We know it sucks whenever you're trying to get over your recent breakup and then you suddenly see your ex wrapped in someone else's arms. Yup, that happens. Most of the time. You can't help but wonder how in the world they were able to move on from your relationship so easily? Worse, you even get to thinking whether you just weren't good enough for them or that you were replaceable because he's jumped into a new relationship in a matter of days.
But it's not you, ladies; it's science. This article from MyDomaine.com shed light—finally!—on one of the most common issues ladies face after a devastating breakup.
The real deal? It's about how men cope differently with heartbreak compared to women. According to relationship and body language expert Katia Loisel, "Men are more likely than women to use distraction or denial as a coping mechanism in the wake of a stressful event and after a breakup that can mean jumping straight into a casual hookup or relationship." Most women, on the other hand, choose to deal by remaining single or commitment-less for quite a while after the downfall of a relationship.
"Men are more likely than women to use distraction or denial as a coping mechanism in the wake of a stressful event and after a breakup that can mean jumping straight into a casual hookup or relationship." —Katia Loisel, relationship and body language expert
And these words aren't just her opinion because in a study done last year by Birmingham University on 5,000 participants, it's been found that women deal with pain "more acutely" after a breakup. On the other hand, men feel the pain but figure out that he has to "start competing" again to replace what he has lost.
But Katia clarifies that just because he started dating again, that doesn't mean he's really over you. A new relationship actually just dulls the pain from a previous relationship and will manifest itself in ways in their new life or their new relationship.
So the next time you scroll through your Feed and find a photo of your ex looking so in love because of his new bae, you might want to think again because science says he's really not over you yet.