Being Friends with Your Ex May Mean That You Have a Dark Personality
After a breakup (and even a non-breakup breakup), ex-couples usually cut ties instantly with the person they used to be with. But there are also some who prefer to stay in touch and even keep the friendship they've had with their ex-baes. The reason for this? Psychologists from the Oakland University found that those who tend to keep ties with the person they used to be with do so for a ~*darker*~ reason. (via DailyMail.co.uk)
Yup, there's more to it than simply being polite or even friendly to your ex. The study asked 861 people to give their reasons on why they remained friends with their exes after the breakup and to answer a questionnaire that aims to show dark personality traits.
By the end of the study, they found that people who stay connected with the ex know it's not the most practical option but they do decide to keep the friendship because their exes are "reliable, trustworthy or if there was a strong sentimental attachment." Which is only understandable since it's not always easy to suddenly let go and get into a new routine without the person you used to share everything with.
The authors of the journal Personality and Individual Differences, Justin Mogilski and Dr. Lisa Welling, wrote that men maintained their friendship with their exes for access to physical intimacy, unlike women. But for those who scored highly for dark personality traits (narcissism, Machiavellism, and psychopathy), they were more likely to choose practicality and the chance for physical intimacy for remaining friends.
So the next time you ask your ex to be friends with you or if an ex tells you that he wants to stay friends, maybe you'd want to think twice first before you say yes... or just don't follow through even if you do say so.
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