The Search for Your Dream Guy

Whip out your detective notebook and magnifying glass to decipher the clues that will lead you to the perfect boy for you!
by Angel Constantino Aquino   |  Mar 14, 2010
illustration by Beam Mariano
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In your mind, you have an image of your dream guy. You've imagined in perfect detail the way he looks—the waves in his hair, the color of his eyes, the shape of his nose, his height, and weight. You've probably even made a list of the qualities you want him to have, from the way he always offers to carry your things to the fact that he makes time to play with you little bro. But you feel that there's still missing piece in the puzzle. Don't fret! Candy gives you four clues to help you find the missing link.

CLUE #1: Your TV Crushes
Who would have thought that by analyzing the psyche of your TV crushes, you can figure out exactly what traits you like in a guy? When we admire a certain character, be it in a book, movie, or TV show, it may mean there are certain qualities in that person that we approve of or there may be values he stands for that we also believe in. Do you adore Ron Weasley because of his  unwavering loyalty to his best bud Harry, despite that fact that he's not as brave or heroic? Then perhaps being loyal is one thing you want your dream guy to have. Do you find Bleeker (Michael Cera) in the film Juno just too cute for words? Then maybe real guys who are just as humble and unassuming attract you too.

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Beware of: The Bad Boys
They may be unspeakably hot on cam, but there's a reason why they don't usually get the girl. Bad boys have a devil-may-care attitude and usually don't treat the ladies with respect. While it's okay to admire them from afar (after all, who can resist the piercing gaze of Gossip Girl's Chuck Bass?), don't go looking for those traits in your dream guy because chances are, you'll just end up with broken heart.

CLUE #2: Your Dad's best traits
Girls usually admire guys who are like their dads. Think about the qualities you admire in your father or a male figure you're close to. Do you love the fact that you can ask him any question on history or politics, and he can answer you straight away? Then perhaps a guy who can fill your thirst for knowledge is just what you need. Do you appreciate how he works really hard to give you the best of everything? Then a guy who is responsible is a plus for you!


Beware of: Daddy's Flaws
Granted, your dad is a hero in you eyes. But not everyone is perfect—your dad makes mistakes too. Does he sometimes have one drink too many and ends up shouting at the top of his lungs at parties? Does his temper flare up when your mom makes a small mistake and he ends up bearing her? Remember, just ‘cause your dad does it, doesn't mean you should tolerate the same behavior from your guy.

CLUE#3: Your past crushes
Looking at your past may give you valuable insights. Maybe the last guy you liked didn't know you existed, but you admired how he would stop to chat with Manong Guard and greet the school janitor with a smile. Then courtesy and the ability to talk to people from all walks of life probably top your list. Sure, things didn't work out with your ex, but you loved how he always made you laugh. Then be sure to look for a guy with a great sense of humor.


Beware of: Unfair Comparisons
It's good to have high standards—in fact, every girl should have them. But try not to keep comparing the guy you like to guys you've liked before. Every person is different. Just because he doesn't play basketball as well as your ex, or he can't spell to save his life, doesn't mean he won't make a good boyfriend.

CLUE # 4: Kilig song lyrics
If you were to be serenaded by your crush, what song would he sing for you? The songs on your kilig playlist can definitely reveal something about the type of guy for you. If you prefer someone who croons Dashboard Confessional's "Stolen"( I watch you spin around in the highest heels/ You are the best one, of the best ones/ We all look like we feel/  You have stolen my? You have stolen my heart...), then you probably prefer romantic guys who make you their world. But if you get totally psyched when you hear Timbaland's "The Way I Are"(Before I let you lose pound I'll buy a bigger car/ So listen baby girl/ I love you just the way you are), then his wealth or status in life don't matter to you—what matters is he loves you for you!


Beware of: Unrealistic Promises
Can't get the Backstreet Boys' old hit "I'll Never Break Your Heart" out of your head?("I'll never break your heart/I'll never make you cry/I'd rather die, than live without you/I'll give you all of me/Honey, that's no lie...)Seriously. You don't want a guy who makes promises he won't be able to keep.

Before you wrap up this case and consider it solved, remember that in the search for your dream guy, nothing is ever black and white. Don't discount guys who don't fit into the cookie-cutter mold you've created of the perfect guy. Because in the end, though he may not seem perfect to others—if you know he's perfect for you, then that's all that matters.

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Angel Constantino Aquino
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