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Blocking someone on your social media accounts is a common practice when someone is moving on from a failed relationship. It's like you're attempting to totally delete the other person from your life. If you aren't updated with what he's doing, then you'll find it easier to let him go because then he'll become a mere stranger to you. But what happens if you are on the receiving end of the blocking off process? What do you go through? Yes, it's a whirlwind of emotions and struggles, too, whether you believe it or not.
You no longer know what he's up to.
You won't know if he's having it hard like you or if he's busy with something else. You won't know what new book he's reading or what new songs he's added to his playlist. Most of all, you won't know when he's finally moved on from you (or when he finally got a new girlfriend). In short, you won't be able to stalk him anymore. Sorry.
You'll find ways to keep yourself updated.
First, you'll look at the profiles of your common friends if they happen to have uploaded a few things about him. If you aren't satisfied with that, you'll look at accounts of his own set of friends and hope that they've left some of the deets related to him on their profiles public. If those things aren't enough for you, you'll proceed to getting the help of Google and search for their names or usernames online. Your sleuthing skills will be put to good use.
You'll ask your common friends about him.
Or at least do that without sounding too desperate for information. You'll ask them once they've mentioned his name or mentioned something that's related to him. You'll try and control the way you make your inquiries because once they know you've been blocked, it will be another matter you have to discuss and they'll have to discuss behind your back.
You'll get lucky sometimes and obtain much-needed information about him.
And most of the time, it's the kind of information you wish you didn't really know. Like what? Like knowing that he has a new girlfriend and that they've been together a week or a month after you broke up, for example. You remind yourself after that you should really stop stalking him (and his new girl) because it's going to be bad for you.
You'll realize that you're so tired of stalking him.
Finally. Slow claps and a round of applause for you, girl. In a few days, weeks, or months, you'll eventually get tired of trying to spy on his latest adventures. You'll do it lesser and lesser as the days pass by because, come on, you have your own life to get busy with. You'll still feel a little hurt hearing about him from your common friends because you used to know every single thing he feels, thinks, and does before, but now you've become strangers to each other. You won't be completely okay with the whole situation, but you know in your heart you're going to be fine.
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