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From Best Friend To Boyfriend

Ready to take the next step? Prepare yourself for the best and the worst.
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It just seems so natural—you spend a lot of time together after class and hang out on weekends. When he's troubled, he calls you after dinner to spill his guts. And the great thing is, you can do the same with him. Your friends tease you about how great you guys would be together, and you kind of believe them. Why not? You basically know everything about each other, and naturally, the next step would be to change that "It's complicated" Facebook status to "In a relationship." But the difficult part is how to sit down and talk about taking things to the next level. Should you even do it? After all, getting rejected is one thing, but getting rejected by your best guy bud hurts even more. Here's a definitive guide to handling the transition from buddy to boyfriend.

TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL

The first question to ask yourself is this: Does he like you in that way too? There's always a right time for everything, and with something that's this big of a deal, you’ll need to make sure you're on the same page.

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Tell: Sure, he may be your guy best friend, but does he always wait for you after class and offer to carry your bag? Keep in mind that most guys will just hang out with their buds or make their way to the nearest Internet shop to play Call of Duty with the boys after class. Another sure sign is if he calls you almost every day when there's really nothing to talk about. If he fits the profile, then the chances are high that he likes you in that way. So if you’re ready to take it to the next level, there's no reason why you guys shouldn’t sit down and talk about it.

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Don't Tell: It all depends on the situation. Yes, he all but told you he wants to be your boyfriend. But it's smart not to give in to your emotions when the time is not right. Foremost is when he still has a girlfriend. You don't want to be dubbed the "other girl," right? Besides, you don't need the whole school talking about you and your supposed flirty ways. It's best to hold off and let your guy friend figure out what he really wants. If he really likes you, then he'll make the decision to be with you—and only you. Another no-no is if he's coming out of a really emotional event such as a bad breakup or a family problem. Just be there for him and wait for things to settle down before you profess your undying love for him. After all, you don’t want your relationship to start off with him having issues.

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Cold Food

The most thrilling and delightful moment of any school day is opening up your baon during breaks. There is always so much excitement in unveiling your homemade meal and snacks housed inside matching heat-insulating containers. Because preparing packed meals is an age-old tradition of showing parental love, loved ones pour effort into curating a nutritious meal accompanied by a selection of side dishes, desserts, and beverages daily; it reminds us that we are being taken care of, even from far away.

Baon plays a significant role in a Filipino childhood. Almost every Filipino child comes to school with baon made especially for them by their parents or household helpers. Even Filipinos in the labor force continue to bring baon for varying reasons: to save money, recycle leftovers, cater to personal taste, or attend to special needs. Nonetheless, eating your baon is a heart-warming experience that allows Filipinos to bring a piece of home along with them wherever they go.

Even other cultures practice making packed lunch. In Japan, mothers create bento--Japanese meals in partitioned boxes. Because of the popularity of bento, trends have emerged, such as the Kyaraben, or character-themed bento. Naturally, Japanese parents and students began competing for who had the cutest and tastiest bento, and this is similar to what I have witnessed in my own childhood. I remember seeing my classmates sharing their snacks and lunches. They would compare and boast about their parents' or yayas’ cooking. In my case, I never had the chance to join in the competition or indulge in homemade cooking. Up until this day, I have never brought any baon to school.

For a long time, I envied others. As trivial or petty as it may seem, not having baon became a problem for my grade school self. During that time, I had to sit in a separate cafeteria away from my friends because the kids who bought food were assigned to sit elsewhere. You could consider me spoiled, but I wanted to experience something most kids did. I had food at home, so what made it so hard to bring some with me to school?

Now that I am on my final year in high school I have come to realize the benefits of purchasing my own food. Since I spent on food everyday, I learned to budget my allowance at a young age. Over the years, I learned to practice self-control whenever I wanted to eat more greasy fries and drink sweetened beverages. I have tasted the strangest viands at the school cafeterias, and I have repeatedly satiated myself over my latest delicious discoveries. Despite the struggles, I am thankful that I have never had baon because of what I have learned. Not to mention, I never had to experience eating cold food.

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