The Love Doctor: Dino Imperial
Love Dilemma: I just went through a really bad breakup. How do I get over my ex?
The Doc says: Don't mope around and listen to sad songs that remind you of him. You can cry buckets during the first few days, but after that, you should go out and have good, clean fun. Hang out with your friends, ‘cause you were probably neglecting them a bit when you were still in a relationship. Girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but friends will always be there for you-so stick with them during this tough time.
Spill! What's the worst break-up you've ever experienced? I broke up with one of my exes at a party. Apparently, some guy told her that I cheated on her-but I didn't. She went out and I followed her. It was raining, I was on my knees begging her not to leave me, and she was crying and shouting, "No, get away from me!" Parang Usher's "Confessions."
Love Dilemma: I've had my heart broken so many times, and now I'm afraid to take risks and get hurt. How do I learn to trust again?
The Doc says: I feel ya! It's hard when you've just broken up with someone and you feel like you don't want to experience that pain ever again. You probably think all men are jerks right now, but look at your close guy friends-they're not that bad, are they? Give yourself time and enjoy the single life. Don't rush into another relationship, but don't give up on dating, either. You'll find someone eventually. If you don't, you can always come to me! Haha!
Spill! How do you deal with heartbreak? I hang out with my friends. I talk to my parents and let it all out. They comfort me and tell me, "There are really some girls who can boss you around and be so demanding, but if a girl really likes you, she won't ask all these things from you. She'll respect you for who you are."
Love Dilemma: My parents don't like my boyfriend! How do I get them to open up to him and give him a chance?
The Doc says: I know you hate it when your parents tell you that your boyfriend is not good for you, and I hate to break this to you, but they're usually right. They're just looking out for you; parents know these things. Talk to them and ask them what they don't like about him or what they think is wrong with him. If you still feel that your guy is worthy after that, then get him to spend time with your parents so they can get to know him better.
Spill! Have you had any disastrous Meet the Parents encounters? My parents didn't like my ex. I didn't listen to them, and I learned the hard way. After we broke up, they told me that they just wanted me to come to my own decision and learn from my own mistakes.
Love Dilemma: I like this guy but he doesn't know I exist! How do I get him to notice me?
The Doc says: Find out what he likes so you can have common ground. For example, you can say, "Hey, do you like Fall Out Boy? I love them! Do you already have tickets for their concert this month?" But don't try too hard, because if the guy really likes you, he'll make the first move.
Spill! What's the sweetest thing a girl has done for you? I didn't have a date for my junior prom, ‘cause my girlfriend then was in the States. I was so lonely! The following year, I came home to find rose petals leading to my room. I also saw the suit I wore to my prom, and attached to it was a note that said, "Please wear this time-traveling outfit to go back to the past." When I finally entered my room, there was a sign that said, "Junior Prom 2004"-and my girlfriend was standing there in her prom dress! We had a romantic candlelit dinner and danced the night away.
Five things you'd be surprised to know about Dino:
- "I can actually be deep sometimes. People think I'm always clowning around, and I get annoyed when they don't take me seriously."
- "I'm not an airhead. I actually work hard in school. I need a good education because showbiz won't always be part of my life."
- "I'm not a slob! I'm actually very OC. In my condo, I vacuum, clean the bathroom, and sweep and scrub the floor. During shoots, I fold my own clothes. I even want to learn how to cook!"
- "I've never played a girl; I'm very loyal. When I'm with someone, I'm completely focused on her."
- "I'm not THAT conceited. Haha! My friends and I are really maloko, but people take it as being mayabang. That's just our way of having fun."
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"Today, I Won"
I always caught feelings for someone, and hoped so much that one day there could a thing between the two of us. I'm usually the one that makes the effort to buy and/or make cute gifts, chats them every other day, and stays up all night with him.
When I was 16, my childhood crush suddenly came back into my life. We'd constantly send updates to each other, recommend favorite songs and talk even the most random things. He'd even text me as early as 6 to just greet me good morning almost everyday. I hoped so much that when I confessed, he suddenly stopped talking to me.
For short, he ghosted me. Those 6 months I spent talking to him, allotting my time for him, and staying up until 3 am for him - all gone in a simple confession. Although I had a few crushes before him, he's the only one that got me in real pain. It was the kind of pain that I never thought I'd experience. It was the kind of pain that I couldn't believe.
After 7 years (it happened back in 2017), I thought he came back into my life to stay, but I guess he's just one of the guys who distanced. I felt a complete loser that time. But during this quarantine, everything was different. I caught feelings for someone else, but he treated me with the best kindness yet.
It happened at 2 am, May 30, 2020, when I impulsively confessed my feelings through messaging him. After saying my feelings, he responded with genuine and kind words. We both even complimented each other. Although the feelings didn't reciprocate, I still found a connection that can't be replaced with any guy.
To my 16 year old self, here I am, 18 and happy. You may have felt that time was the biggest regret and loss, but I'm here to tell you, we won. Today, I won.
Why our high school barkada is the best?
Remembering our high school years entails quite a lot reminiscing of the things we all been through when we were younger. You’ve experience a lot of new things during those 4 wonderful years and did most of them with the few people you consider your barkada. And through a series of all the lunch breaks you had together, the walks you took on the way home, and taking the same classes, you never thought you’d survive, you have made your life’s greatest friends.
Here are some of the reasons why your high school barkada is the best:
1. You figured out early teenage life together. The transition one have undergone from being a kid to a teenager wasn’t easy. For a moment you are not sure whether you should have played with your friends during recess or you should have just sat down and ate your food because you were too old for games. But whatever it is you chose to do, having friends who were as clueless as you make everything feel easier because you know, deep down, you’d figure things out eventually. You just need good company.
2. They were with you during your “jeje“ days. I bet you have pictures taken with Camera360 and Retrica. You also have pictures edited using Pizap with embarrassing captions and you somehow kept some of them so you could have something to post online during their birthdays.
3. They know all your exes. They will never EVER forget the name of an ex-boyfriend, an ex-fling, an ex-crush, and an almost you had. They will remind you of your every questionable love decision but you’ll just laugh anyway while saying “Past is past”.
4. They never judge you. They have welcomed you to their lives when you thought jelly shoes and checkered polos were the bomb! They were quick to have told your teachers that you were not feeling well so you could go home when you really just needed to poop. You tell them every embarrassing story you have and were fine with it.
5. You can always count on them. From the moment you first fell in love and the moment you first had your heart broken, they were with you. They were with you the moment you lost a parent and at moments when you thought you had nothing. Through every break-up and breakthrough, they were there to be your support system.
6. They are your family. Your high school friend’s family is your own family’s extension. Their parents are like your own. Don’t you feel a little kilig whenever your friend’s parents call you “anak”? And then eventually calling them mama and papa became so natural? I felt that, all the time.
7. They will always be your home. They are your place of refuge and security, the place who offers you their hands when you feel lost and the place you run to when you need saving. No matter how much time and distance separate you, they will be the one’s that you always long for and they are the one’s that you will always return to.
You're gonna bend and break and then at some point in your life, you feel like you don't want to fall in love again.
Not because you're no longer capable of loving but because you're so afraid to get hurt again that you don't want to take a risk anymore. And you're gonna wake up one day and realize that you're not the same person as you were yesterday. The heart aches, heartbreaks, frustration, you'll see, those will transform your whole being into something better.
Honey, move forward. Let go off all the things that are not meant for you. Let go of all the people who hurt you and take you for granted. Don't be stuck feeling miserable.
And don't turn that love into hate when you resent someone for hurting you or for breaking your heart. Just wish them well and let them go. Welcome the possibility of a beautiful love that will come your way. You're worthy of love that you keep on giving to other people. Keep that in mind.
I wish you well and all the happiness. You deserve it.
Here we are — with rough hands entwined, damned hearts at peace, broken souls resting with ease —savoring each passing moment before we part ways...hoping things will turn out to be okay. Here we are — standing still, keeping our earnest desire and ardent passion for each other at bay — hoping the Universe will finally grant us of the day that we no longer have to pretend... that things will no longer have to end.
Here we are — with crooked smiles, lingering touch that will last for a while -- gathering all the remaining courage to set each other free. Wishing for the day that our hearts will no longer have to worry. Here we are letting each other go. Even though we both know that the future is uncertain. Even though we're unsure if our paths will cross once again.