Arguments between couples are normal and usually essential to a healthy and thriving relationship. However, if the little things start to build up and you find yourself wondering if he really is the one for you, think and pause for a while before making up your mind. It's not healthy to keep threatening to break up with your partner and you don't want to get stuck in an on-again, off-again relationship. So before you make hasty decisions you might regret later on, here are some things you should consider:
1. Am I just angry?
Some breakups are triggered by fights or situations that happened in the spur of the moment, and while those instances are sometimes necessary, it's best to avoid them whenever possible. It's not enough to breakup out of anger, especially when your emotions tend to cloud your judgment. Wait until you've had enough time to cool down before assessing your relationship. Remember, it's better to listen to a clear head than an angry heart.
2. Is there another way to communicate my issues?
It's always important to talk about the little issues you have before they get blown out of proportion. If you find it hard to reach a compromise, it could be because you explain things the way you want to as opposed to finding ways to make your partner understand your concerns. Sometimes, when people feel overwhelmed, they run away from the problem instead of facing it head on. Observe how he explains his side to get better ideas on how to be better understood yourself.
3. Am I being influenced by others?
Do you have friends or family members who keep on coercing you to dump your guy? Their persistency may be caused by two things: they see something you don't (like red flags) or they have selfish reasons for pushing you to leave him. No matter how grown up you are, the people around you will always have something to say about your relationships. If you really love your man but your folks aren't happy about it, talk to them and tell them how you feel—same goes with your friends.
4. Do I rely on him too much for my needs?
If you're only staying because you "need" him, then maybe you should reconsider why you're in a relationship in the first place.
5. Is this a problem I'll face again in my future relationships?
If you're only breaking up with someone because you're tired of hearing about mistakes you keep repeating anyway, then focus on self-improvement instead. Don't go looking for someone who will accept your flaws for the sake of avoiding arguments. Your relationship should help you grow to become a better person.
Every experience you go through in life leaves you with a lesson. Always remember to see the good and positive in every situation. If you do decide to breakup, don’t wallow in self-pity for too long. You're better than that! And besides, Mr. Right could be right around the corner.
This story originally appeared on Femalenetwork.com.
* Minor edits have been made by the Candymag.com editors.