5 Ways You Should Never Break Up With Someone
Breaking up with someone is a difficult thing to do. There are a lot of feelings involved and if you're the one initiating The Talk, the possibility of hurting another person will keep you wide awake for nights. If only there's a way to lessen the pain, right? The thing is, you can't and there's no way to stop a heart from breaking. The only thing you can do is to at least give the other person some sort of clarity. So for the sake of clarity, don't resort to these things when you want to break up with someone.
1. Through text, call, chat, or a letter. Yes, there's a lot of ways to keep in touch with someone nowadays but that doesn't give you the right to call it quits by using the FB Messenger. Unless you're living in New York and the other person's here in Manila, doing the breakup online or via a heartfelt letter just isn't right. Do it in person and talk him through it. At least be there to hold his hand and share his feelings even for the last time.
2. Going all MIA after X days of dating. Whether you were just dating or you were official, have the decency to tell him in person that you're calling it off. Don't leave him hanging on to any amount of hope that you'll get back to your senses and everything between the two of you will be fine again. The other person's going to get it soon, yes, but don't you think stringing him along and letting him chase you for answers is just wrong?
3. Cheating with someone. While this is a surefire way to have the other person split up with you, it's also damaging. The situation will just lead to more questions, like "Why did you do it?" or "Is something wrong with me?" There's a chance that the other person's going to blame himself for the cheating and that's just not fair. If you feel trapped and you want to be left alone, don't go looking for comfort in someone else's arms. Gather up the courage and tell the other person what's wrong.
4. During a date. Don't give the other person false hopes. If you planned the "date" or the meeting to talk about ending your relationship, tell him beforehand. It's just cruel to allow him to savor dinner and laugh during your conversations then shut him down in the end.
5. Publicly. Isn't this supposed to be common sense? You won't know how the other person is going to react to a painful situation, so do it somewhere the 2 of you can be left alone.
The thing you should remember when breaking up with someone is that you should aim to give them a good memory of your relationship at least. It's already difficult to face the breakup itself, and when you do it in such a merciless way, the scars will be deeper and will take a longer time to heal.
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.