Guys: Now and Then
Noong unang panahon is the opening sequence to almost every story that involves some form of flashback. Ever wonder how alike (or different) boys of different generations are? Read on to find out more.
- Effort. They say that guys of the rough 1950s exerted more effort in courting a girl. Because for simply the chance of talking to the girl they liked, they had to rally their barkada and serenade the girl at her house. To court her, they had to declare genuine intent to her parents. And to be her boyfriend, they had to subject themselves to heavy household chores.
On the other hand, guys may simply talk to girls now, court without approval, and be the boyfriend without lifting a finger. Although the serenade lives on through the one-man-band, and the chores through scoring pogi points from the ‘rents.
- Same time, Same place. Before SMS, plans were set in stone. There were no last minute cancellations, only mutual trust that the other will be there as planned. This method is not foolproof and is still prone to emergencies and traffic. But if it’s any consolation, premiere movie tickets in the 50s only cost 1 peso! That’s only two pesos for a movie date, if you don’t include the dinner and the popcorn!
These days, if either party suddenly can’t make it, they can take a rain check by simply sending a text message.
- The Ideal Girl. Pretty and graceful were mostly the basis for the guys back then, mostly because they couldn’t get to know the girl before courtship. At the same time, they were not allowed to court a girl that does not belong to the same social class.
Now, boys give more importance to factors such as getting along with a girl when they think of their ideal girlfriend.
- Fashion. On a different note, the fashion sense of the guys haven’t changed much throughout the years, the same boys are still sporting boat shoes, canvas sneakers, aviators, and plaid shirts. And perhaps the only noticeable distinctions are that slippers were exclusively used for the home and the inclusion of snapback caps and high-cut sneakers to the male arsenal.
- Fun. In the old days, boys in general were more active. There was no DOTA or Internet, so they admit to sleeping quite a lot. But when they weren’t, they were playing sepak takraw, watching Fernando Poe Sr. and jamming with their friends to the sounds of Elvis Presley, Bob Marley, and Pilita Corales among other well-known celebrities from their age.
What are the differences and similiarities you've noticed in boys of different generations? Sound off in the comments below!
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When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.