Yikes! ICYDK, These Things Can Add to Anxiety and Stress

Blaming yourself, expecting the worst, and more!
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Being in a stressful situation or having an anxiety attack is already hard in itself, so make a conscious effort to keep yourself from thinking these things:

  1. Thinking without a middle ground.

The problem with this kind of thinking is you're programmed to think that you're either successful or a total failure—there's nothing in between. 

  1. Negative generalization.

Just because one negative experience happened to you, doesn't mean that it will remain that way forever. If you made a fool out of yourself during recitations, don't assume the same thing will happen to you the next time.

  1. Focusing on the negative.

You slayed your exam and got an almost perfect score, but you spend your day racking your brain why you hadn't gotten that one question right. Why even?

  1. Not counting the positive.

Instead of being grateful for the praises you got for delivering a lit presentation, you find reasons why you don't really deserve the applause.


  1. Making assumptions based on how you feel.

You think a friend's being fake because of the way she handed you the reading materials? Unless you have actual evidence, you've got to stop making these assumptions.

  1. Expecting the worst.

Nothing fuels anxiety like thinking of the worst thing that could possibly happen, like imagining your thesis get soaked in water on submission day.

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  1. Thinking lowly of yourself.

Whenever you don't succeed at something, you're quick to call yourself names, like "failure," "loser," or "stupid." The funny thing is, you don't do this to other people, so why do it to yourself?

  1. Blaming yourself.

Has there been a time when someone lost a wallet or a phone and you feel that you were somehow at fault for letting it happen? You think up ways on how you could've prevented it from happening, leaving you anxious and guilty for something you didn't have control over in the first place.



When was the last time you encountered any of these things?









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Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.

Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.

It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.

Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"

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