The 5 Commandments of Summer Love
Ahh, summer love. It is fleeting. It can only last for as long the fire is fed by the warmth of the summer sun. Once it's over, it really is—gone, evaporating into thin air.
Then it leaves you—heartbroken, lost, collecting the pieces of something that was cut short, something you would have wanted to keep as long as you can. But you can't, because that's just the nature of summer love.
In the spirit of #YOLO, we want you to really enjoy your summer vacay. If you want a fling this summer, go for it! Just don't allow it to break you, so you don't spend most days nursing a wounded heart instead of allowing the sun to kiss your face. So what are you supposed to do in the face of summer love? You heartbreak-proof yourself, of course.
- Be a free spirit. He may be cute and super smart. But there's also a high chance that he's just a bored soul looking for his own version of summer fun. While it is rude to slam the door and let a good chance pass you by, you should continue enjoying your summer activities as much as you can.
- Remember that it won't last. So the cute dude started IM-ing you, inviting you to cool off at the mall, hanging out with you as often as he can. No matter how difficult it is, don't get used to the good things he is doing for you and with you. Enjoy your time with him, but never forget that he might just be killing time while there's no schoolwork to be busy with.
- Don't focus on him. Who are we kidding? It's easy to ditch our family and friends once we begin hanging out with a cutie. Keep in mind, though, that no loved one is worth pushing aside for a person you aren't even sure would stick around after summer is over. Go out with the guy, but don't focus on the non-relationship you have with him. Keep yourself preoccupied with good times spent with the people who really matter.
- Keep it unofficial. Well, until you're sure enough that he's not just into you because he has nothing better to do this summer. Making it official, like two weeks after you met him at a resort, will have you investing your feelings in the relationship at such an early time. Then when he ditches you once vacay's over, there goes your broken heart. Take things slowly but surely for now.
- Set a deadline and a good-bye plan. The two of you are getting too close, and you're both enjoying whatever it is that you have. But set a date on when you should ask him about his plans for that thing that's going on between you. If he wants to take things to the next level, then good. If he doesn't, then at least you have a good farewell plan (a last hurrah at the beach with your friends or a sweet note, maybe?) prepared for him. Tell him that you can't be distracted once school begins, so you have to say good-bye. But don't forget to thank him for giving you a blast this summer, too.
Summer love is a little complicated, don't you think? But here's the 411: Not all summer loves remain summer loves. There are those that blossom into full-blown relationships that are worth keeping.
How do you recognize that kind of love? Sometimes you do, sometimes you don't. But we hope that when you feel it's more than just a fling or a spark, you have enough courage to fight the odds and keep it—even when the summer sun has already set.
How do you plan to heartbreak-proof yourself this summer, Candy GIrls? Tell us in the comments or tweet us @candymagdotcom!