7 Problems Only Girls in a Long Distance Relationship Will Understand
Like all relationships, the ones that span miles and time zones also take a lot of work. The difference is that things can get a little more difficult to handle because you don't get to see each other in person as often and can't just make plans to see each other after making a call or sending a text message. Being spontaneous is harder, too, unless one of you travels across the globe just to surprise the other person. Whether you are in this relationship or you're planning to be in one, we thought we'd round up a few of the common problems couples in a long distance relationship usually face so you can learn a trick or two in surviving one.
1 Being jealous is inevitable.
It's not always about another girl. It's just feeling jealous and sad that he is with someone else when he could be spending time with you. Just seeing his posts or updates on social media with friends will awaken the envy in you. It would really be wonderful if you were watching this movie with him or listening to a particular band with him, but the distance sucks. Big time.
2 Arguments are worse.
Arguments are more complicated. You can't just sit down and talk face-to-face to settle a misunderstanding. Sometimes you're also tempted to just not answer the call or the message if you're tired and you're not in the mood to talk, which just makes the problem worse. It's also easier to assume what the other person is saying because you can't see their facial expressions or hear them say those words. You have to explain yourself and make things really clear so the fight would end and you'd both be okay. And debating over FaceTime is just not the same.
3 It gets a little lonely most of the time.
Being in a long distance relationship may sometimes feel like nothing has changed because you're still by yourself on most days. You don't get to celebrate all your milestones together, like a simple A+ in your Algebra exam. He won't be there to be your date for prom or graduation ball because he's too far away. Whenever you need someone to talk to, he won't always be there or you have to wait before you get to talk to him.
4 Conversations have to be scheduled.
Communication isn't always easy, because you're not in the same place or worse, you're in different time zones. It's not easy to just call him and talk about the normal stuff. Sometimes he'll be too tired to talk or you're too exhausted to stay up late and tell him about your day because you've had so much to do in school.
5 You have to follow a schedule most of the time.
Most things have to be planned. You have to set dates and even a specific time just to be able to go online at the same time. What's even sadder is if you missed the planned schedule, because then you'll have to wait a few more hours and sometimes even days to get to talk to him again.
6 The future.
The crucial point is when you both talk about the future or even just think of the future. What happens when you go to college or graduate from college? Who has to move and who has to leave? What compromises and sacrifices should be made? Are both of you ready to give up a huge part of your lives to be with the other person? You have gotten so used to being apart that you fear being together and being in one place will cause your relationship to fall apart.
7 Trust will always be an issue.
But the biggest problem is probably trusting that the other person won't go behind your back and hurt you. That like you, he's also a hundred percent in the relationship. That he won't go around looking for someone to talk to and share his moments with. And sometimes, even you fear that you won't be able to handle the distance. That you'd go looking for someone else.
But the beautiful thing about being in a long distance relationship? Once you see each other, you know every single tear and pain and trouble you had to go through was worth it. Seeing him is like seeing him for the first time again, making you savor each minute, each hour you get to spend together no matter how long or short they may be.
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5 Mystery-Thriller Novels to Read
If you’re stuck at home and out of Netflix shows to binge-watch, then you might want to try and read these mystery-thriller books to match your homemade Dalgona Coffee.
1. The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides
The debut novel, and Goodreads Choice Awards Best Mystery & Thriller of 2019, follows Alicia Berenson, a well-known painter married to an esteemed fashion photographer. Life seemed perfect for Alicia, until one evening when she shot her husband five times, and… never spoke again.
2. Lock Every Door by Riley Sager
From the author of Final Girls comes this page turning novel about an infamous building in Manhattan called the Bartholomew. After stumbling upon an ad to become an apartment sitter, Jules Larsen has set out to look after apartment 12A under strict and somewhat odd conditions. Not long after stepping foot in the building, Jules has been met with unfriendly tenants, eerie noises in the apartment unit, and an abrupt departure of a fellow sitter named Ingrid.
3. The Sun Down Motel by Simone St. James
If you loved Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho or David Lynch’s Twin Peaks, then this book is for you. After the disappearance of her Aunt Vivian while working as a night-shift clerk at the Sun Down Motel in 1982, Carly has set off to Fell NY, to work the same job at the same place as her Aunt had 35 years ago – with hopes of uncovering the truth lurking behind the Motel walls.
4. Verity by Colleen Hoover
While known for Young-Adult Novels such as Slammed and Maybe Someday, Colleen Hoover offers readers a romantic thriller about Lowen Ashleigh, a struggling author who was given the opportunity to finish the three remaining novels of a successful series after its original author, Verity Crawford, suffered an accident and has become immobile. After receiving an invite at the Crawford manor to sort through Verity’s notes, Lowen discovers an unpublished autobiography revealing the truth about Verity. With the eerie atmosphere of having Verity confined in her own home, and who is seemingly aware of her surroundings, Lowen is certain Verity is not what she appears to be.
5. Dark Matter by Blake Crouch
A mind-bending science fiction thriller from the best-selling author of Wayward Pines – Dark Matter is packed with the concept of the Multiverse and the philosophy of existentialism. The novel follows an ordinary Physics professor, Jason Dessen, who was looking forward to dinner with his family while walking the streets of Chicago. The next thing he knew, he was being held at gunpoint – by a man wearing a mask – and injected with an unknown drug and blacks out. When he regains consciousness, he learns that the world he woke up to was different from the world he knew.
Here's a poem I wrote a while back reflecting on what it's like over-rationalize a simple thing like crushing on a dude -- hence, the title "Scientific Method"
You were a phenomenon I cannot wrap my head around
When I first met you, my heart forgot to make its signature sound
And it's overwhelming, your presence;
And underwhelming, so science will be the only language I'll hide in-- For now.
At first glance, I notice your top button unbuttoned,
and your shirt fully cotton
Complete with a smile as nervous as me
And a swagger in your step only I can see
Further on, I find your wit to be at a pace
That doesn't leave any space for tension to rise
and it's all too nice
And ridiculous and a bit too suspicious
That this isn't another (well,) circus.
Now, let's take a wild guess,
Oh, but it has to be smart, yes,
That this could lead to something with potential
That this isn't another differential easily solved
With a formula, tried and tested but never evolved
For so long, we've both been independent of any dependent
Keeping our variables fixed and ourselves distracted
With anything, everything,
But not a single thing
Could stop me from pushing this blindly to find its threshold,
Hoping that it's a quantity my hands could still hold
Over hours, days, and weeks
Through minor revisions and tweaks
Then comes the analysis -- that these weren't accidents
So, now I find myself in a conundrum
With the anomaly in a blue shirt right in front of me,
That this had to be processed logically,
But the findings are as follows:
None of which were shallow, so I therefore conclude that it's true,
I therefore conclude that it's you.
Mi Luna: The Light in My Dark Soul Locked in… Alone…
Why do I feel comforted by darkness? Oh cause maybe because… I am a jolly and very enthusiast kid back then. All I know is to have fun, laugh and play. But as I grow older, everything has changed, a lot. I can feel the changes. I know the more I get older, I’m turning to something I’m not. You know what, I just realized I like it even more. And that’s how I turned a monster. A monster to my own self. Always questioning life and even God about the things that are happening with my life. “Do I deserve this?”. Every day was a struggle. “Which mask should I wear now?”. And every night is my judgement time. “Should I still continue with my miserable life?”. This certainly sum up my whole life. I have this mindset since I was young. I can say that my experiences made me like this. I always want to escape, but every time I tried to pick up myself up, there is always shits that pulls me down. And there, I get tired. Hoping that no one would ever see this. As I despise myself as well. What I can do now is to just embraced everything, I just embraced darkness- reflecting my own self.
“Look at the moon, it can shine alone and it can give us light at night.” A line I was keeping in my mind that a friend of mine helps me realize things and been there to fix my path. And there I started seeking for my moon but I do not know which part should I start. As days passed, I started to open up myself. I started to act as what truly inside me. It is very hard at first and there is this time that even the situation got worst. But as I continue exploring with my life, a question pop out on my head “Why did I still get this far?”, I can say that maybe I should do this, maybe I really can do this but it is myself who is holding me back because I’m afraid.
Now as far as I am trying to revive my soul, there I know that many people care. Yes, I learned to open up but not to all, on different situations there are people who can understand me because they have the same situation as I am. I learn to open up as long as they did not force me. I learned to navigate and open up for whom I trusted and at the same time when I am ready. The light that I am seeking is my own understanding and acceptance about myself. My light is myself and I am Mi Luna. So it is not too late to save myself. I have thought that, I should be a survivor and winner. That I should also be the ruler of my own mind and soul. Eliminate the room for darkness and let the light shine through you, that I can say how I earned myself again. Mi Luna’s darkness have turned to spotlight.
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