When I was in high school, having a boyfriend wasn't really my priority. School was stressful enough that I was happy being single—until I reached college when I suddenly felt a tinge of envy whenever my friends' boyfriends visited them in our classroom.
It bothered me for a while and I started to think that I wasn't pretty or funny enough to catch a boy's attention; but I realized that there's more to life than being in a relationship. I have my friends, I was part of the volleyball team of my college, and I had my family who really looked out for me.
I realized that there's more to life than being in a relationship.
I think it's only natural to find validation from other people when you're young—especially from the opposite sex, but when my friends would cry for hours and drink until the sun went down, I thought to myself, "Are they really happy in their relationships?" And I also wondered, if that boy is really worth the pain they're all going through right now.
At that moment, I felt thankful that I was single. Don't get me wrong, I've seen them glowing and so in love but I feel like they're missing out on a lot of things—and since we were still young, I think it would be better to enjoy our teens first before delving into a relationship.
When my friends bounced from one boy to another, it made me feel a little torn. It's easy for them to throw their love to some random guy, rather than to fully love themselves. They're trying so hard to please a boy when they can just enjoy life focused on other things that could really bring them happiness.
They're trying so hard to please a boy when they can just enjoy life focused on other things that could really bring them happiness.
While they were out with their significant others, I was either in the library studying, or mingling with other people in my org (you can't do that if you have a seloso boyfriend!). I learned how to adjust to the people I meet from different colleges within the campus, and I was able to be content and happy with just being with myself.
Even though there were times that I wished I had someone to take care of me in a romantic way, I knew that everything will happen at the right time with the right guy—all I have to do is patiently wait. I don't want to rush in finding a potential partner just because everyone is doing it; I want to meet him when we're both ready. It doesn't matter if it would take a while but I'd rather enjoy being single in the meantime than settle for something that wasn't meant to be.