Thought these little things don't really amount to anything in a relationship? Thought they don't matter whenever you do them to your bae? That's where you're wrong, Candy Girls. You just don't know it yet, but these little things can actually hurt him more than you'll ever know. So before you do permanent damage to your relationship, stop doing these little things ASAP.
You don't argue with him on anything and vent about it in other ways.
Of course you want to be the perfect girlfriend for him. That's the goal, right? But in your attempt to be one, you agree with everything he says even when deep inside you really don't. The result? You let out your anger and frustration in different ways—through a passive-agressive status on Facebook, you don't talk to him for a few days, or you stay silent the entire time you're together. If you don't agree with him, say it. These negative emotions will pile up and eat you up from the inside. Before you know it, it's already swallowed you whole and you're already to frustrated and angry to keep working on what you have.
You point fingers and love saying the line "I told you so" during fights and arguments.
During heated arguments or even when you're just talking about something, never tell him this line or start blaming your bae. Sometimes, you just need someone to listen to what you have to say especially when you're upset about something. Pointing fingers and making him realize that it's his fault will just make him feel incapable of anything, like he's good for nothing. This will just result to him harboring negative feelings towards you or a fight that you both don't really need. Learn to listen, not because you have something to say but because he needs a listener at that moment.
You expect him to be the same guy.
At the back of your head, you always feel like you're missing the old times when he can read your mind, do things without you telling him to, or that he spends more time with you as much as he used to. We're not giving your bae an excuse, but changes in a relationship are inevitable. Life happens along the way and you both have dreams and ambitions you want to work on. Don't always expect him to read your mind and initiate the first move, because you have to do it, too. If it bothers you so much that it's not like it was before, talk to him instead of moping in a corner and thinking how unfair this relationship has become.
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