No two torpes are alike. Different types call for different approaches. The main thing is to know what your guy likes, then give him what he likes and then some. Show him he doesn't need to be afraid of you. TLC your way to his hear!
- I-don't-know-you-at-all torpe.
You know enough about the guy. He, on the other hand, doesn't know you exist. The first thing you should do is make yourself known. Leave a mark that makes a good impression—that'll make it easy for him to get close to you. Say he plays on the basketball team. Watch his games (think front row). Compliment him for that last three-point shot he made. If you know a friend of his, try to get a casual intro with him, smile then hold his gaze for a couple of seconds before looking away.
Once this is done, make small talk. Start by talking hobbies, favorite movies, where he likes to hangout. Then when you've gotten a little closer, slip some subliminal messages into your conversations. But remember that this torpe type is usually super dense. You might have to get straight to the point to help him pick up what you're trying to say. Be really sweet and take away all his doubts.
But if you've given your best shot and he still hasn't gotten the hint, he's hopeless. Sorry na lang. Go look for someone else.
- The easy-challenge torpe.
He's been there for a while and you think he likes you. His being torpe is his only problem. He doesn't know what to do, or where to begin. A lesson in small talk will help work things out. During one of your casual talks, plug in the topic of love and courtship and tell him how easy it can be. Get your point across with specific examples. Say something like "If you like a girl but don't know how to tell her this is what you should do..." Too bad, though, if your instincts were wrong and he uses the advice on another girl! But go sweet on him to show him you're not going to bite. Be demure but subtly aggressive. Show him you're not like other girls who are so hard to understand, but that you're really easy to get along with. Stay simple and just be with him... a lot.
Show him you're not like other girls who are so hard to understand, but that you're really easy to get along with.
- Your torpe friend.
This last torpe type is probably the most difficult. He's your buddy and you like him. This gets much harder if he is your best friend. You think he's temporarily blind and he can't see you in any other way at the moment but as a chum. Being the optimist that you are, you feel all he needs is a little more work and time. And why not? You're simply irresistible! But there is a great risk involved here—there's always the possibility that your friendship will suffer. But if you think you might kick yourself later on in life for not having even tried, then go ahead and take that risk. You never know what might happen.
If he's your friend, all you have to do is to add a little spark to the usual things you do! Be sweeter than ever and really show that you like him a lot. You don't have to go out and buy him flowers. Just text him affectionate messages and start talking to him more often. Use your feminine charms. If he still doesn't get you, take the last option—tell him straight. If he still won't take the hint, forget it. Maybe it's his way of saying he'd rather keep the friendship. That he's just way too torpe to deal with love with a great girl like you.
In any of these cases, just stick to the friendship. After all, you know it's his loss.