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Why We Always Blame the Affair on "The Other Woman"

Remember that it takes two to tango.
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We know that there's nothing empowering about being the third party in a relationship; and to add to the cons of that list, when an affair gets discovered, most people tend to blame The Other Woman.

It doesn't end there: She's eventually called malandi, a b*tch—and these are just the PG versions. The question is why is the blame so focused on her when it's the partner who cheated? Remember, it takes two to tango, and no matter what the circumstances are, she wasn't the one who was in a committed relationship. (Not to say that the third party is faultless, but hear us out.)

According to Christine Hartman, Ph.D., a behavior scientist and relationship expert, it's easier to point fingers at the other woman because she is an 'easy target.'

"Hating the person you love that wronged you, on the other hand, is confusing," she said in a Women's Health feature. "Putting the blame on him makes you address uncomfortable questions, like 'what if our marriage is a sham?' 'Maybe he's not who I think he is?' 'Am I going to be alone the rest of my life?'"

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* Minor edits have been made by the Candymag.com editors.

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