This Is Why Most Couples Break Up After Being Together for One or Two Years
When it comes to dealing with obstacles in long-term relationships, you've probably heard about the seven-year itch, a psychological term which suggests a decline in romance and affection after around, well, seven years. And while that could still be far enough into the future for you not to worry about yet, did you know that it doesn't have to take that much time for the honeymoon period to end?
Naturally, when you're in love, you're on cloud nine; and for you, everything is perfect—especially your significant other. Studies have shown your emotions can affect your judgment, so even though there's something about him that's off, chances are, you'll ignore your instinct and push through with what makes you happy.
Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together tells Bustle that the "relationship euphoria" starts to wear off during the early years and that's when the reality begins to set in. "Both partners relax, and stop being on their best behavior."
Other than that, it's also during the first few years of being together when you start to really get to know a person. "Old family habits assert themselves, and they begin to disagree about things they were tolerant of before," Tessina says. "Both partners are realizing this is about the rest of our lives, and that is a scary concept."
But here's the good news if you do make it past the two-year mark: Research done by Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford, found that couples who have been together for a longer time than two years have a lesser chance of breaking up in the future.
"We know a lot more about the relationships that worked out than the ones that didn't," said Rosenfeld. "The way the census and other surveys tend to collect data just doesn't produce a very good picture. People also don't recall failed relationships too well."
And while there appears to be no one secret to a lasting relationship, Rosenfeld notes that "the longer a couple stays together, the more hurdles they cross together, the more time and effort they have jointly invested into the relationship, and the more bound together they are."
"the longer a couple stays together, the more hurdles they cross together, the more time and effort they have jointly invested into the relationship, and the more bound together they are."
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