Bid Those Bad Boys Good Bye!
When one says "bad boy," people immediately think of the cigarette-smoking, Harley-riding, shades-wearing, leather-jacketed ruggedly handsome stereotype. So maybe this is the "nice" kind of bad boy, the streetwise gentlemen in the rough so to speak. But there are guys out there who take the "bad" part quite literally. These guys are the jerks who make you ladies say there are no more good men out there. Ouch! So read on, and learn how to ditch some of the maladjusted males in your lives.
- The Badly Behaving Boyfriend
Bad Boy Profile: He likes hanging out with his friends more than with you. His idea of a romantic date is a cheeseburger meal subsidized by discount coupons. And you suspect his cheating, but when you bring it up, he either makes you bola to high heavens or belittles you for even thinking about it.
Say Bye-bye: With these guys, it's usually all about the ego. They love having a girlfriend whom they can jerk around like a Chihuahua on a short leash, and they usually brag about it too. So when it comes to these guys, there's no need for elaborate plans or gimmicks. There's only one thing you need to do: Drop him like a hot camote. And we mean cold turkey. Make the breakup short, fast, concise, and oh-so bittersweet. But remember, it also means that you have to control yourself and stay away. Be strong and stand by your decision.
- The Ludicrous Leech
Bad Boy Profile: He's your best-est friend in the whole wide universe—when he needs something from you. Bring a car to a gimmick, and he appears in the shotgun seat like magic. You're his pretend girlfriend when he wants to catch his crush's eye, his homework source when he's too busy playing basketball or slacking off, his go-to girl when he needs some spare cash, and basically his unpaid yaya.
Say Bye-Bye: You're dealing with a purebred leech. He probably thinks you don't mind since you're a girl, and so are a very kind and understanding bit is true. But that doesn't give him - or anyone else - the right to abuse your good nature. We suggest you start the purging process with a little bit of creative timing. Try to find out when he usually needs your help, and line up something else to do at the time. If he needs a ride, make plans to pick up some other friends who aren't as needy. He's asking you for term paper info? Say you're busy doing the same or even another paper early for extra credit. Over time, he'll get the message.
- The Super Stalker
Bad Boy Profile: He may be a guy friend out to win your heart in the weirdest way, or an admirer whose way of professing his devotion to you isn't so secret. In any case, having stalker soon grows old. Knowing that someone may be watching you every move can make you feel conscious and put a damper on any enthusiasm you might have had for the day.
Say Bye-Bye: In this case, there's no easy, surefire way to get rid of a stalker. Since you're not supposed to be aware of him, he can always claim coincidence when you catch him. And you can't bawl him out for something that no one saw him do. The best thing to do is to travel with a group of good friends. With people surrounding you practically all the time, he'll probably be annoyed enough to leave. Over time, that annoyance might become a habit, and he'll leave you alone for good. Vocal friends will also have no qualms about berating him—something you might not have the gumption to do.
- The Persistent Ex
Bad Boy Profile: Some ladies just make an amazing impact on a guy, and so when breakup time comes, he can't take it. He sends flowers, shows up in your classroom with a guitar and a copy of Jingle's 1001 Love Songs, and generally makes a noisy nuisance of himself to win you back. Which you know is not happening in the foreseeable future. So, what to do?
Say Bye-Bye:This may sound weird, but have you considered finding a date for him? Maybe by diverting his romantic attention, you can get him off your back. And unless he's a total boor, bore, or maniac psycho woman-hating killer, there has to be someone out there more suited for him than, well, you. Think of it this way: You get him away from you, and you earn karma points!
- The Consistent Condescender
Bad Boy Profile: He thinks you're around to provide a comic counterpoint to his not-so-witty repartee. This "friend" is the type of guy who sees a lady in a two-car accident and immediately exclaims," Aha! Babae kasi eh!" And he always finds ways to belittle you and your decidedly sharp intellect, even to the point of vehemently defending a wrong answer. It's time to shut him up, we think.
Say Bye-Bye: Ironically, the best way to deal with someone like this is to not deal with him at all. If talking to him about it hasn't helped, and if he's part of the barkada, make how you feel clear to everyone. Tell them you're not putting up with it anymore, and that you're prepared to break ties with them if you have to. It seems drastic, but it's still a better choice for you than putting up with the annoyance. If you trust your barkada's judgment, then you can most likely expect them to do the right thing by leaving his sorry ass behind instead.
- The Blind Boy-Friend
Bad Boy Profile: This is the guy who treats you as a guy. He claps you hard on the back, makes loud sexist jokes in your presence, lets out burps and farts without a care in the world, and generally acts like a jackass when you're around.
Say Bye-Bye: Fortunately, this is the easiest kind of bad boy to deal with. Guys like this usually just need a stern talking-to to reset their world vision, so to speak. They mean no harm—they've always just seen you as another guy friend. If that doesn't work, show up to a gimmick in an ultra-feminine, guaranteed stop-and-stare outfit. That'll knock some sense into him.
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"Today, I Won"
I always caught feelings for someone, and hoped so much that one day there could a thing between the two of us. I'm usually the one that makes the effort to buy and/or make cute gifts, chats them every other day, and stays up all night with him.
When I was 16, my childhood crush suddenly came back into my life. We'd constantly send updates to each other, recommend favorite songs and talk even the most random things. He'd even text me as early as 6 to just greet me good morning almost everyday. I hoped so much that when I confessed, he suddenly stopped talking to me.
For short, he ghosted me. Those 6 months I spent talking to him, allotting my time for him, and staying up until 3 am for him - all gone in a simple confession. Although I had a few crushes before him, he's the only one that got me in real pain. It was the kind of pain that I never thought I'd experience. It was the kind of pain that I couldn't believe.
After 7 years (it happened back in 2017), I thought he came back into my life to stay, but I guess he's just one of the guys who distanced. I felt a complete loser that time. But during this quarantine, everything was different. I caught feelings for someone else, but he treated me with the best kindness yet.
It happened at 2 am, May 30, 2020, when I impulsively confessed my feelings through messaging him. After saying my feelings, he responded with genuine and kind words. We both even complimented each other. Although the feelings didn't reciprocate, I still found a connection that can't be replaced with any guy.
To my 16 year old self, here I am, 18 and happy. You may have felt that time was the biggest regret and loss, but I'm here to tell you, we won. Today, I won.
Why our high school barkada is the best?
Remembering our high school years entails quite a lot reminiscing of the things we all been through when we were younger. You’ve experience a lot of new things during those 4 wonderful years and did most of them with the few people you consider your barkada. And through a series of all the lunch breaks you had together, the walks you took on the way home, and taking the same classes, you never thought you’d survive, you have made your life’s greatest friends.
Here are some of the reasons why your high school barkada is the best:
1. You figured out early teenage life together. The transition one have undergone from being a kid to a teenager wasn’t easy. For a moment you are not sure whether you should have played with your friends during recess or you should have just sat down and ate your food because you were too old for games. But whatever it is you chose to do, having friends who were as clueless as you make everything feel easier because you know, deep down, you’d figure things out eventually. You just need good company.
2. They were with you during your “jeje“ days. I bet you have pictures taken with Camera360 and Retrica. You also have pictures edited using Pizap with embarrassing captions and you somehow kept some of them so you could have something to post online during their birthdays.
3. They know all your exes. They will never EVER forget the name of an ex-boyfriend, an ex-fling, an ex-crush, and an almost you had. They will remind you of your every questionable love decision but you’ll just laugh anyway while saying “Past is past”.
4. They never judge you. They have welcomed you to their lives when you thought jelly shoes and checkered polos were the bomb! They were quick to have told your teachers that you were not feeling well so you could go home when you really just needed to poop. You tell them every embarrassing story you have and were fine with it.
5. You can always count on them. From the moment you first fell in love and the moment you first had your heart broken, they were with you. They were with you the moment you lost a parent and at moments when you thought you had nothing. Through every break-up and breakthrough, they were there to be your support system.
6. They are your family. Your high school friend’s family is your own family’s extension. Their parents are like your own. Don’t you feel a little kilig whenever your friend’s parents call you “anak”? And then eventually calling them mama and papa became so natural? I felt that, all the time.
7. They will always be your home. They are your place of refuge and security, the place who offers you their hands when you feel lost and the place you run to when you need saving. No matter how much time and distance separate you, they will be the one’s that you always long for and they are the one’s that you will always return to.
You're gonna bend and break and then at some point in your life, you feel like you don't want to fall in love again.
Not because you're no longer capable of loving but because you're so afraid to get hurt again that you don't want to take a risk anymore. And you're gonna wake up one day and realize that you're not the same person as you were yesterday. The heart aches, heartbreaks, frustration, you'll see, those will transform your whole being into something better.
Honey, move forward. Let go off all the things that are not meant for you. Let go of all the people who hurt you and take you for granted. Don't be stuck feeling miserable.
And don't turn that love into hate when you resent someone for hurting you or for breaking your heart. Just wish them well and let them go. Welcome the possibility of a beautiful love that will come your way. You're worthy of love that you keep on giving to other people. Keep that in mind.
I wish you well and all the happiness. You deserve it.
Here we are — with rough hands entwined, damned hearts at peace, broken souls resting with ease —savoring each passing moment before we part ways...hoping things will turn out to be okay. Here we are — standing still, keeping our earnest desire and ardent passion for each other at bay — hoping the Universe will finally grant us of the day that we no longer have to pretend... that things will no longer have to end.
Here we are — with crooked smiles, lingering touch that will last for a while -- gathering all the remaining courage to set each other free. Wishing for the day that our hearts will no longer have to worry. Here we are letting each other go. Even though we both know that the future is uncertain. Even though we're unsure if our paths will cross once again.