5 Myths About What Boys Want Busted!
MYTH BUSTER #1: THIN IS IN
"I wouldn't want a girl to look like Kim Chiu. She looks so fragile, she might break if I hold her hand!" —Marcus, 16
The issue of weight really holds little, well, weight when it comes to beauty. What matters more to guys is an issue of health. There's a difference between a girl who's a little chubby and one bordering on obese. But the true misconception is that guys are attracted to stick-thin, waif-like girls. The truth is that these models and IT girls who seem to skip to and from eating disorders are not the subject of guys' fantasies. They're not our dream girls. They're yours. These stylish starlets are the toast of the fashion crowd, being heralded for their designer duds and must-have bags. But they're not babes because they're in Balenciaga! Any guy would choose the healthy physique of the curvaceous Beyoncé Knowles over a skeletal model. So the next time you hesitate to take another bite of apple crumble, don't! You might just find a guy to share it with.
MYTH BUSTER #2: DAMSEL IN DISTRESSED JEANS
"Girls who are too clingy and needy can be pretty irritating." —Gio, 17
Guys like to take care of girls. It's completely natural that a boy would pay special attention to the apple of his eye, showering her with love and attention. This only becomes a problem when the girl expects too much, all the time. It's cute when a girl wants to be with a guy and coos for attention, but the moment she's stuck like glue, her loving arms begin to resemble the tightening grip of a python. Girls who are too needy, to put it plainly, are a bummer. It's the era of the independent woman, which means that you can pretty much do anything you like and pursue your own interests. In fact, guys are more attracted to girls with their own passions. It makes girls seem more appealing and fascinating. And let's face it, guys have short attention spans-making them work for your attention and presence will hold their interest longer.
MYTH BUSTER #3: THE PERFECT DREAM GIRL
"Guys want to keep it real. We want girls who are genuine, and the popular bunch isn't always the best place to find them." —Oliver, 18
It may seem that all guys drool over the same type of girl: the popular, beautiful chick on campus. However, what girls may not know is that while the cheerleader or prom queen may be the ultimate eye candy, most guys would keep it at just that...something pretty to look at. The truth is that save for a few guys who crave the thrill of the hunt, boys don't want to chase after a dream, especially one that is shared by almost every other male around them. Guys can be possessive, and this may be manifested in not wanting to have a girlfriend that other guys are ogling. Also, guys are easily discouraged, and despite the resistant and seemingly confident stance, they need some encouragement. The unattainable girl is likely to show little hope, and that can be damaging to a guy's oh-so-fragile ego. So even if you may not be drop-dead gorgeous, it doesn't mean you have to lose out to the supermodels of the batch. Showing interest and being approachable are sure-fire ways of getting a guy's attention.
"If you want to be respected, then dress with self-respect." -Luke, 19
Yes, guys do like a girl to look pretty. Actually, we'd like them to look pretty darn fantastic. But looking like a bombshell is very different from looking like a stripper. If Destiny Child's "Nasty Girl" video taught us anything, it's that a girl who is overtly raunchy can be as unattractive as a toad. Though it may seem like most guys go for scantily clad babes, truth be told, the classy girls are the ones the boys take home to their mothers. Decent doesn't mean boring. What it does mean is you've figured out who you are and are simply expressing your natural beauty. Dress how you want to be treated.
MYTH BUSTER #5: ALL YOU NEED ARE LOOKS
"Some girls think that guys are all about appearances. I find that insulting. We're a lot deeper than most girls give us credit for." —Gian, 20
Girls aren't the only ones who can relate to Shania Twain's "That Don't Impress Me Much." Guys find it unfair when they are accused of being all about appearances. Of course it helps if all girls had perfect figures, flawless skin, silky hair, and luscious Angelina Jolie lips, but I'm sure girls also secretly wish that every guy were a walking Brad Pitt! The truth is, beneath all the comments that guys make about hot chicks, what we want most is to be loved and respected. If a guy is treated well and valued for who he is, that is enough to win him over. In reality, pretty girls are actually a dime a dozen, but good-hearted girls who are loyal, faithful, and respectful are harder to find than you may think.
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.