The 5 Types of Relationships That Are Bound To Fall Apart
When we get into a relationship, we really don't know what we sign up for entirely. We don't know if things will work out between us and our bae. We just hope that somehow, we'll make it through. However, there are moments when certain signs present themselves early on in the relationship—signs that will tell you that at some point, what you're trying to save will eventually fall apart. Read on to find out if you're in one of these types of relationships and if maybe, it's time you sit down and talk with your boyfriend about it to know if you both have to let things go for now or if there's anything worth saving.
A relationship that started off with lies.
It could be a relationship that began because you both cheated on someone or one of you got into it while they were still with somebody else. Sure, people change, but you have to know that trust is also the foundation of the relationship. If he can do it to another person, what makes you so sure that he can't do it to you?ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
A relationship where you care more.
There's a reason why relationships involve two people; this means you both have to work on the relationship together. But if you're the only one who does this most of the time and if you have to constantly remind your bae that he should be in this with you, what's the point? He'll just get used to taking what you give and you'll just get used to giving what he's willing to receive from you, which can get exhausting and less rewarding in the end.
A relationship where all you do is try to save and change him.
What are you even? A martyr? Kidding. On a serious note, know that no one can go out of the current state they're in unless the decision comes from them alone. Save your energy and your heart. He won't change and get out of the rut he's in for you unless he personally decides that he wants to.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
A relationship where you're more in love with what you get out of it than the person you're with.
Don't be a user. Being in a relationship with someone means you're willing to give and take. If you're just expecting to take and take and take whatever it is that's handed to you without giving something in return, please let go of the person. It's unfair to them that all you do is wait for them to hand everything to you on a silver platter.
A relationship you just settled for because sayang naman.
If you're just in the relationship because you think no one else will love you the way you think you're supposed to be loved, or if you're staying with him just because it would be a waste to let go of your precious time and moments together, then stop and think about things for a while. Re-evaluate your feelings and your thoughts and ask yourself if you really see something in this person that makes you want to stay. Trust us, someone will love you the way you should be loved.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.