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7 Ways You Can Win His Parents Over

Want to finally be legal but you don't know how to win his parents over? These tips might work!
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A good first impression is always important. In many cases, these first encounters with people leave lasting impressions to whomever you meet. More over if they're towards your guy's parents. Trust me, I’ve had girl friends who have left better impressions on my mother than some of the girls I've dated (not that I've dated a lot). My mom even preferred that I date some of those friends instead. Some of these tips may give you a general idea of what parents generally like in the girl their son is dating, so grab your pen and paper and take notes!

1. Look presentable

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Make sure you look fine. It's a little superficial, but how you look during the first time you meet your guy's parents actually plays an integral part in what kind of impression you'll give.

I had this chinita friend who dressed up really well. I saw her for consecutive Sundays and introduced her to my mom both times. To this day my mom asks me about her and says that she finds her really pretty. Sometimes, my mom even asks me to ask her out, even if I say that she already has a boyfriend.

The impression really lasts.

2. Dress for the occasion.

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The point is to look like you're dressed for a specific event. If you were invited to a fancy dinner, make sure you dress like you are going to a fancy dinner. Invited to merienda at a dessert place? Maybe you shouldn't be in a gown, wearing full makeup. Just make sure to look like you've put an effort into picking an outfit. That would say that you actually care about meeting his parents and the occasion in which you'd meet them. Win!

3. Be proper

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Observe basic social manners. Don’t burp out loud and if you accidentally did, say "Excuse me." Don't talk with food in your mouth. Cover your mouth when yawning or coughing. The list goes on. You know what it is.

A girl I used to date would always be prim and proper when she's meeting my mom, even if she was a bit shy. Because of that, my mom liked her. Not that she wasn't really proper. It was just better that she put her best foot forward.

4. Don't be too shy.

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When parents meet you they usually ask a lot of questions. "What school do you go to? Do you have any siblings? What do your parents do? What are you hobbies?" It may get a little annoying and they may sound a bit intimidating, but they're really just asking those things to get to know you. This avid questioning is usually a good sign, so don't be afraid to respond. Be confident, answer politely, and it will be good from there.

5. Tell stories.

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If you're feeling a little more comfortable, try sharing stories. It can be about anything! Maybe the first time you met their son, when he started courting you, or something that personally interests you. It gives his parents a better perspective of who you are as a person, and grants an access to a slightly more intimate relationship with them. This is you opening up.

6. Befriend his siblings (if he has any).

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Remember that when you meet his parents, you're also trying to win his entire family over. What better way to do that than to be liked by his siblings as well? Just put on your friendliest face and play with his little sister or chit-chat with his ate about "girl stuff." Trust me, get through this, and it's one step closer to actually being a part of the family.

7. Be yourself.

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Lastly, and admittedly the most cliché, just be yourself. Parents ask to meet you because they want to get to know the person their son has fallen for and that person is the real you. Maybe you can up the ante by being a little more polite, proper, and nicely dressed, but make sure your personality still stands out. If you play your cards right, they'll accept you just as how your guy did.

Hope these help! Good luck!

Got tips to share? Let us know in the comments or tweet us @candymagdotcom. We always love hearing from you. :)

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Even other cultures practice making packed lunch. In Japan, mothers create bento--Japanese meals in partitioned boxes. Because of the popularity of bento, trends have emerged, such as the Kyaraben, or character-themed bento. Naturally, Japanese parents and students began competing for who had the cutest and tastiest bento, and this is similar to what I have witnessed in my own childhood. I remember seeing my classmates sharing their snacks and lunches. They would compare and boast about their parents' or yayas’ cooking. In my case, I never had the chance to join in the competition or indulge in homemade cooking. Up until this day, I have never brought any baon to school.

For a long time, I envied others. As trivial or petty as it may seem, not having baon became a problem for my grade school self. During that time, I had to sit in a separate cafeteria away from my friends because the kids who bought food were assigned to sit elsewhere. You could consider me spoiled, but I wanted to experience something most kids did. I had food at home, so what made it so hard to bring some with me to school?

Now that I am on my final year in high school I have come to realize the benefits of purchasing my own food. Since I spent on food everyday, I learned to budget my allowance at a young age. Over the years, I learned to practice self-control whenever I wanted to eat more greasy fries and drink sweetened beverages. I have tasted the strangest viands at the school cafeterias, and I have repeatedly satiated myself over my latest delicious discoveries. Despite the struggles, I am thankful that I have never had baon because of what I have learned. Not to mention, I never had to experience eating cold food.

Choosing between dreams and practicality is never easy. My CETs season just ended with the release of the UPCAT results. Anxious as I logged on the website, I started to think about what would happen if I didn't pass UP. Ever since I was six years old, I fixated on the idea that I will become an iska, serving the country and studying at my dream school, which is UP. I strived and studied hard for the UPCAT, sacrificing a lot of things like hang-outs and gala weekends for reviews.

Throughout my CETs journey, I started seeing myself studying only in UP, and while there were no results yet, my friends and I already started planning our lives around the fact that we're gonna study in UP. It was a big deal for me, my friends and my family that I get the chance to study in UP since it's so far from my hometown which is Benguet, and better yet, it's a very well known university.

January 2020 came and universities started releasing CETs results. I was expecting my DCAT and ACET results that month. I passed DCAT but brushed it off because even though I liked the school, I never really saw myself studying there. Same thoughts with Ateneo, since it never really crossed my mind that I might study in ADMU. In fact, Ateneo was never really a choice for me, I only took it just to have another choice in case I failed the UPCAT. I also applied for financial aid not because I was really planning on studying there, but more of "para lang sure na may college ako". I know it's a bad thing but they were just my back-up schools because my main goal was really UP.

One Friday afternoon, ACET results came out. I passed, managed to get a scholarship, and in that moment, my plans just started to crumble.

Seeing that I got a 100% tuition and fees discount, free dorm fees, and an additional book allowance got me into considering studying to Ateneo. Suddenly, I got torn between UP, my dream school, and Ateneo, which offers so much more.

As the months passed, and after talking to my parents, my plans and decisions got more jumbled and messy. I still wanted to go to UP even if there were no results yet but Ateneo offering so much would mean a lesser burden to my parents in terms of finances.

Even though my parents told me that they'll support me no matter where I choose to go, the practicality that Ateneo offers in terms of finances was not an easy thing to waive. Sometimes I would laugh at the fact that I'd spend less on a private school than on a state university. Talking to my friends helped somehow, but they also have various opinions about the two universities. I managed to tell myself to hold off the problem until UPCAT results get released, and so I did.

UP released the UPCAT results and seeing that I passed made me scream and cry, literally. At that moment, all I was thinking was that I passed my dream school and I'm officially a QC college student.

My parents were so proud of me even though they got scared because I screamed, but ultimately, they were happy for me. The next day, I sat down, stared at my UPCAT and ACET results, and told myself that I needed to decide. This was the hardest part. I tried deciding using the pros and cons method but it didn't really work. Talking to my parents also didn't help because they'd support me either way, so their judgement was not a factor at all. I also had the same course in both schools so that wasn't a big help. I was 99% close to letting go of my dream university and decide to go to Ateneo.

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As I was imagining myself at UP, I ultimately felt that happiness and content that I didn't feel with Ateneo. I realized that, if I didn't study in UP, I know later in my life, I would regret it. I would regret not choosing my dream university because I didn't choose what would make me happy.

In short, I chose my dream over practicality. I know that I would be successful in both tracks, but I simply chose my dream because it is where I'm happier and more content. Besides, we can make our dreams practical but not all the time can the practical choice equate to our dreams. So to those having a hard time choosing between dreams and practicality, weigh it out and always remember to put yourself and your happiness first. And of course, choose the choice that you know you'll not regret later on.

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