How to Know Your Relationship Is Going to Last
Ever wondered how couples who have been together for aaages manage to stick to each other through everything? Count us in!
In this day and age, with the existence of social media and its ~weird~ effects on us (LOL HUHU), it's hard to keep and maintain our relationships. But we've concluded that there are just some things that never, ever change—for example, the strong foundation that makes relationships last through good times and bad times.
"Couples who are friends, who have a lasting friendship, who deeply care about each other as people, not just sexual partners to be married to, when they have this deeper basis, everybody benefits. Their relationship lasts, it's more enduring and durable and fulfilling for both of them." —Tara CaffelleADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
We know that getting all romantic and girlfriend-y with your babe is important, but being a friend to them is, too. When you can switch from being their partner to being their friend, especially when things get tough, there's a deeper kind of intimacy going on between the two of you.
But here's a reminder, Candy Girls. Just because your babe can be your friend, too, doesn't mean you can go around taking your BFFs for granted. There's always a way to juggle your relationships. Tara adds that it's good to have other friends, but to continue keeping your babe as one of your dearest friends. As we all know, our friends help us strike a balance in our lives and keep us grounded.
Need help juggling these two? We have something over here that'll help you:
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.