Ever wanted to try something new but ended up not actually pursuing the idea? Maybe you wanted to learn how to play the guitar or you wanted to try your hand at vlogging, but for one reason or another, you eventually ended up not doing anything about it. Perhaps there were external factors that prevented you from trying. Or could it be because you lacked the confidence to actually do it?
Hey, no judgment here. We completely understand the feeling! Doing something you’ve never done before can really be unnerving. There’s fear of not doing well, coupled with the worry that other people would judge you for failing. But try to think of it this way: At one point in your life, you’ve willed yourself to do something beyond your comfort zone—and you did just fine! Who says you can’t do it all over again, right?
The next time you feel crippled by fear, here are five tips that can help you rise above it all and actually do your thing:
Know that there’s nothing wrong with being a beginner.
We want to do well at everything we do, which is why we tend to leave no room for honest mistakes. When we can’t bear the thought of not doing exceptionally well at first try, we sometimes choose to walk away and not do anything. But doing something for the first time and failing at it is what happens when you’re a beginner, and being one is just part of the process of learning. Instead of expecting yourself to instantly master things, allow yourself to make mistakes. Failing is actually an opportunity to learn.
Make plans, but be flexible enough to adapt to different outcomes.
What if things don’t work out in the end? This thought alone can weaken your will to do something new. But aside from counting the ways things could go wrong, it pays to also think of what you can do after if things indeed do not go as planned. This way, you have a plan B to turn to if you don’t get the outcome you want with plan A.
Remember that fear is part of the process.
It might not look like it, but most of the people around you do feel as anxious as you about certain things—even if the project or hobby they’re doing is something they’ve been into for years! Yes, it’s pretty normal to feel conscious about being the *newbie* among individuals who have been doing the same thing for a long time. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way and accept fear as part of the process. Pro-tip: Write down all your worries to help you better make sense of them.
Remember that no one’s constantly watching your every move.
Ever heard of the spotlight effect? ICYDK, it’s when you believe that people notice every single thing about you—from how you look to how you do things on a daily basis. This could be the reason you’re too conscious of your every move, afraid of tripping on your own foot should they see it. Sure, other people may keep a close eye on you, but always remember that they eventually have to focus on their own lives. Just like you, everyone else is too preoccupied with themselves to watch others day in and day out.
Accept that there’s only so much you can control.
In your desire to get the best possible outcomes, it’s understandable if you get a little obsessive over every single detail. Still, you have to remember that while there are factors you can definitely control (like how much effort you’re going to put into things), there will always be things beyond your control (like the result of your hard work). Sometimes, it’s best to just let things take their course. Though this doesn’t mean that you should just leave everything up to chance! Do your part, but allow some things to just be. This will take a load off your shoulders.
Remember that change is a normal part of life. And as we mature, it's not just our roles and responsibilities that will change with time. In order to cope, we too must learn to adapt and take on new habits and ways of thinking.
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