4 Signs You Need A Social Media Detox
- You can't be separated from your phone for more than 10 minutes.
Sure, stalking that certain photographer on Instagram is valuable for your feed-inspiration but does it really require so much time for you to be online? We end up spending half the day scrolling up and down different social media sites and it can definitely be a bit too much, both for us and the people around us. We end up spending more time with ourselves on our phones than we do with the people we love. What about family dinners or hanging out with friends? If the time you're supposed to spend with them ends up with you dearly clutching your phone with both of your hands and your eyes trained on the screen as you keep scrolling down, then you're definitely in need of some space between you and your smartphone.
- You're afraid of missing out
Do you want to know the number one reason why most people end up spending all day on their Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram feed? They're afraid they'll miss out on something big. May it be a tweet from an ex or another Facebook status from your friends, they want to be the first to know. A little bit dramatic, but it does happen and like it or not, we've all been guilty of this. While it's good to keep in touch with the people who are far from us distance-wise, it's definitely not productive to keep staring at your phone all day waiting for some kind of drama to happen. You end up distancing yourself from people who make it a point to see you or say "hi, how are you?" throughout the day.
- You end up feeling more insecure after you use social media
Stalking can be detrimental to your emotional health and here's why: When you spend your own precious time looking at someone else's life through their pictures or tweets, you end up comparing yourself to them. That may lead to you feeling inferior to them. You end up wanting the same things that they have or go to the same places that they've been to, or worst, end up wanting their life as well. Stalking may seem harmless at first but when it consumes all the possible time that you could be using to improve yourself, then that's something you should start looking into. Most people also become more conscious about what other people say when they post images of themselves and that leads them to be more insecure. If what other people say is all you care about, you should know that what they say about you doesn't define who you are.
Similarly, your own posts don't define who you are because who you are online doesn't automatically mirror who you really are in reality.
- You can't do anything without tweeting about it or posting a picture on Instagram
There are some things that you should learn to keep to yourself. Some of the important things like your location, address, or where you're staying if you're on a holiday should definitely be kept secret because who knows who could access that information? Another thing is that you should learn to enjoy things by yourself instead of posting all about it.
Do you think it's time for a social media detox or do you think you've got everything under control?
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"Today, I Won"
I always caught feelings for someone, and hoped so much that one day there could a thing between the two of us. I'm usually the one that makes the effort to buy and/or make cute gifts, chats them every other day, and stays up all night with him.
When I was 16, my childhood crush suddenly came back into my life. We'd constantly send updates to each other, recommend favorite songs and talk even the most random things. He'd even text me as early as 6 to just greet me good morning almost everyday. I hoped so much that when I confessed, he suddenly stopped talking to me.
For short, he ghosted me. Those 6 months I spent talking to him, allotting my time for him, and staying up until 3 am for him - all gone in a simple confession. Although I had a few crushes before him, he's the only one that got me in real pain. It was the kind of pain that I never thought I'd experience. It was the kind of pain that I couldn't believe.
After 7 years (it happened back in 2017), I thought he came back into my life to stay, but I guess he's just one of the guys who distanced. I felt a complete loser that time. But during this quarantine, everything was different. I caught feelings for someone else, but he treated me with the best kindness yet.
It happened at 2 am, May 30, 2020, when I impulsively confessed my feelings through messaging him. After saying my feelings, he responded with genuine and kind words. We both even complimented each other. Although the feelings didn't reciprocate, I still found a connection that can't be replaced with any guy.
To my 16 year old self, here I am, 18 and happy. You may have felt that time was the biggest regret and loss, but I'm here to tell you, we won. Today, I won.
Why our high school barkada is the best?
Remembering our high school years entails quite a lot reminiscing of the things we all been through when we were younger. You’ve experience a lot of new things during those 4 wonderful years and did most of them with the few people you consider your barkada. And through a series of all the lunch breaks you had together, the walks you took on the way home, and taking the same classes, you never thought you’d survive, you have made your life’s greatest friends.
Here are some of the reasons why your high school barkada is the best:
1. You figured out early teenage life together. The transition one have undergone from being a kid to a teenager wasn’t easy. For a moment you are not sure whether you should have played with your friends during recess or you should have just sat down and ate your food because you were too old for games. But whatever it is you chose to do, having friends who were as clueless as you make everything feel easier because you know, deep down, you’d figure things out eventually. You just need good company.
2. They were with you during your “jeje“ days. I bet you have pictures taken with Camera360 and Retrica. You also have pictures edited using Pizap with embarrassing captions and you somehow kept some of them so you could have something to post online during their birthdays.
3. They know all your exes. They will never EVER forget the name of an ex-boyfriend, an ex-fling, an ex-crush, and an almost you had. They will remind you of your every questionable love decision but you’ll just laugh anyway while saying “Past is past”.
4. They never judge you. They have welcomed you to their lives when you thought jelly shoes and checkered polos were the bomb! They were quick to have told your teachers that you were not feeling well so you could go home when you really just needed to poop. You tell them every embarrassing story you have and were fine with it.
5. You can always count on them. From the moment you first fell in love and the moment you first had your heart broken, they were with you. They were with you the moment you lost a parent and at moments when you thought you had nothing. Through every break-up and breakthrough, they were there to be your support system.
6. They are your family. Your high school friend’s family is your own family’s extension. Their parents are like your own. Don’t you feel a little kilig whenever your friend’s parents call you “anak”? And then eventually calling them mama and papa became so natural? I felt that, all the time.
7. They will always be your home. They are your place of refuge and security, the place who offers you their hands when you feel lost and the place you run to when you need saving. No matter how much time and distance separate you, they will be the one’s that you always long for and they are the one’s that you will always return to.
You're gonna bend and break and then at some point in your life, you feel like you don't want to fall in love again.
Not because you're no longer capable of loving but because you're so afraid to get hurt again that you don't want to take a risk anymore. And you're gonna wake up one day and realize that you're not the same person as you were yesterday. The heart aches, heartbreaks, frustration, you'll see, those will transform your whole being into something better.
Honey, move forward. Let go off all the things that are not meant for you. Let go of all the people who hurt you and take you for granted. Don't be stuck feeling miserable.
And don't turn that love into hate when you resent someone for hurting you or for breaking your heart. Just wish them well and let them go. Welcome the possibility of a beautiful love that will come your way. You're worthy of love that you keep on giving to other people. Keep that in mind.
I wish you well and all the happiness. You deserve it.
Here we are — with rough hands entwined, damned hearts at peace, broken souls resting with ease —savoring each passing moment before we part ways...hoping things will turn out to be okay. Here we are — standing still, keeping our earnest desire and ardent passion for each other at bay — hoping the Universe will finally grant us of the day that we no longer have to pretend... that things will no longer have to end.
Here we are — with crooked smiles, lingering touch that will last for a while -- gathering all the remaining courage to set each other free. Wishing for the day that our hearts will no longer have to worry. Here we are letting each other go. Even though we both know that the future is uncertain. Even though we're unsure if our paths will cross once again.