For most of us, being a freshie marks a new chapter of our lives. New school, new environment, and new people. Although these three things have positive connotations, not everything we experience when meeting new people is smooth flowing. Meeting new people in itself can be challenging, so imagine how much harder it could be when you have to do this while adjusting to a new environment as well. But fear not, you're not the only one going through these same things. You are going through these little struggles with many other freshmen in your own school and even in other universities. Here are 8 things freshies can relate to when meeting new people during their freshie year.
- Figuring out how you should act around someone you just met is like finding the perfect formula to solve a Math problem.
You want to make a good first impression, but you don't want to look like you're trying so hard. You just want to put the right amount of effort in trying to present yourself well.
- You become more aware of your facial expressions.
You don't know if you're smiling too much or too little. You are also pretty worried that you're possibly wearing a RBF.
- When seeing someone you met along the corridor, you're not sure if you should smile and say hi.
You're worried that this person might have forgotten meeting you and get weirded out, thinking that you just randomly smile at strangers.
- Your brain is struggling to work 10000000000000x faster to think of a topic to talk about when there's awkward silence.
Silence can be uncomfortable between you and people you're not so closed to. You think of the most random topics to bring up just to keep the conversation going.
- When you want to be quiet for awhile, people always assume that you're "anti-social."
Silence is good too, okay? Being quiet can be relaxing. It doesn't automatically mean that you don't want to meet new people. It also doesn't mean that you're sad either. Let me have my silence and alone time.
- In your head, you practice the introductory line you plan on delivering over and over again before approaching someone to introduce yourself.
It has to be perfect.
- You know what it's like to be a "half baked" friend.
You're not quite sure when you can consider someone a friend, or if and when they already consider you a friend. You tip toe around topics that could possibly be "too personal." You also become unsure if you can share the weird and random facts since you aren't sure if you're friends
- And when you find the people who can accept you for who you are without any judgment at all, it is as if destiny has played its part, and everything in the world is right again.
Hooray for newfound friends!