6 Love and Life Lessons We Can Learn from Korean Dramas
It's not a secret that Korean dramas have a special place in our hearts. For some, it's their happy place to experience kilig and good vibes while most watch Korean shows to relieve the stress they go through in everyday life. Aside from those, there are a lot of lessons about life and love we can also pick up from our favorite K-drama series:
- Surround yourself with positive people who believe in you.
They say your friends are the brothers and sisters God didn't give you, so it's really important to cherish the ones you have now. Just like in A Gentleman's Dignity, the four guys were there for one another through thick and thin.
Now that you're older, you should be aware of who your real friends are and appreciate them for all the things you've gone through together.
- You shouldn't change yourself just to get into a relationship.
Kim Sam Soon (Kim Sun Ah) in My Name is Kim Sam Soon was unlike the other girls—she didn't see herself as pretty but she kept doing her own thing and eventually met a guy who loved her for who she is.
Ladies, you don't have to change yourself just for a guy to like you. It's about time to stop settling for Mr. Right Now and patiently wait for Mr. Right.
- Stand up for what you think is right.
Geum Jan Di (Kim Hye Sun) of Boys Over Flowers wasn't really fitting in well in her new campus thanks to the bullying of all the students there. Plus, she had to deal with four rich boys who thought they could do whatever they wanted with anyone—but she's a fighter and teaches the leader a lesson he'll never forget.
Whether that's at home or in school, when you don't stand up for what you think is right, those around you will think that you agree with what's happening even if you’re opposed to it.
- Love comes when you least expect it.
Love moves in mysterious ways and just like in Descendants of the Sun, Captain Yoo (Song Joong Ki) and Dr. Kang found love in the most unexpected time and place—in the middle of a war. If you feel like the clock is running out for you when it comes to finding the one, don't lose hope, it'll come when you least expect it.
- Hard work will eventually pay off.
Nam Da Jung (Im Yoona) on Prime Minister and I is a reporter for a tabloid and is despised by her fellow media men for covering the same beat as theirs, but even though she was ridiculed for being assigned to a serious matter, she prevailed and was able to write a good piece.
In life, people will try to put you down and you'll feel like giving up along the way but you have to be stronger than that and show them that with your hard work and determination, you are deserving of where you are now.
- Be yourself and the right person will come.
Cheon Song Yi or popularly known as Steffi Cheon (Jun Ji Hyun) in My Love From the Star is unlike any other actress you've met; she's quirky, funny, and has a little bit of attitude on the side but because of her sassiness and fierceness, she proved those who are trying to pull her down wrong, and even managed to attract a rather charming "alien" in Do Min Joon (Kim Soo Hyun). So in a world full of people-pleasers, be a Song Yi and just keep doing you.
This story originally appeared on Femalenetwork.com.
* Minor edits have been made by the Candymag.com editors.
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First. Pixie dust and paper cuts – these are the first things Wendy knew about Peter Pan. Aurora first met Prince Philip when she was sixteen. Learning how to ride a bike was also a first while I was growing up, but you are probably the first of too many. The first collection of dust and stars; maybe Luna will try to ask, who was your first? I might answer and tell her that it was you.
The first of too many stars in the sky. You are the first of too many fallen leaves during fall – and you will be the most anticipated snowflake as winter comes. A dark path that you can’t see without any light, hence, you were once the moon and there are the stars that shine so bright at night. Are we too early? Or we just really want to be ahead of time? Even in a glimpse, I would like to see the two of us connect as if we can reach the sky. There are other parts of the heavens you have never saw and other oceans you haven’t laid your feet onto – but the constellations will always wait for you. Close your eyes, love, close your eyes. Start counting backward: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Count backward until you see the twinkling lights that will guide you to the right path. To the right satellite; to the right person. A first.
There are many firsts – first love, first heartbreak, first sport you played, the first thing you do in the morning, the first thing you remember about the person in front of you. There are a lot. It’s actually up to us how we will consider something as a first. So, Primo, you are already a first of too many.
If you know me, and know me well, I am not the biggest fan of idyllic lifestyles. With a Type A personality, I act immediately upon whatever challenge that needs to be addressed. I actually enjoy keeping my mind preoccupied: doing university work in my favourite cafe then running errands around town, grocery shopping here, updating my accounts there, photocopying documents on the way down the street - all just in time before having a glass of champagne at the bar with my friends come evening.
And so, you could imagine my bewilderment when the next challenge to be faced was an extensive self-quarantine protocol. I didn’t know what to do when my greatest responsibility in this situation was to do nothing at all. My first few attempts to combat my consternation were very much rooted in distraction and imagination. My distractions involved conducting research, writing songs, calling family and friends, filming videos, and eating chocolate! My imaginations and fantasies were centred on travelling, shopping, even clubbing (which I rarely do) for when they find a cure to COVID-19. I did anything and everything that could be considered constructive in order to pass the time, mainly hoping I could just undertake the basic human necessities to survive - that is, eat and sleep the day through - until the next day comes, until the world is closer to becoming a better place, until quarantine ends, until my flight follows through, until I see my family and friends again.
Days in self-isolation and suspended flights turned to weeks and turned to months. By the third extension here in Spain where I study Fashion Business, I had to tell myself this shall be my new normal now, that I was blessed to be healthy, that I was tired of merely existing and missed what it was like to actually live - even if just within four walls. Little by little, I began to find significance in the simple occurrences of the day: the soft glare of the rising sun beaming golden streaks through my bedroom window upon waking up, the fragrance of freshly washed bed sheets that I had painstakingly hung to fit a relatively small clothes rack without crumpling them, the crunch and tanginess of warm toasted bread topped with raspberry marmalade, the buzzing sound of a phone call from home just waiting to be answered, to the caress of a fuzzy sweater to keep warm at night. I realised, “What pleasures to be enjoyed in the pause of slow living!” Through this continued pause, which I loathed at first, I began to appreciate each moment of the day rather than wish it would pass more swiftly, moments I had overlooked so often before the lockdown. I started to find that the challenge of self-isolation was never to pause both the regular routines of life as well as the positive emotions that came with these - as initially, I thought it meant to pause all happiness, so as to withstand a time of endurance in hopes for a better tomorrow, much like a form of delaying gratification. Life is just too fragile these days to delay gratification any further.
Life has paused, but it has not stopped. Believe that like any punctuation mark in a sentence, the pause will provide the right timing of things to take place. Till then, let us not waste our time waiting. Instead, we could be in the moment, seek substance in simplicity (that is, in what we already have), And enjoy the pleasure in pause. “Practice the Pause. When in doubt, pause. When angry, pause. When tired, pause. When stressed, pause. And when you pause, pray.”