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How To Get Over The Awkward Stage After Admitting Feelings For A Friend

It's not necessarily about going back to the way things were.
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We’ve said it once and we’ll say it again: catching feelings for your best friend is definitely one of the oldest stories in the book. Even so, it doesn’t make it any less confusing or tricky, and finding a way to tell them that is already a challenge in itself. There’s a possibility things get even tougher once you’ve already let it out. 

For a lot of us, the fear of talking about our feelings doesn’t come from having to be honest, it comes from not knowing how the other person would react. What if they say no? What if they don’t like me back? Most importantly, what if it changes the friendship completely and leads to a ~friendship~ break up? The thought sucks and we totally get you. If you can relate, here are some things to consider:

Give it time.

Just like how you needed time to think about your feelings, your bestie would need time to think about everything you’ve just said, too. In some ways, it might be more comforting to get an outright “yes” or “no” immediately, but good things always take time. By always, we mean in ALL ways. 

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Healthy distance puts things into perspective.

We hate to be the first to break it to you: things will have to change. If your best friend feels like they don’t see you the same way, you both will have to be more mindful of your boundaries and how to interact with each other so that no one gets hurt over something that could have been prevented.

On the other hand, if you are on the same page and they decide to go for itthey’ll definitely have to step up, which essentially, changes things, too. Figuring these things out may take some time and whether or not it leads to a romantic relationship, temporarily taking a step back will help both of you see things clearer. It might be easier said than done, but things always work out eventually. 

Relationships are a two-way street.

Hence, to answer the initial question: YES. Despite the potential awkwardness, the second guessing and the changed dynamics, it’s possible to stay friends after confessing your feelings. There’s a caveat here though, it’s IF and only IF the other person decides they’re willing to put in work to remain friends, too. Romantic or platonic, relationships are always going to be a two-way street: it can’t just be you who’s trying to keep or save the friendship. 

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Always remember: You will never lose anyone who is meant to be in your life by being honest. If you do, you’re probably better off without them anyways and trust that the universe has a much better plan for both of you.

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