How To Get Over Him

by Chinggay Labrador   |  Oct 7, 2004
photo by Dakila Angeles
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Unleash! In the case of a break—up, it’s okay to wallow in a bit of self—pity. In fact, you can wallow for as long as you want. You’ll find yourself waking up one day, totally tired of all the tears and realizing that you no longer feel sorry for yourself.

Zone in on the day in, day out. Other times in life, it’s good to have five—year plans and think of the future. After a break—up, it’s better to concentrate on the days as they come. Don’t overwhelm yourself with the future–just take things one step at a time.

See the silver lining. While things look bleak when someone breaks your heart, do realize that the world doesn’t end just because he stops loving you. For every good thing you miss about the relationship, remember something good that will come out of the separation.

Keep the faith. Just because this relationship didn’t work out, doesn’t mean that love is a big joke and all guys are jerks. Everyone’s got a bit of good in them–even the jerks.

Find a new hobby. Learn how to speak Portuguese, ask your driver to teach you how to change a tire, get involved in the photography club. Widen your horizons by taking up a new interest and tell yourself again and again that the world is a big and wonderful place.

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Chinggay Labrador
Contributing Writer
Chinggay Labrador is a freelance writer for several publications in Manila and overseas. An architect by profession, she loves to travel, dabble in design, bake brownies, bike, surf, practice yoga, and contribute to her family's blog, She has released three novels, and her latest fictional short story will be published this month under Buqo Bookstore. She is currently working on a collaborative novel. Chinggay is also a yoga instructor teaching vinyasa yoga, foundations and restoratives. 
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