The 10 Stages of Guys Getting Jealous
Stage 1: "What? Seriously? Is this for real?"
At first look, guys usually don't believe it. Most of the time, what comes to mind when a we see our girlfriend having fun with other guys is that she's just being friendly. However, it comes to a point where it seems a little too much. What would catch our attention or bother us is when our girlfriend forgets about our presence. Huhuhu, why?
Stage 2: "Hey, I'm sure I look better than him."
This is the point where our egos burst. Guys would compare themselves with the other guy and of course, we will always, always be better. That's a fact, not an opinion.
Stage 3: Getting a little violent... on the inside.
When we start feeling that our girlfriend really forgot about us already, we get violent, wanting to wrestle the other guy at the back of our minds. At this stage, we feel helpless. We probably want to stop what's happening (i.e. our girl laughing uncontrollably while she's with these guys), but we just won't because our emotions just might get out of hand. #StruggleIsSoReal
Stage 4: SOS: Calling or texting a bro or a close girl friend for some advice.
When we realize that we are not really sure on what to do or how to feel about the situation, we ask for help. We usually message our closest friends, tell them about what is happening, and ask them how to handle the situation. Well technically, we just really want our friends to make us feel better and assure us that our girl's still ours.
Stage 5: Attempting to calm down.
Once we talked to our friends, we calm down a little and try to assure ourselves that we're actually fine. We TRY. We try to believe that she really is just being friendly and there is nothing else beyond that. We would usually try to handle the situation as calm as possible but when we get jelly, we really get jelly, and it surely hits the spot. </3
Stage 6: The cold treatment.
If you think everything's okay already, HAHAHA NO. It's not over yet. There's no doubt that we would try to make our girlfriend feel that we got jealous or that we do not like what just happened or what is happening. We find the simplest way to tell her that "hey, baby, I think you broke my heart a little" without losing our cool.
Stage 7: Overthinking.
We just can't stop thinking about it, or jus forget about it and let it all go. Just like girls, the thought would always keep running around in our heads. We'll keep remembering that time when you left us standing alone at the corner watching you have fun with other guys. Sometimes, we'll even imagine or think of other things like you leaving us just to go and have fun. Cue: Sound of our hearts breaking.
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Stage 8: Getting her attention.
At this point, it's either we become the better person or we attempt to make her upset too by not minding her and by having fun with our bros and our girl friends. I believe that most of the time, we try to be the better person but sometimes it's just hard. We will also work on ourselves instead and how we can win our girlfriend's attention back, making her realize that it's more fun to be with us than any other guy or person in the world.
Stage 9: Getting a little clingy.
Once we've gotten her attention, we mostly want to do so many things with her and prove her that it really is more fun to be with us. We would constantly talk to her, ask her to hang with us, or be a little extra protective of her.
Stage 10: The confrontation.
Once all is well and she's back in our loving arms and we're already calm and ready, we raise the question: "Remember that time when…" And when she tells us her side and explain what really was going on, like that was nothing, and apologize for making us feel that way, everything's alright in the world again. For us guys, just an assurance from you would make us feel that, yes, that truly was nothing and we're greater than any other guy in her world.
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.
Before, sliding over the rainbows
Now, our hearts are bruised
Days once full of love and laughter
Became dawns of forfeited ever after
Smiles that bring ticklish sensations
Turned to cold question and answer
Figuring who would be the next instructor
The queen’s awake
Grappling to the happiness that the sorrow and sadness take
Going back to all the promises he couldn’t make
Poetry #2: YOUR VOICE
When you talk, your voice brightens my days. You provide me comfort in all the little things that you do. Your deep and mellow voice sends a tingling feeling inside me that makes me want to keep you in my life. I love talking to you every time, every day, every night and every minute if I could. You're someone just simply amazing.