5 Real Girls Spill Why They Are Afraid of Commitments

It's not always easy to give your heart to another person.
by Ayessa De La Peña   |  Oct 7, 2016
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Once you become official with someone, you're also entrusting your heart to him. You're trusting his word that he'll never intentionally hurt you and leave you hanging. It means you're willing to spend your time and resources on him and on making the relationship work.

However, not all people are okay with this setup. There are a ton of people everywhere who are also scared of commiting to someone and spending so much time with them. Why is this so? Read the answers of five girls we've interviewed below.

"I've never had a boyfriend and I've always been curious on what it's like to be in a relationship. Yet this uncertainty that it might not last long like what I expected scares me. I'm afraid that something's wrong with the guy or that we'd just get tired of each other along the way. It's something I want yet something I'm afraid of at the same time. But as they say, you'll never know unless you try. I'm still hoping to be in one somehow and hopefully, it's going to last." —R

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I'm afraid that something's wrong with the guy or that we'd just get tired of each other along the way.

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"I am not really that afraid of commitments. It's just that at this point in my life, I know that I'm not yet ready to be in a relationship because commitments are supposed to last a lifetime. I think I'm just scared of being with the wrong person." —Sarah

"It's true that a devastating hearbreak will make you put strong walls around you, and I guess that's what happened to me. When you commit to someone, it's either you're all in or you're all out. I'm just done investing my time and feelings on the wrong person, and I'm just too careful for the next one." —Marie

When you commit to someone, it's either you're all in or you're all out.

"It's not that I am afraid. It's just that I'm having a blast at being single right now. Finding myself and making myself whole is a solo adventure I need to take on my own to truly appreciate who I am—not owing anyone anything to make me happy, fulfilled, and at peace. But who am I kidding, maybe I'm really just afraid of another heartbreak that's why I'm not taking the plunge yet. Aren't we all afraid to open up to someone completely only to end up disappointed and hurt?" —Emjay

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Aren't we all afraid to open up to someone completely only to end up disappointed and hurt?

"I wouldn't want to enter a relationship where I might end up wasting resources like time and money on the wrong person. It's not that I'm afraid, sometimes I'm just practical." —Samantha

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Ayessa De La Peña
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I am Candymag.com's resident fangirl and ~*feelings*~ girl. When I'm not busy researching about what to write next on the website, I sleep, read books, and re-watch episodes of Friends.
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