How To Find Closure As Another Year Ends
There’s something about another year ending that makes us all feel that we need to start anew. There are some things, however, that can be hard to let go of. Maybe this year you went through a rough breakup, or you lost a friend—whatever it may be, it can be hard to fully open yourself up to what’s ahead because of what you recently went through.
Don’t worry, we understand and we’re here to help you find the closure that’ll aid you in moving on to the next chapter of your life. Here are a few things you can do:
Pour out your feelings.
The first step in gaining closure is allowing yourself to feel all the feelings—even when it’s painful. When you prevent yourself from feeling these emotions, may also mean that you’re preventing yourself from moving on. Talk to your friends, cry to your mom, write it all out—do whatever you can to pour it all out. Trust us, you’ll feel better afterwards.
Adopt a new routine.
When moving on, it’s easy to get caught up in what once was. Chances are, you’re having a hard time moving forward because you still keep on thinking about what happened in the past. If this is the case, you can probably escape this cycle by adapting a new routine. How? Well, you can try to take up new hobbies and meet new people. However small these steps may seem, it’s still progress. Out with the old, in with the new!
Understand the need for closure.
Talk to yourself and list down the things that remind you of why you need to close this chapter. Once you do these and put things into perspective, the path towards this new part of your life will become much clearer!
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
If there’s one thing you should keep in mind when moving on, it’s that healing is not linear. We all move on at different paces and forcing yourself to do so can do more harm than good. Finding closure is a gradual process—there’s no deadline and no specific way to do it. So please, allow yourself to heal and move on, in your own time and at your own pace.
Accept that, sometimes, not having closure is the closure.
After a loss, it’s natural to search for the answers to all of our questions: was the breakup my fault? Is there anything else I could have done? What if this isn’t the end?
We may think that these answers are the key to closure. However, there are some things that are beyond our control and sometimes, we may never get those answers. Whether or not you have all the answers to these questions, you must always strive to live in a healthy environment.
If you think about it, closure is basically acceptance that a certain chapter of your life is over. Once you finally find it in your heart to accept that it’s actually done, you’re probably more than ready to start the next one.
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Here is a photograph taken yesterday from the photo shoot I did in our house. ? I really love dressing up and being dolled up, it makes me feel great and confident of who I am ?
I was actually hesitant to post these pictures of mine. My sister eveb asked me to change my Facebook Profile Picture and it took me hours to decide if I should. But, I realized that this is me, the real me. I should be confident of my body and of who I really am.
At the end of the day, I dress up not for other people but for myself ? To all the ladies out there and even gentlemen who are taking a second to think if they should post their pictures, worried about what will others say their body, remember that we just need to be just ourselves. Be confident and let us support each other ? Let us be friends! IG: @romynaaaaaaa_
They say time heals all wounds, but it has been ages - is heartbreak exempted?
I have forgotten when was the last time we shared a smile - the last time when I saw the glow in your eyes and the last time when you whispered an I love you to me. I have forgotten when, but here I am - writing to you again.
I do not know if you will read this or you will just add this one to my proses and poems that you left unread, but you see, I am still hoping. I am mailing the pain of us to the gods out there - hoping they can take the pain away. I should have gotten over you, but instead of forgetting and accepting our ending, I am writing about us in tissue sheets, carving about us on trees, telling about us on the back of my journals, hoping that a thousand or a million write ups about us, can make me forget about what happened.
I am writing, waiting for the point where I can no longer write anymore, for I have none to tell - but when? I have nothing in me anymore, but the memories of us - and no matter how hard I try put those to its own grave, the memories grow back like lilies in the swamp - painful and beautiful at the same time.
No matter how hard I try to silence those and put it at the back of my mind, those ring back, playing like the favorite song we used to listen. They say heartbreaks turn into poetry and that is what happening to us - but poetry should be dulcet and dreamy, why does ours sound like pain and agony? They say time heals all wounds, but it has been ages - is heartbreak exempted? Darling, I guess not.
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