Here's How to Avoid Taking Each Other for Granted in a Relationship
People say that as your relationship with a person grows, you will find yourselves—at one point or another—taking each other for granted. It's inevitable, they say, because you get used to your bae's actions, words, and even presence as you spend more and more time together.
Maybe that's true, but we disagree that taking each other for granted in a relationship is inevitable. We think that sometimes, both of you just need a reminder that what you have right beside you is priceless. To help you with that, we're sharing with you what we've learned from this article on VerilyMag.com on rituals that stop partners from taking each other for granted, which they learned from Dr. John Gottman, author of the book Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, and Bill Doherty, professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at the University of Minnesota.
The point of the entire article is simple, actually. Both of you just have to find a few hours (or even a few minutes!) that you can spend with each other, without any distractions and disturbances, and ending the day on a positive note—which you should do whether your physically together or over FaceTime or Skype.
Promise each other that no matter how bad your days may be, you'll still have enough time to spend talking to each other, catching up, and affirming each other. Make sure that you treat this time sacred between the two of you, so you can really be of company to one another. End the conversation by appreciating your partner and thanking him for big and small things that he did and is doing for you.
It may be a hard habit to built in the beginning, but we promise that it'll be worth it. Most of the time, because we're all claiming to be busy with school and our side hustles, we forget how much other people are doing for us. Getting little reminders every day will make you appreciate your partner and his presence even more in your life.
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1. The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides
2. Lock Every Door by Riley Sager
3. The Sun Down Motel by Simone St. James
4. Verity by Colleen Hoover
5. Dark Matter by Blake Crouch
You were a phenomenon I cannot wrap my head around
When I first met you, my heart forgot to make its signature sound
And it's overwhelming, your presence;
And underwhelming, so science will be the only language I'll hide in-- For now.
At first glance, I notice your top button unbuttoned,
and your shirt fully cotton
Complete with a smile as nervous as me
And a swagger in your step only I can see
Further on, I find your wit to be at a pace
That doesn't leave any space for tension to rise
and it's all too nice
And ridiculous and a bit too suspicious
That this isn't another (well,) circus.
Now, let's take a wild guess,
Oh, but it has to be smart, yes,
That this could lead to something with potential
That this isn't another differential easily solved
With a formula, tried and tested but never evolved
For so long, we've both been independent of any dependent
Keeping our variables fixed and ourselves distracted
With anything, everything,
But not a single thing
Could stop me from pushing this blindly to find its threshold,
Hoping that it's a quantity my hands could still hold
Over hours, days, and weeks
Through minor revisions and tweaks
Then comes the analysis -- that these weren't accidents
So, now I find myself in a conundrum
With the anomaly in a blue shirt right in front of me,
That this had to be processed logically,
But the findings are as follows:
None of which were shallow, so I therefore conclude that it's true,
I therefore conclude that it's you.
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