What To Do When Your Ex Writes Something About You
In this day and age, people are getting more and more expressive and vocal about their feelings. Let's admit it, we have vented out at one point in time on social media or even *gasps* in public—something we all shouldn't do again, TBH. But what are you supposed to do when The Ex does this to you? We give you help on how to deal right here.
The Sitch: He posts an angry-slash-very-emotional "letter" on social media.
What you should do: And this, ladies and gents, is the reason why you should go offline for a while after a breakup. He's angry and sad and heartbroken and confused. He clearly can't handle his feelings well. If he tags you and posts on your wall, untag yourself or delete the post. Send him a message after telling him you're sorry and asking him to not do it again. If he still does, unfriend him and block him. This way, he won't bother you online ever again.
The Sitch: He works for the school paper and writes an article that doesn't mention you, but clearly refers to you and your breakup.
What you should do: Remind yourself next time not to date a writer because there's a high chance he'll use you as material. LOLJK! Seriously, you can't really do much because the article already got published, right? If you're really feeling uncomfortable about it, then you can talk to him or send him a message about it. Ask him not to do it again because it's a little dyahe and it's putting you in such a bad light which is really unfair.
The Sitch: He writes a song that's clearly about you and performs it at some gathering, a la Ed Sheeran or Taylor Swift.
What you should do: Again, you can't do much about it because he's already performed the song infront dozens of people. The least you can do is to try to talk to him and tell him that you don't find it nice to have him singing about everything you've been through onstage. But if you don't want to talk to him, you can react the way Harry Styles did when he was asked about how he feels that T-Swizzle could be writing songs about him.
The thing you should always remember when dealing with The Ex and his posts is to be very patient. He's dealing with heartbreak, sadness, confusion, and a whirlwind of emotions because of your breakup. Arguing or fighting with him will only make things worse. Good luck, Candy Girls!
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I've been investing in arts, photography, and writing. I've also got back to reading the other day and I finished reading this amazing book entitled 300 Things I Hope by Iain S. Thomas. It is all about the things the author hopes his readers to do in all aspects of life. So, I decided to make a version of it with all of the things I'm hoping for.
I hope I get to see my friends be successful in life. I hope to make a big mural someday. I hope to be a well-known artist like the artists I look up to. I hope to marry the person I am in love with today. I hope to be a little kinder to myself. I hope to see happiness even in the smallest things. I hope to travel the world. I hope to be a good mother and a wife to my future family. I hope to have my artworks displayed in a gallery or an exhibit. I hope to learn more about creative writing. I hope I won't learn how to get tired and give up my passion. I hope I won't get too hard on myself whenever I don't get the results I've been wanting to see in my works. I hope to love myself more even on the days I hate it the most. I hope to lead and empower women; to be their voice and for them to believe in themselves that they can be the woman they look up to. And when I've reached my limit of these things, I hope I won't get tired of reminding myself that my emotions don't make me weak, hence, makes me stronger. These are some of the things I always hope for. What about you? What are you hoping for?
I started fixing myself this quarantine. I mean, I started trying makeup products. As a teen, I'm on my phone almost every hour of the day, scroll on my social media accounts, especially Instagram, and also Pinterest where you get to see nice and pleasing photography by bunch of amazing and beautiful people from different parts of the world. So I started taking my own as well. I did not know that taking your own photo and try to get an Instagramable one is sooooooooo hard, it's exhausting. I do not have alot of space in my room, and I would definitely not do it outside our house because of Corona Virus, and I don't want to be seen by our neighbors HAHA so I have no choice but to make tiis inside my room.
Out of atleast 25 shots, only 2 are a nice picture. While I'm all sweaty and tired, I am proud of what I could do beyond my comfort zone. And this definitely built my self confidence, (and I secret love the compliments I received from both people I know and don't know) It's not my first time visiting in here, Candy! But I'm new to writing my thoughts and experiences, so bare with me HAHA.
Until next time!
First. Pixie dust and paper cuts – these are the first things Wendy knew about Peter Pan. Aurora first met Prince Philip when she was sixteen. Learning how to ride a bike was also a first while I was growing up, but you are probably the first of too many. The first collection of dust and stars; maybe Luna will try to ask, who was your first? I might answer and tell her that it was you.
The first of too many stars in the sky. You are the first of too many fallen leaves during fall – and you will be the most anticipated snowflake as winter comes. A dark path that you can’t see without any light, hence, you were once the moon and there are the stars that shine so bright at night. Are we too early? Or we just really want to be ahead of time? Even in a glimpse, I would like to see the two of us connect as if we can reach the sky. There are other parts of the heavens you have never saw and other oceans you haven’t laid your feet onto – but the constellations will always wait for you. Close your eyes, love, close your eyes. Start counting backward: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Count backward until you see the twinkling lights that will guide you to the right path. To the right satellite; to the right person. A first.
There are many firsts – first love, first heartbreak, first sport you played, the first thing you do in the morning, the first thing you remember about the person in front of you. There are a lot. It’s actually up to us how we will consider something as a first. So, Primo, you are already a first of too many.