Relationships and Dating In Every Age
Relationships and dating in every age is very different. You surely have matured and learned a lot of lessons as you grow older, which changes the way you deal with boys and relationship troubles. How different are they from each other, you ask? Here's a short guide to help you.
13-15 years old
How you likely met: You go to the same schools, are in the same circle, or during summer camp or summer classes.
Firsts: First kiss, first fight, first heartbreak, first time to cry yourself to sleep, first date, first time to hold a guy's hand. Almost every relationship first.
Your dates: You'd be lucky if mom and dad allowed you to go out without supervision. Mostly you hang around in the mall or some place that's 15 minutes away from your house.
Causes of your fights: Not being able to respond to a message ASAP, or hearing from a friend of a friend of a friend that your boyfriend likes someone else or is someone else's crush.
Causes of breakup: Because you can't have a boyfriend yet or because you just fell out of love.
16-18 years old
How you likely meet: You go to the same school, are on the same club, or he was introduced by a friend of a friend.
Firsts: First time to talk about the future a.k.a. college and how your relationship can survive the busy days.
Your dates: They are mostly quick and you're practical about it because college is tough on both of your finances. Boo!
Causes of your fights: Not enough time for each other or just because you've been so stressed in school lately.
Cause of breakup: Because it's best at this point in your life. You both realize that juggling your relationship with school isn't really impossible, but very difficult.
19-22 years old
How you likely met: You both interned for the same company or were introduced by a friend of a friend or your titas and titos.
Firsts: First time have a conversation about your career and what happens after you both graduate from college.
Your dates: Day trips to places that are a few hours away from where you are.
Causes of fights: Time and commitment are serious issues and if one of these appear to be blurry to either one of you, serious talk is necessary.
Cause of breakup: Uncertainty of the future because either or both of you will want to know if you're have the same thing in mind.
22 and above
How you likely met: You are officemates, you went to the same college, or were introduced by a friend of a friend or your titas and titos.
Firsts: First talk about marriage or growing old together.
Your dates: Out of town and even out of the country trips together or with your friends.
Causes of fights: Time since you are both busy working on your careers, and sometimes even money when you're saving up for something big.
Cause of breakup: Usually because you both don't have the same outlook and plans in life.
Remember, Candy Girls, that this is not the same for everybody and every couple. You and your partner get to decide what makes and breaks your relationship. You can both set the tone on how serious you are about your future no matter how old you two are. The important part of your journey as a couple is that you're learning together and that you're willing to compromise to make things work between the two of you. Good luck!
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.