The 5 Types of Breakups People Deal with in College
College breakups are the wooorst. You're trying your best to juggle all your relationships with your group meetings, projects, papers, and exams... and then poof! It just happens and you don't know how to deal with everything anymore. But here's the truth: not all breakups feel the same because it depends on your reason for calling it quits with your guy. There are some that are just bound to happen, and there are also some that will make your walls crumble down. When we stumbled upon this article from Her Campus about the types of breakup that happen in college, we decided to make a list of the ones we've encountered and have seen our friends go through, too.
1. The breakup with your high school sweetheart.
Sadly, a breakup like this happens almost always in college. Maybe it's because of the hectic schedules or maybe it's because you just realize that you actually want different things in life and that transition was difficult for your relationship. The changes once you get into university can sometimes be overwhelming that your bond with bae won't be able to take it anymore.
2. The breakup with your first love.
Slightly similar to breaking up with your high school sweetheart, your breakup with your first love is something that most people also go through in college. You know in your heart that you've matured and your outlook in life is slightly more serious. You think you're so ready for the future and you can take whatever it is life decides to hurl at you. So when your breakup with your first real love happens, you'll go through a change you've never been through before.
3. The mutual breakup.
This breakup happens without the drama (like hurtful words being yelled at each other). It's a choice you've both made because you figured that not being in a relationship is the best thing you can do at this time of your life when you're also just trying to see where you're going. Recovering from this type of breakup is a bit easier since you still have that love and respect (hi, Calvin and Taylor!) for each other.
4. The breakup that happened because one of you has to leave.
College also gives you the opportunity to get into exchange programs and scholarships abroad. There are also times when you realize the school and the degree just isn't for you. And along with this kind of change is also a change in the amount of time you can give your relationship. The distance is hard and harsh, and so is the time difference.
5. The breakup you just needed to happen.
You probably saw this one coming. You've been too caught up with your school requirements and have been busy being a friend and a daughter. If there's one thing you can sacrifice at the moment so you can have more time for yourself, you know it's your relationship—you didn't even have to think twice. In short, you've just been waiting for him to initiate The Talk and just let you go.
While you'll go through different breakups in college, it is important to remember that you will get through it as a better person. Yes, you've heard that too many times already. But breakups, no matter how painful and heartbreaking they may be, will teach you a thousand lessons that you'll need as you walk through life. Never give up, Candy Girls!
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????