How to Help Someone Deal With Mental Illness
Society often misunderstands people with mental illness because recognizing its symptoms can be quite difficult. They are often characterized only as intense personality traits or confused as mood swings. There are a lot of false information circulating and stereotypes formulated about mental health issues. This is one of the reasons why many people respond negatively or dismissively regarding mental health.
Friends who are supportive and understanding can make all the difference in another friend's mental health recovery process. If you're uncertain on how to react or what to do around someone who looks or claims to be suffering from a mental disorder, these might help:
- Educate yourself!
Research, research, research! There's no better way to help someone deal with mental issues than by understanding it yourself—be aware of its nature and symptoms. Know that there are various professional treatments made available nowadays that can help treat and overcome mental disorders. Also, find out what you can personally do to help and support them.
- Don't offer trivial solutions.
It's important to know that people with mental illness cannot just "snap out of it," so please don't tell them to. It may come out as insensitive and can trigger certain behaviors. It's not your job to save and heal them because you can't, even if you think you can. Think of mental illness as broken limbs, it will heal with the right treatment and through time with love, help, and support from the people around them.
- Be patient.
Whether it's depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia or obsessive compulsive disorder—it's inevitable that their mental illness will take over and manifest itself in their treatment of you. They may hurt your feelings indirectly through their distress or by lashing out on you on purpose, but retaliating with the same hurtful things or words will not help and may only make matters worse. Instead, ask them what you can do to help.
- Take them seriously.
Please, please, please do not dismiss their concerns. Let them know you're always there to listen and that they should not feel bad about communicating their mental health needs because it is nothing to be ashamed of. Mental illness is individualized and it affects many people for different reasons or, sometimes, for no reason at all. Not everyone goes through what they're experiencing.
- Love them through actions, not just through words.
"Actions are more powerful than words." This quote holds truth in any situation. Different people perceive love differently. Sitting in silence, holding each other or just letting them cry on your shoulder can mean a lot to them. Love them even if they're at their worst. They are not their mental illness, so treat them as such.
- Take care of yourself.
For you to help others deal with issues about their mental health, you should also look after your own well-being. It can sometimes be stressful and overwhelming to respond to the mental health needs of people you care about because of unavoidable conflicts. This is why it's of utmost importance to love and take care of yourself first before you can take care of someone else. You will need to make simple to great sacrifices for the person you care about...but it'll all be worth it.
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.