Here's Why You Don't Really Need a Boyfriend in College
College is where the stress of entering a relationship rises to the point that it's too much. Yeah, it seems like in high school you had it worse with friends who think they're old enough to know everything about relationships. Questions like "Are you dating anyone?" and "Why aren't you dating yet?" keeps popping like a mushroom, and believe me that will continue in college. Hello, social pressure!
Almost every millennial sees it like this: college girls are old enough to party, mingle, and date. It's like almost every girl around you has a boyfriend. When you go to the cafeteria, gymnasium, or even your classroom, someone is definitely dating someone. There's nothing wrong in entering a relationship, you deserve to love and be loved by someone, but if you only want to be in a relationship because your girl friends said so, then that's where we have a problem.
There is nothing wrong with you in case you choose to be single in college, and here's us telling you things you need to know for you to not get caught up in those #RelationshipGoals in college.
- You will learn to love yourself.
In college, having a mental breakdown is quite normal with all of those deadlines and uncooperative groupmates you're experiencing. When you're alone in your bed, with your feelings all over the place, you can just call your guy and he'll be right there to comfort you. But when there's no guy to stay around, what are you going to do?
Well, the only person who can help you is yourself because out of all the people you are with, you know yourself better than anyone else. Learn to spend time with yourself and wait until you're ready before you enter a relationship.
Give all the loving you plan to give your guy to yourself first rather than to someone else; you deserve that kind of loving, too.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
- You will save more money.
Let's be real, money is one of the biggest problems you can possibly have in college with those expenses for your tuition fee, textbooks, group projects, and drafts for all your papers. You'll be needing enough money to support yourself. You have to learn to save money, and it will be hard if all you do with your man is eat and shop all day... until your wallet screams for you to stop already
Sometimes you even have to take on extra jobs to pay your dorm rent and daily expenses. If your guy is conscious about finances like you, that's good. But what if he's not?
Dating is not just all about spending time together. You also have to think of your other priorities first.
- You can avoid the distraction.
Dating in college can be the best or the worst that could happen to you. In college, your first priority should be your studies because that's your final step to get the degree you need to achieve your goals. And sometimes, some boyfriends just don't like it when you don't give them the attention they want.
Your boyfriend should be an inspiration rather than a distraction, but it doesn't mean you are required to have one just to feel inspired.
You and your man should know what your priorities are. If you two aren't on the same page then there can be chaos. Your boyfriend should be an inspiration rather than a distraction, but it doesn't mean you are required to have one just to feel inspired. Be inspired with your surroundings, with your family and friends, with yourself because no one knows what the future holds. College requires time management; dating requires that, too.
College may seem like the first step in adult life but it's not. It's just a preparation. Don't be in a hurry to grow up because everything takes time—including you having a boyfriend. College has a lot of opportunities and changes in store for you and that can be a good thing! Don't let anyone and anything hold you back. Try new things, meet new people, engage in school activities, and go on adventures while you're still young.
You won't be young and alone forever, cherish this time while you're at it.
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.