Being bullied in school is painful and scary. But as intimidating as bullies may seem, it’s never okay to keep things to yourself and simply give them a free pass. Remember: All forms of bullying are unacceptable and unjustified. Whether you’re facing an aggressive classmate or dealing with a manipulative friend, you—or anyone else for that matter—do not deserve to be bullied.
Below, we’ve listed five things to do if you (or a friend) is being bothered by bullies in school:
1. Tell an adult you trust.
Open up about your experience to someone you trust, preferably an adult who can guide you in this difficult journey. If you’re too afraid to tell your parents, approach your guidance counselor, homeroom adviser, or favorite teacher. You can also call the NCMH Crisis Hotline for 24/7 counseling. Whatever happens, don’t force yourself to go through it all alone.
2. Don’t fight back.
It may seem tempting to fight fire with fire, but it’s important to stay calm and remind yourself of how you truly feel. Break the cycle and don’t let yourself become a bully, too!
3. Respond to the bully without being mean.
Of course, keeping a cool head doesn’t mean you can’t stand up for yourself. One option is to tell the bully to stop in a clear and confident voice. Look them in the eye and inform them that you don’t like the way they’re treating you. If you’re afraid that things might get violent, walk away instead and find an adult to take control of the situation.
4. Surround yourself with your loved ones.
Although it’s difficult to stay strong, remind yourself that you’re not alone. Make it a point to stay close to your barkada in between classes so you feel safe in school. You can also ask a parent, a school guard, or a teacher to accompany you to your classroom every morning. The key to getting help is to let people know you need it!
5. Observe your mental health.
Pay attention to how you feel and allow yourself to express that negativity. Suddenly feeling lonely? Plan a hangout sesh with your BFF and share your thoughts with her. Not in the mood to communicate your feelings? Try a creative hobby like painting or songwriting! Can’t concentrate on your studies? Talk to your parents about transferring to a bully-free school. Whatever you’re feeling, welcome your emotions with open arms and find ways to comfort yourself every day.
Take care of yourself out there, Candy reader! Please remember to always put yourself first.
If you or anyone you know is struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts, here are some important numbers and websites in the Philippines:
NCMH Crisis Hotline:
Globe/TM: 09178998727 / 09663514518
Smart/SUN/TNT: 09086392672
Center for Family Ministries (for spiritual counseling):
www.cefam.ph
Landline: (02) 426-4289 to 92
Ateneo Bulatao Center
Landine: (02) 426-5982
E-mail: bulataocenter.ls@ateneo.edu
Online resources for mental health and suicide prevention:
www.suicide.org
www.iasp.info
www.afsp.org
www.befrienders.org
www.imalive.org
www.thehopeline.com
www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
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