7 Girls on What They Had to Go Through to Move On from Their Exes
If you think moving on from an ex is only a matter of choice, then wait until you read these girls' stories on what it took and how long it took for them to move on from unsuccessful relationships and complicated ex-somethings.
The truth is, no matter how hard you try day after day to choose to let go of what you once had with your ex, looking back at all the memories you made together will make you want to break down on the floor and beg for him to come back to your life once again. It's not an easy journey, yes, but like all journeys, you will finally arrive at your destination and you'll be able to talk about it one day, too.
"I had to let you go. I have decided that I had to lose you, at least until I find myself whole again. But you know what you did? You stayed. I always thought you are mean to do that, but looking back, I saw how you took my hand and became the friend that consoles the brokenhearted one. You have stayed until I have learned to love myself enough, until I have learned that someday, someone will love me the way I deserve to be loved. They say this is a sad feeling, to stay with the person who would never love you more than just a friend. But you know what this taught me? That there is a person who could love you differently. It might not be want you have expected, and yes, it could get painful, but it will be what you would be needing in the end. We may not have ended together, but you have been an important part of my life that your happiness has become my happiness, and my happiness has become yours. So how did I get over this unrequited love? I didn't. I simply embraced that at some point in our lives, we will come across someone who is meant to love us in a different way, and yes, it will be beautiful." —Ish
"So how did I get over this unrequited love? I didn't. I simply embraced that at some point in our lives, we will come across someone who is meant to love us in a different way, and yes, it will be beautiful."
"People say that moving on is one of the most painful experiences you could ever deal with in life and for me, it took a thousand buckets of tears before I can finally scream and sing Ashley Tisdale's 'It's alright, I'm okay, I'm so much better without you...' Every day was a struggle. Some days, I was fine while I cried on the other days thinking about how happy I was when I was still with him. Sappy love songs served as my voice when I couldn't say anything. I even did some desperate acts just to win him over only to find out how much of a loser I was for doing those thing. But those days of emptiness and despair that I honestly thought would never end came to a close, too. After a while, I realized how much I've learned since the day he left me. It's such a cliche, but I had built a better version of me when he was gone so I really don't regret anything at all looking back." —Jade
"It took me one and a half years, a week of spending time alone in a far away, unfamiliar province which I had never been to before with no mobile phone, no extra cash, and no one to talk to, a couple of bus trips from one station to another without alighting from the bus, and spontaneous visits to friends and relatives who I haven't seen for the longest time before I realized that I have actually moved on. Now, I'm able to laugh at all the crazy things I did to get over him." —Shyne
"The entire process of moving on and getting over your ex is like a rollercoaster ride. At some point, you'd think you've already moved on, but the realization will hit you hard that you haven't. The process takes a lot of time, effort, and patience to let go of a past relationship, be it a long-term or a short-lived romance. Honestly, it took me over a year to finally say that I have moved on from my past lover. It was a difficult and long journey, yet a meaningful one. I discovered a lot of things about myself along the way, which made me a better and stronger person. It doesn't mean that the longer it took you to move on from your ex, the weaker you are. Healing is not a race that you need to get to the finish line first. Everyone copes differently from everything, so there's nothing to rush. Take your time and make sure that you rebuild yourself again. Moving on is tough, nevertheless it is a process that will turn you into an upgraded version of yourself." —Nase
"Take your time and make sure that you rebuild yourself again. Moving on is tough, nevertheless it is a process that will turn you into an upgraded version of yourself."
"I didn't have a single idea why he left. Many words were left unspoken and well-meaning thoughts were left undelivered. I wasn't able to work well. I committed mistakes that put my work at risk. I was just so down that everyone started to notice it, too. So I diverted my attention to traveling. I went to Sagada, but that didn't help. I went to Bantayan, but my pain just got worse. Even mountains and beaches just won't feel the pain I've been going through. I eventually learned to love myself more and gave attention to those who are worth my love instead. Now, I don't even bother to stalk him on social media, realizing that our almosts really don't deserve any chance at all. I deserve more." —Rare
"It took me eight months and 4000 miles away from him just to move. I decided to move back to the Philippines to mend my broken heart. But I have no regrets. I actually thank him for breaking my heart because through the heartbreak, I learned to love myself and got the courage to travel on my own." —Belle
"I actually thank him for breaking my heart because through the heartbreak, I learned to love myself and got the courage to travel on my own."
"It took me two years to get over a four-year relationship. The first year was the hardest because I had to say hello to all our meaningful dates alone for the very first time—his birthday, my birthday, our anniversary and monthly anniversaries, etc. I gave myself one year to wallow, to feel the pain, to breakdown. Then I promised the next year will be for me, for my self-rediscovery, for doing all the things I couldn't do when we were still together, for spending time on my faith like I used to do before he came. By the middle of the second year, I found myself trying to remember when I last cried or when I last thought of him. It was only through prayers and learning to trust in the grace of God again and His plans again that I was able to fully let go. Now, I still get a little sad when I remember him again, but I genuinely wish him well on whatever it is he's doing." —Marie