Mr. Perfect is not a myth... he's just a far-fetched proposition. And despite what you think, he doesn't always turn out to be gay. In fact, with a little perseverance, every girl can find her Mr. Perfect, because rest assured, we're not as rare as legends would have you believe.
Every girl has her unique idea of Mr. Perfect (look, Zac Efron and Robert Pattinson absolutely do not count). He could be the face in the crowd, the diamond in the rough, the guy with the band, the geek next door, the bad-boy-in-the-making, or any one of a million different clichés. But no matter how different they all are, every Mr. Perfect can be thrown into the Boy Blender and distilled into four key ingredients—the stuff that makes up the Perfect Man.
Stuff #1: Commitment
There should be no doubt about it: Mr. Perfect must be perfectly head over heels in love with you. This may seem like a pretty self-evident phrase (like, "Duh!" Right?), but you'll be surprised at how a typical guy's starry-eyed, superheated first blush of "love" can come and go like a flash in a pan. Only Mr. Perfect sticks with you like super glue... because while everyone else loves you, he's the only man who's truly in love with you.
Stuff #2: Attractiveness
It might seem shallow, but yes, Mr. Perfect has to look good. However, attractiveness is a relative term. While he may not be handsome in the conventional, six-pack-abs-cover-model kind of way, there's a certain indefinable charm about him that's just a total turn-on—and as cheesy as it may sound, it's usually the inside that counts. (This is totally good news for us guys. If girls judged us on physical attractiveness alone, 99.9% of us would have lost our fighting chance.)
Stuff #3: Time
What time is it? Why, it's Mr. Perfect o' clock, of course. Whatever the occasion, you can be sure that he's there for you, his busy schedule always somehow managing to scoot over and make some room. Over and above time management, he's also reliable and true to his word—a far cry from the usual flakiness of the typical boy. He even manages to surprise you; when you least expect it, he suddenly shows up. It ought to be creepy, it ought to be annoying, but somehow, you find yourself going, "Aww!"
Stuff #4: Sweetness
Mr. Perfect is so sweet that every other guy feels positively diabetic in comparison. It's a matter of paying attention to the smallest details. Any guy can do the big things-flower bouquets, movie dates—but only Mr. One-in-a-Million makes the effort to really get to know the million-and-one things that define you. Every girl wishes that guys could read minds... Mr. Perfect can't, of course, but he does come pretty darned close, especially when it's those things that can make you genuinely happy.
Finding... The One!
Is your quest for the real deal like finding a needle in a whole haystack of needles? (Ouch!) Don't worry. Take a deep breath. Relax. It's easier—or at the very least, less stressful—than you think.
- Without him knowing, watch how he treats his friends, his younger bro, his dog, his driver... anyone but you. It's easy for him to be sweet and loving when you're there, but it's only around other people that you'll find out if all that love-and-kindness is from the heart—or just an act.
- While it's tempting to be sucked into the whole "Me Against the World" romance (Akon even turned it into a song), your friends and family do have your best interests at heart. If they don't like the guy you're with at the moment, they probably have good reasons why.
- Be flexible... and forgiving. No guy, not even Mr. Perfect, is ever perfect. He slips up sometimes. And in your quest to find Mr. Right, so will you. Don't be so hard on guys with your expectations, and don't be so hard on yourself when it turns out they don't live up to them.
- Don't make finding the Right One the be-all and end-all of your existence. Enjoy your life! Get into your hobbies, bond with your girls, and make time for your family. Loneliness is only a state of mind, and never worth pining and sighing at the moon just for a boy.