Have You Experienced Being Haunted by the Person You Used to Date?
If you thought that once a person ghosts you (read: suddenly disappears into thin air after being done with you and your non-relationship), you're verrry wrong.
There have been a lot of relationship trends (and terms!) going around, and one of the most recent ones to hit the online world is "haunting." So what does this dating term mean? Haunting, according to Seventeen "is when someone from your romantic past lingers in your digital present by occasionally watching your Instagram or Snapchat story, or sporadically liking your posts." Yikes! (via Seventeen.com)
The worst part is that you can't do anything about the person who keeps on haunting you and giving you notifications on your social media accounts. You just have to wait until they get tired and find someone else to bother with their likes. What makes it even more painful is that you keep reading so much into their actions, like "Why does he keep liking my posts?" or "Why does he keep viewing my Instagram stories?" or "Does that mean he's still into me or that he still cares for me?" There are even moments when you find yourself taking comfort in the fact that he still looks out for you (although that doesn't really mean that he still does, huhu!).
So how should you deal with this?
You just have to wait for them to get tired and try—really try—not to mind how much they've been lurking around your social media accounts. Because, let's admit it, no matter how much you try to make sense of their constant haunting actions, if they really don't want to reconnect with you, they won't. You just have to continue moving on and letting them go. Just like you, they will eventually get tired of lurking and move on from haunting you.
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.