4 Ways to Be Approachable When Meeting a New Guy
Let's admit it; meeting someone for the first time can be nerve-racking—especially if it's a guy. Of course, you want to make a good impression on him. But sometimes, your actions may be different to the message you want to come across. If you and your friends are planning to go out this weekend in hopes of meeting new people (and a few cute boys), here are a few tips that could help you break the barrier.
Mind your body language.
Imagine this scenario: You're at a party with your girl friends, and you keep wondering why no one bothers to talk to you. It may be because of your body language. They say "actions speak louder than words", and you may be conveying a message to the people around you even without saying a word. Author Vanessa Van Edwards say there are certain types of body languages that can come off to guys as "I don't want to be bothered" such as turning your torso away from them, blocking them with your purse or a drink, or simply maintaining a not-so-friendly face. If you're up to meeting new guys, the simplest thing you can do to look approachable is to smile!
There's nothing more attractive than a girl who radiates confidence and can totally be herself. A girl who knows how to have fun with her friends and exudes positivity and happiness is someone any guy would love to talk to and keep company. Start with a smile and try to make eye contact—these are some of the simplest non-verbal way of letting someone know that you're there to mingle and make friends.
Stylist and image consultant Barbara Aleks Hecht says that confidence can make you a whole lot interesting. "Confident people seem to know what they want and are not afraid to ask for it or go after it. Nor are they afraid to express themselves." She also adds that people with a sense of ease is also quite appealing.
Stay focused on friendship...
...and not on a potential relationship. Having to impress someone just because you see them as a future lover can put unnecessary stress on the first meeting. Let the conversation run smoothly and stop thinking (or daydreaming) about the possibilities of this guy being your next boyfriend. If you have a different agenda in mind, it'll show in your body language (see first point) and this could determine whether he'll want to keep the convo going or just stop and walk away.
Being genuine is essential to being likeable—no one wants to be stuck with someone who's fake. You'll likely be more approachable if you've established a reputation of being true to yourself and to others since people gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. So, stay authentic and always tell the truth—and you would want them to do the same, too.