This is Why We Do Stupid Things When We're In Love, According to Science
Have you always been curious as to why people do crazy, stupid, and unreasonable things when they're in love? Whether you're thinking of someone you know (Asking for a friend? *wink*), or you're already listing down all your past mistakes from the 2000s, science says your brain may be partly to blame for you acting stupid and irrational when you're happily in love.
With the help of brain scans, researchers saw the chemical changes that happen inside your head when you're in love and they found that a part of your brain which is essential for judgment shuts down when you get those butterflies in your stomach.
"When you look at someone you are passionate about, some areas of the brain become active," says Semir Zeki, a professor of neuro-aesthetics at University College London. "But a large part is deactivated, the part that plays a role in judgment."
In short, being in love makes you ignore the red flags and even makes you lose focus on your tasks because you're too wrapped up in positive emotions; and this could be dangerous, to your heart that is.
In moments where it's tough to be single, especially when you feel like you're not in the life stage you're 'supposed' to be in, don't fall into the trap of playing games, beating around the bush, or settling with whomever you're with right now just because you think there's no one else who would love you; don't waste your time on someone that you know won't be good for you long-term or someone who only keeps you busy but won't make you happy in the future.
If you think there's something off about the guy you're currently dating, don't ignore what you're feeling and trust your instinct. Sometimes, it's telling you something obvious but you choose to disregard it because of the overwhelming feeling you get when you're with him. Learn to take a step back, especially if you're looking for a real commitment.
Being stupid in love is not a crime, but not doing anything about it will lead to heartbreak. Eventually, you'll need to grow out of this phase so you won't end up getting constantly hurt by the same mistakes. Sure, letting go of someone who you thought was "the one" may be difficult, but if you really want to attain true happiness, there will be bumps along the way but trust us, it'll be worth it!
This story originally appeared on Femalenetwork.com.
* Minor edits have been made by the Candymag.com editors.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????