted Talk simply, from her last line “We all want to live in a world where nothing is lost.” It hit me a lot because of its relevancy. With today’s content shock, we manage to multitask. We do a lot of things. We keep ourselves busy and going. We are completely distracted especially in social media networks and in every activities we found online. It is like settling in an area where we know it is taking away our useful time casually making us lazy and narcissists instead of doing life-changing habits. With that said, people tend to be afraid of being behind the race of the society which is why they use coping mechanisms most of the time. There’s really nothing to be afraid of going offline or even just setting limits.
You only need an encounter to wake you up and to teach you to prefer doing virtuous acts. Perhaps, avoid being restrained by negativity and setbacks by not comparing your life to others. As much as possible, spending time wisely and productively. Think if the decisions you opt to choose will make you a better person. For instance, when you’re having a day-off, spend hours with your family, do some chores, go to church, grab some coffee, read a book, and write reflections. Why don’t you start looking for your own “Breakthrough Knowledge” and see life beyond the fear of missing out? And, what if... that is the NEXT BIG THING?
Why our high school barkada is the best?
Remembering our high school years entails quite a lot reminiscing of the things we all been through when we were younger. You’ve experience a lot of new things during those 4 wonderful years and did most of them with the few people you consider your barkada. And through a series of all the lunch breaks you had together, the walks you took on the way home, and taking the same classes, you never thought you’d survive, you have made your life’s greatest friends.
Here are some of the reasons why your high school barkada is the best:
1. You figured out early teenage life together. The transition one have undergone from being a kid to a teenager wasn’t easy. For a moment you are not sure whether you should have played with your friends during recess or you should have just sat down and ate your food because you were too old for games. But whatever it is you chose to do, having friends who were as clueless as you make everything feel easier because you know, deep down, you’d figure things out eventually. You just need good company.
2. They were with you during your “jeje“ days. I bet you have pictures taken with Camera360 and Retrica. You also have pictures edited using Pizap with embarrassing captions and you somehow kept some of them so you could have something to post online during their birthdays.
3. They know all your exes. They will never EVER forget the name of an ex-boyfriend, an ex-fling, an ex-crush, and an almost you had. They will remind you of your every questionable love decision but you’ll just laugh anyway while saying “Past is past”.
4. They never judge you. They have welcomed you to their lives when you thought jelly shoes and checkered polos were the bomb! They were quick to have told your teachers that you were not feeling well so you could go home when you really just needed to poop. You tell them every embarrassing story you have and were fine with it.
5. You can always count on them. From the moment you first fell in love and the moment you first had your heart broken, they were with you. They were with you the moment you lost a parent and at moments when you thought you had nothing. Through every break-up and breakthrough, they were there to be your support system.
6. They are your family. Your high school friend’s family is your own family’s extension. Their parents are like your own. Don’t you feel a little kilig whenever your friend’s parents call you “anak”? And then eventually calling them mama and papa became so natural? I felt that, all the time.
7. They will always be your home. They are your place of refuge and security, the place who offers you their hands when you feel lost and the place you run to when you need saving. No matter how much time and distance separate you, they will be the one’s that you always long for and they are the one’s that you will always return to.
You're gonna bend and break and then at some point in your life, you feel like you don't want to fall in love again.
Not because you're no longer capable of loving but because you're so afraid to get hurt again that you don't want to take a risk anymore. And you're gonna wake up one day and realize that you're not the same person as you were yesterday. The heart aches, heartbreaks, frustration, you'll see, those will transform your whole being into something better.
Honey, move forward. Let go off all the things that are not meant for you. Let go of all the people who hurt you and take you for granted. Don't be stuck feeling miserable.
And don't turn that love into hate when you resent someone for hurting you or for breaking your heart. Just wish them well and let them go. Welcome the possibility of a beautiful love that will come your way. You're worthy of love that you keep on giving to other people. Keep that in mind.
I wish you well and all the happiness. You deserve it.
Here we are — with rough hands entwined, damned hearts at peace, broken souls resting with ease —savoring each passing moment before we part ways...hoping things will turn out to be okay. Here we are — standing still, keeping our earnest desire and ardent passion for each other at bay — hoping the Universe will finally grant us of the day that we no longer have to pretend... that things will no longer have to end.
Here we are — with crooked smiles, lingering touch that will last for a while -- gathering all the remaining courage to set each other free. Wishing for the day that our hearts will no longer have to worry. Here we are letting each other go. Even though we both know that the future is uncertain. Even though we're unsure if our paths will cross once again.
My name is Vin Kolby Ty, I am 17 years old and I am 5'9 Feet tall, I live in Cebu City Philippines and I'm currently studying in a public school at Bulacao Community High School (BCHS) taking TVL track 'Bread and Pastry Production', I am also a freelance photographer based in Cebu City, I also love dancing and i even joined a dancing crew at our school and won our first dancing competition last November 2019 at an event of Titus Ph in Gaisano Grand Mall Cebu City. Being an Actor and a Model had always been my dream ever since i was a kid and I will try hard to achieve my dreams.
Hi, my sister sent me this link :)
I would like my vlog to be featured in Candy! I believe that if my vlog gets featured in Candy, I will be able to help more aspiring med students! I made this a Youtube vlog just like three weeks ago. So far, I have been receiving messages that they find my med school videos informative! My vlog focuses on med school tips :) So far, these are my content:
Check out the Med School Interview tips I have for UPCM, St. Luke’s, UERM, and ASMPH here: https://youtu.be/lnxqhIktcIM
Check out what’s in my Med Kit for ward works here: https://youtu.be/FbiyerNMkJ4
If you haven’t watched Hospital Playlist, let us tell you why you should watch it here: https://youtu.be/mDOcM-Jd1e8
Do you have any Med School Worries? Watch this! Candy Cutie Eljohn Yee might have answered it:
Wanna know more about UPCM Intarmed? Click here: https://youtu.be/XnKtPxQYIkg
Thank you! Hope we can both work together to inspire med students :)