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How To Find Closure As Another Year Ends

Accept that, sometimes, not having closure is the closure.
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There’s something about another year ending that makes us all feel that we need to start anew. There are some things, however, that can be hard to let go of. Maybe this year you went through a rough breakup, or you lost a friend—whatever it may be, it can be hard to fully open yourself up to what’s ahead because of what you recently went through.

Don’t worry, we understand and we’re here to help you find the closure that’ll aid you in moving on to the next chapter of your life. Here are a few things you can do:

Pour out your feelings.

The first step in gaining closure is allowing yourself to feel all the feelings—even when it’s painful. When you prevent yourself from feeling these emotions, may also mean that you’re preventing yourself from moving on. Talk to your friends, cry to your mom, write it all out—do whatever you can to pour it all out. Trust us, you’ll feel better afterwards.

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Adopt a new routine.

When moving on, it’s easy to get caught up in what once was. Chances are, you’re having a hard time moving forward because you still keep on thinking about what happened in the past. If this is the case, you can probably escape this cycle by adapting a new routine. How? Well, you can try to take up new hobbies and meet new people. However small these steps may seem, it’s still progress. Out with the old, in with the new!

Understand the need for closure.

Talk to yourself and list down the things that remind you of why you need to close this chapter. Once you do these and put things into perspective, the path towards this new part of your life will become much clearer!

Don’t be too hard on yourself.

If there’s one thing you should keep in mind when moving on, it’s that healing is not linear. We all move on at different paces and forcing yourself to do so can do more harm than good. Finding closure is a gradual process—there’s no deadline and no specific way to do it. So please, allow yourself to heal and move on, in your own time and at your own pace.

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Accept that, sometimes, not having closure is the closure.

After a loss, it’s natural to search for the answers to all of our questions: was the breakup my fault? Is there anything else I could have done? What if this isn’t the end?

We may think that these answers are the key to closure. However, there are some things that are beyond our control and sometimes, we may never get those answers. Whether or not you have all the answers to these questions, you must always strive to live in a healthy environment.

If you think about it, closure is basically acceptance that a certain chapter of your life is over. Once you finally find it in your heart to accept that it’s actually done, you’re probably more than ready to start the next one.

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