5 Awkward Moments That Happen on a First Date and How to Deal

First dates exist to remind us that deep down, we're all just awkward human beings.
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 1  The Awkward Silence


It's like a first date rite of passage. It is completely normal but awkward silence is still, well, awkward. You both could have just met, or you have met but this is your first time being alone together. You have this fear of saying the wrong thing and scare him off.

How to deal: Chances are, he's pretty nervous too and feels the exact same way that's why silence is coming from both ends. Don't overanalyze, act how you normally would around friends, and don't put up this fake image of how you want him to see you because facades can only last for so long. 

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 2  Over-sharing

Another problem aside from not saying enough is probably saying too much. Before you could stop yourself, you blurt the first thing that comes to your mind without even thinking. 

How to deal: It's okay. If you do end up over-sharing, just bounce back. Stop yourself from going into detail about your past five hamsters and your borderline psychotic ex. Some things you should just save for the fourth or fifth date, or you know, never. 


 3  Etiquette and Manners

Of course I still believe in chivalry—the whole opening-the-door thing and how when the clock strikes 12 and you leave your shoe, he must go all over town to return it to you and live happily ever after, but I do believe in women making gestures too. 

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How to deal: Reach out for the bill. Carry your own bag. Don't make him wait 30 minutes while you touch up your makeup in the bathroom.

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 4  The Set-up Situation

So your mutual friends think you guys would be soooo good together and you kind of owe them so you go anyway, even if it's against your will. However, when you actually get there, it's awkward and you don't know what to say.

How to deal: Don't think about the whole set-up situation so much. I mean, there must be a reason why your friends think you guys would be good together. Talk about mutual interests, hobbies, and how you totally hate your friends for doing this even when you're actually secretly thanking them for it. 


 5  So What Was Your Last Relationship Like?

The most cringe-worthy question to date—the answer you give is completely 50/50. If you say that it ended badly, he might think there's something wrong with you. If you say that it ended well, he might think you're lying and do some research behind your back.

How to deal: Be honest without giving unnecessary details. If it ended badly, then say that it wasn't the best relationship you could've been in but don't turn it into a ranting session about how awful your ex was. He doesn't need to know that your fight that happened on the 5th of May at exactly 7:42PM. If it ended well, then say that it was the best decision for  the both of you and that you guys were just headed in different directions.  Don't go bragging about how awesome your ex is either, it's going to make it seem like you're still hung up on him.


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A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender

Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.

Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.

It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.

Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"

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