Why It's Okay That You Never Had Your First Kiss Yet

Don't panic!
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When you have yet to lock lips with someone else, it is almost too easy to feel like a total Jessie Geller. A classic film for all girls who have never had their first kiss yet, Never Been Kissed shows us why you shouldn't have to feel like you have to rush things. I know it may seem like you're going to have to wait forever until it happens but love comes when you least expect it to, and in the most unconventional way.

And while you wait until you turn 25, become an undercover reporter in your old high school, and fall in love with your incredibly attractive English teacher, here are a few reasons on why it is absolutely okay that you haven't had your first kiss yet:

1. You never forget your first kiss.

It's true what people say—you never forget the story of your first kiss. Whether it's incredibly embarrassing or over-the-top romantic, they can easily recall every detail. Whether it happened when you were 15 or when you were 25, it's almost impossible to forget which is why you shouldn't feel any pressure to fast track your love life. It's probably going to be a story you tell your children, or your grandchildren so you might as well make it a good one!

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Wouldn't you rather talk about your first kiss as something that happened with the right person, and at the right time rather than as something you're embarrassed about because you regret it

2. It's actually not that big of a deal.

I bet people have countlessly given you that patronizing aww or the shocked "are you serious?" when you reveal that you've never actually had your first kiss. I don't get why at such a young age, people are already shamed and teased as lonely and unwanted just because they haven't had their first kiss. Sure, it really is an important milestone in your life, but people oversell it way too much. 

Society has a nasty way of making you feel like a loser if you have never kissed someone yet, or tricking you into believing that if you're alone now, you'll be alone forever.

It isn't always going to happen the way you want it to. Truth is, first kisses don't really happen the way it happens in the movies you watch or in the books you read, but that doesn't mean you should force it to happen whenever and wherever.


3. Waiting for the right one beats rushing it.

Your love life was never a race to begin with. You shouldn't feel like you're competing with every person in your barkada to see who gets their first kiss first. Some of my friends even tell me that they regret not waiting—that their first kiss was nothing but awkward and uncomfortable because they forced it to happen. They say that they just "wanted to get it over with" but regretted it immediately because they knew they couldn't just have a do-over. Your first is your first, whether it happened the way you imagined it to or not.

People rush because society pressures them too much. I believe that there's only reason why you haven't had your first kiss yet, and that's because it wasn’t meant to happen yet. It'll happen when it is meant to happen, in the right place, in the right time and with the right person.


4. There's more to you than your relationship.

Your love life doesn't define you, and it never will. Relationships are meant to make you better. The people who are happy in their relationships are also the ones who are happy when they're single. Why? Because they know that the secret to being happy with someone else is being capable of being happy on their own. Be your own person and know who you are outside of a relationship. You shouldn't feel like you're in search of a missing piece to complete you because you should feel like you're already whole on your own.

Don't rush into something that doesn't feel right. Just because your first kiss hasn't happened doesn't mean it never will. Work on yourself first, and love will come eventually.

5. You're not alone.

I know you may feel like you're the last person on the planet who has never kissed someone but you're not. Even though society has tricked you into thinking that you're the minority, part of that society are probably the minority too. I have known people who shame unkissed lips when theirs remain untouched too so don't be fooled. It's because we have grown into a culture where we do not want to identify with the side who society views as unexperienced, lame, or weird. What's so weird about not having your first kiss yet? There are other people out there who know that their first kiss is something they shouldn't rush because it really is something special. Let your life take its course and surprise you with love.









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This blog is dedicated to all teens out there struggling in determining what they really want in their life or if you simply want a glow up. And since were still facing a pandemic, I think this is also a season where everyone is re-thinking about their lives. So, I hope these advices might help you.

Tip #1. TAKE RISK - since most of you are still young, I advice you to take your biggest risk. Whether it may be taking the course you want, a skill you want to acquire or just simply taking the risk to throw away your emotional baggage from your childhood. While you're still young, you have very little to lose. You dont have that much commitments and responsibilities. Because the older you get, the more responsibilities and obligations came. So when they are still not piling up, take the risk! As for me, the biggest risk I took when I was still a teenager is to CUT OFF TOXIC FAMILY TIES.

I may sound rude here but, yeah. I decided to throw away my emotional baggage from my traumatic childhood and cut off some of my family ties and it is completely okay! You dont have to be bothered by whatever they will say. Because at your age, you are already investing on your growth as a person. If you really want to grow, THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME FOR YOU TO TAKE RISK BUT NOW. Because in taking risk you are actually giving yourself a reward of getting something amazing or beyond what you expect you can have. As they say, the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward. Keep in mind that the bigger the risk, the bigger possibility of FAILURE. But that is completely OKAY. Because just like what I said earlier, you are still young. You dont have so much to lose so, dont be afraid to take the risk and then fail. But after failing, learn from it and the more courage you have to take risk the greater the learning, reward or happiness. Ito na nga, how to take risk nga ba? And what are the risk that would actually help me to grow? #

2: VOICE LESSON - dont get me wrong, hindi ito vocalization para sa pagkanta. What I mean is, learn to listen to that VOICE INSIDE YOU. Listen to your heart, to your intuition and to your visions because it will be your GUIDE. Because I realize that as you go along your journey of your life and if you really want to be YOURSELF and be successful in achieving your goals, the only GUIDE that you should follow is your OWN VOICE.

It is okay to take and consider other people's advices but at the end of the day,you should never forget to listen to your own voice. Because that voice is what tells you what you truly want. How would you know that if it is your 'own' voice? Your own voice always comes from your HEART. The voice where YOU and GOD'S voice are one. Because I firmly believe that God knows your heart and that is where he reside. I like journaling because whenever I journal my thought every night and every morning, I feel a dual voice inside my head. Like, it contradicts what the other voice is telling. For example: If we have dreams or goals that puts us so much weight and pressure to the point that it makes you exhausted, STOP. Because it might be a dream or goal of someone else. I believe that your own dreams and goals may be frustrating most of the time, but that frustration has fueling feeling that will always tell you that 'This is the hard way to better so keep going'. Frustration in your own dreams will not make you feel exhausted because achieving a dream itself is a fulfilling feeling.

#3. TAKE ACTION - if you really want something to happen, take action. Dont just sit there and wait things to come your way. Make action or decisions that will take you to where you want to go in your life. Just like what I said in one of my novels that I am writing in wattpad, "There is no such thing as destiny or fate. Because YOU make your OWN life choices." For example, I cannot expect to be a published author if I dont write any novels right? The bottomline here is, if you are not moving forward you are actually moving backward. And it is a sad thing. Life is full of situations where you will be put in the line whether you take courage or just stay where you are. Because GROWING needs consistency in moving forward. So if you dont have to enough courage to take action, your life will always stay the same or worse you will continuously shrink down.

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Last, #5. INVEST IN YOURSELF - especially now that you are still young, you should focus on investing on yourself more. Time is your bestfriend at this point of your life. You have so much time to discover things about yourself. I never regret buying and reading books that I never knew will help me later on in dealing life's challenges. You can use that time to read books, gain wisdom, or pick a new skill, improve your talent and learn from your experiences. Keep learning outside your home or your school. Because the real battlefield is OUTSIDE. What you learn in school will only help you in your career but your wisdom and experiences will help you in life or as a person. People who doesnt embrace growth will never succeed in their life. (This is a reflection blog from my 21st birthday last week. I hope you can feature this on your page and I hope it can help others as well. )

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