3 Girls Share the Non-Traditional Ways They Celebrated Their Debuts
"I celebrated my 18th birthday with kids at an orphanage." —Kat Estrella
"I attended a couple of debuts months before my birthday, and each party I got invited to seemed to become more grand. I understood that their families had the financial means to throw a lavish debut, but I couldn't help but think how much they were spending for just one night. I couldn't help but think of the mouths of less priviledged children one grand night could feed.
I couldn't help but think of the smiles I could put on other kids' faces if I gave up my one grand night. So I gave it up and chose to celebrate my debut in an orphanage.CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
"Everything was prepared by either me, my parents, or my friends. From the script, to games, and even down to the program. I wanted to keep the traditional 18 treasures and 18 wishes, so I kept them in the program, but the treasures and wishes were not for me, but for the kids.
"People always say that your debut should be special because it's once in a lifetime, but what's my once in a lifetime if it means I could change several lives all at once? And even if it wasn't the grand debut every girl dreams of having, it was still special and unforgettable."
"I spent my debut in Jollibee and opted for 18 Books instead of Roses." —Angela
"I'm not the biggest fan of traditional debut parties because it bores me. My older sister had one and I disliked the set-up, so when my turn came, I looked for something extraordinary but at the same time, also inexpensive.
One of my friends suggested that I celebrate my 18th birhtday at Jollibee. It was a joke at first but we held on to the idea just for fun, not realizing that we were actually planning it already.
"I'm always fascinated with playing dress-up, so we incorporated it into the theme: "A Kiddie Debut". And instead of the traditional 18 roses, candles, and wishes, I opted for 18 books. After the party, I did not feel like I turned 18. Instead, I felt like I just had a fun and blasting night out with my friends."
"I visited 18 churches when I turned 18." —Franchesca Nicola Ocana
"Every little girl looks forward to being 18, wishing they could celebrate it with a grandiose debut, wearing ball gowns and dancing the cotillion. My dream was different. Not once did I want to be 18 and not once did I dream of having a fabulous debut. I wished I could stay as the young, carefree kid that I once was. A day before my 18th was a Sunday.
After an early birthday mass at the UST church, my mom and dad decided to do a visita iglesia to 18 different churches around Metro Manila. I absolutely agreed with the idea so without any hesitations, I said yes.
"It was a very lengthy journey going in and out of the car, kneeling down to pray at every church, smiling and taking pictures (because my mom loves documenting every moment!) and mind you, studying inside the car because I had a quiz the next day (it was a Monday!).
"Halfway through completing the 18 churches, I received a text from our class president saying that classes were suspended the next day because of the transport strike. Indeed, God works in mysterious ways! I believe that in all of the blessings we receive every day, it is rightful to pay gratitude to the one up above for nothing is possible without him. In every church, I never missed saying thank you for everything."
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.